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3 day suspension for having phone out in school

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TooBored1 · 25/06/2025 17:17

Would you think this was reasonable?

For context my DC's school is consulting on going phone free - pupils will have to put their phone into a lockable pouch when they enter school. They will be subject to random bag checks, and if your phone is not in the locked pouch, or if you are caught using it, there will be an automatic 3 day suspension.

Overall, I'm in favour of going phone free, but I think the punishment is too much, especially as it is harsher than that given for fighting/bullying or disrupting lessons.

I also don't think it will prevent cyber bullying, as, as experienced by both my children, this happens in the evening, rather than during the day.

The punishment is ok - your are being unreasonable
The punishment is not ok - you are not being unreasonable

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BCBird · 27/06/2025 14:19

Think it nonsense school having to purchase pouches. Phones in bags and not fetched out on school.premises. Phone out= phones confiscated. Phones cause so much issues in schools

TizerorFizz · 27/06/2025 14:19

@TooBored1 How do parents in a school do that? What mechanisms do you have to ensure any consultation is actually done at all? None. You are not at work and schools often take little notice of consultations if they don’t want to. Parents have little or no influence and, guess what, you won’t all agree. As here some with think 3 days is just fine.

Ive already said I misread the op. Apologies

Bringinguptherear · 27/06/2025 14:16

I can see the rationale for having a high stakes sanction - temptation to break the rules is probably high (kids literally addicted to phones) and chances of getting away with it (sneakily checking your phone at break) also quite high. So a 3 day exclusion really demonstrates that however tempting and however easy it would be to break the rule, you don’t want to go there.

PerspicaciaTick · 27/06/2025 14:12

Schools tie themselves in knots. One minute making an unholy fuss about dental and medical appointments and the irreversible harm missing a half day session has on education. Next minute handing out 3 day suspensions left and right.

lilkitten · 27/06/2025 13:58

I've no problem with the no-phone rule (as long as it also applies to staff, to set a good example) but 3 days is too much. Perhaps it would help if they would show the sanction list so it is possible to compare against other sanctions - if this is a parent consultation, I would ask them to share that information. A detention would make sense. Our school currently just tells you off for having it out, and it's taken until a parent collects it, though tbf there's not much you can do with a phone there as it's in the middle of nowhere with no available signal, so the worst they could do is probably take photos.

TooBored1 · 27/06/2025 11:16

Tessasanderson · 27/06/2025 10:28

Who cares how long the punishment is for. It pretty much irrelevant. A school is trying to ensure they are phone free and need to make it black and white.

Stop undermining the principle of having a rule and live with the consequences. Tell your child it is zero tolerance and get used to it. Bravo to your childs school

Of course the punishment is relevant and should be proportional to the infraction. You have protections from unjust punishments in your day to day and working life; children deserve the same too.

The question of what IS proportional was the question I posed and I am very open to others having a different view.

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TooBored1 · 27/06/2025 11:11

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 26/06/2025 22:26

Thank you everyone, this has been highly illuminating, not least because I am shocked at how many people don't believe it is the right/duty of a parent to enter into a reasonable, respectful dialogue with school over rules, policies and punishments.

You are within your rights to contact them about it, but they absolutely don't have to take any notice of your opinion. They certainly don't have to have a dialogue with you about it. They decide their rules. You can vote with your feet if you don't like their rules.

Please RTT. There is no other option, the MAT controls the education of 16,000 children in my area.

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TooBored1 · 27/06/2025 11:09

TizerorFizz · 26/06/2025 23:11

@TooBored1 He’s been given 3 days off for something though! I assume not obeying instructions?

You also don’t understand consultations. You don’t get a say! They just read what the respondents reply to probably very general questions. They might inform the policy but I doubt it. It’s likely the same policy will be in all the Mats schools so what chance have your views got? None.

There is already a behaviour policy with sanctions. They must have one because it’s a legal requirement. They have applied this - probably unfairly. It’s not linked to a phone policy specifically (they don’t have one) but it’s going to set out expected behaviour and punishment for not meeting expectations. I assume you have read it.

You are getting a flavour of what the new phone policy will be but the behaviour policy, and sanctions within it, will take precedence over the phone policy when it comes to punishment. Ultimately the sanctions policy is applied by the head regarding suspensions and the reason can be what behaviour they deem unacceptable. So taking the phone out, when the request is not to, is a behaviour breach. Although, in my view, and yours, a minor one.

Such a great shame your schools have been taken over by learning factories staffed by robots.

No they haven't! No child of mine has ever been suspended. Please go back and read the OP.

And as a person who regularly facilitates consultations in my job, I do understand how consultation should work. I do agree with you that they don't always work properly but it is incumbent on parents to (respectfully) ensure that a proper consultation is carried out.

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Needmorelego · 27/06/2025 10:50

LoveLifeBeHappy · 27/06/2025 10:43

Children have been travelling to and from school without the need for mobile phones before the technology even existed.

Yes but back in the day there were public phone boxes and buses accepted cash.
Now both of those are rare.
Children also used to mostly go to their nearest school. That also doesn't happen now. Many are travelling for miles.

LoveLifeBeHappy · 27/06/2025 10:43

Needmorelego · 27/06/2025 10:23

Not IN school but many need them for getting to and from school.
Which is why schools shouldn't ban them from being in school completely but they should be switched off and in the child's bag.

Children have been travelling to and from school without the need for mobile phones before the technology even existed.

Tessasanderson · 27/06/2025 10:28

Who cares how long the punishment is for. It pretty much irrelevant. A school is trying to ensure they are phone free and need to make it black and white.

Stop undermining the principle of having a rule and live with the consequences. Tell your child it is zero tolerance and get used to it. Bravo to your childs school

porridgecake · 27/06/2025 10:25

My DD's school made it very clear in all the pre-admission paperwork and the HT's talk that phones were permitted in school, but if any member of staff heard or saw it, it would be confiscated and kept under lock and key until a parent came in person, in school hours, by appointment to collect it. It worked very well.

Needmorelego · 27/06/2025 10:23

LoveLifeBeHappy · 27/06/2025 10:18

This.

Do kids need phones in schools? I understand it's a new phenomenon and the norm nowadays, but young children really don't need phones in schools.

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Not IN school but many need them for getting to and from school.
Which is why schools shouldn't ban them from being in school completely but they should be switched off and in the child's bag.

LoveLifeBeHappy · 27/06/2025 10:18

Needmorelego · 25/06/2025 17:20

It's not a complicated rule.
Switched off, in pouch and in your bag out of sight.
3 days may seem extreme but how hard is it follow that rule?

This.

Do kids need phones in schools? I understand it's a new phenomenon and the norm nowadays, but young children really don't need phones in schools.

TizerorFizz · 27/06/2025 10:07

@PansyPotter84 The punishment here is 3 days exclusion. You have cited detention. Vastly different. What do you think of 3 days exclusion? Proportionate and reasonable or not?

PansyPotter84 · 27/06/2025 10:01

Not unreasonable at all.

My sister is a secondary teacher.

Until they implemented a similar ban on phones being seen out or ringing, the kids were getting uncontrollable and distracted.

Bullying was becoming rife with kids filming each other and teachers and the videos being put online.

There was also sexting, dick pics and upskirting going on.

The school went nuclear to cure all this and it has worked.

The punishment is detention plus the phone is confiscated until the end of the week and has to be collected by parent or guardian.

It’s the only way to stop kids being distracted from learning.

primejanicedean · 27/06/2025 05:50

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TizerorFizz · 26/06/2025 23:22

@Needmorelego I stand corrected. The phone policy must be tied into the sanctions policy though. And yes, 3 days is ludicrous if it’s a first offence. They cannot have separate policies for sanctions and essentially, getting the phone out is behaviour.

Needmorelego · 26/06/2025 23:14

@TizerorFizz
"He’s been given 3 days off for something though! I assume not obeying instructions?"

The OPs child hasn't been suspended for 3 days. She says this is the schools potential punishment for using a phone. It's not the rule yet.

TizerorFizz · 26/06/2025 23:11

@TooBored1 He’s been given 3 days off for something though! I assume not obeying instructions?

You also don’t understand consultations. You don’t get a say! They just read what the respondents reply to probably very general questions. They might inform the policy but I doubt it. It’s likely the same policy will be in all the Mats schools so what chance have your views got? None.

There is already a behaviour policy with sanctions. They must have one because it’s a legal requirement. They have applied this - probably unfairly. It’s not linked to a phone policy specifically (they don’t have one) but it’s going to set out expected behaviour and punishment for not meeting expectations. I assume you have read it.

You are getting a flavour of what the new phone policy will be but the behaviour policy, and sanctions within it, will take precedence over the phone policy when it comes to punishment. Ultimately the sanctions policy is applied by the head regarding suspensions and the reason can be what behaviour they deem unacceptable. So taking the phone out, when the request is not to, is a behaviour breach. Although, in my view, and yours, a minor one.

Such a great shame your schools have been taken over by learning factories staffed by robots.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 26/06/2025 22:26

Thank you everyone, this has been highly illuminating, not least because I am shocked at how many people don't believe it is the right/duty of a parent to enter into a reasonable, respectful dialogue with school over rules, policies and punishments.

You are within your rights to contact them about it, but they absolutely don't have to take any notice of your opinion. They certainly don't have to have a dialogue with you about it. They decide their rules. You can vote with your feet if you don't like their rules.

TooBored1 · 26/06/2025 21:44

Thank you everyone, this has been highly illuminating, not least because I am shocked at how many people don't believe it is the right/duty of a parent to enter into a reasonable, respectful dialogue with school over rules, policies and punishments.

My children know they go to school to learn, that they need to follow the rules, be respectful of others and generally be good eggs. They know they will face suitable consequences for not meeting these standards but they also know that I will (appropriately) raise concerns I have with the school.

Do remember, I'm not questioning the need/validity of a phone ban, just querying the proposed punishment.

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TooBored1 · 26/06/2025 21:37

BoudiccaRuled · 26/06/2025 14:34

If my child had been subject to cyber bullying then they would barely have a phone at all. I certainly wouldn't be whingeing about the consequences of them using it against school rules.

Who is whining?

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TooBored1 · 26/06/2025 21:33

TizerorFizz · 26/06/2025 19:00

@SaxaSoLo I think rural parents do have fewer choices but surrounding cities there are towns with schools. You might notice private school parents drive much further to get the best fit school. Even in my rural area, not all parents choose the local school by any means.

And the schools in most surrounding towns are owned by the same MAT -about 16,000 kids all in.

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TooBored1 · 26/06/2025 21:31

Jabberwok · 26/06/2025 19:04

Op (and some posters) you know that if you drink drive you lose your driving licence and receive a fine. We've all be told that, we probably know people that's happened too...but you sound like the person who says " I was only a bit over the limit..it's not fair"
Them's the rules, your boy broke them...if you can't do the time don't commit the crime.

Did you read the OP? None one, least of all my child, has broken a no phone rule. It's not yet in force.

I'm in favour of banning phones in school, my question was is 3 day suspension a sanction commensurate with being found with your phone, when violent attacks don't merit such a punishment.

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