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3 day suspension for having phone out in school

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TooBored1 · 25/06/2025 17:17

Would you think this was reasonable?

For context my DC's school is consulting on going phone free - pupils will have to put their phone into a lockable pouch when they enter school. They will be subject to random bag checks, and if your phone is not in the locked pouch, or if you are caught using it, there will be an automatic 3 day suspension.

Overall, I'm in favour of going phone free, but I think the punishment is too much, especially as it is harsher than that given for fighting/bullying or disrupting lessons.

I also don't think it will prevent cyber bullying, as, as experienced by both my children, this happens in the evening, rather than during the day.

The punishment is ok - your are being unreasonable
The punishment is not ok - you are not being unreasonable

OP posts:
mikado1 · 25/06/2025 17:31

HairyMaclaryInTheDairy · 25/06/2025 17:26

Well... Why can't you just read my post properly? At no point did I say he wasn't.

He hasn't fallen foul of this personally. It's more a general sense that the school isn't preparing kids for the 'real world', unless that's working somewhere like the Amazon warehouse where they're treated like shit for the smallest misdemeanour.

The other school (where my younger ones go) - they confiscate the phone and they have to collect it the next day. If it happens again, the parents have to go and collect the phone. I think this is a better system and doesn't involve them missing education.

And then you'll have parents calling complaining that they are VIPs and can't possibly come to the school to collect and giving grief and abuse to the staff enforcing the rule. Yes, this happens.
Clearly they've gone OTT on the consequence to make sure the students won't even consider it. Phones in pouches done. They are completely unnecessary and only a hindrance during the school day. I'd be thrilled as a parent if I had a school so strong on their policy. Why is it not preparing then for the real world? Don't get this angle. Phones are not ideal for younger students and they're an absolute scourge in schools.

Thistletwo · 25/06/2025 17:30

Sounds good to me.

Meadowfinch · 25/06/2025 17:29

My ds' school already uses the yonder system. It has killed cyber bullying and after the first week or so, everyone stopped moaning and complied. It worked well for us.

Mindyourfinger · 25/06/2025 17:29

LlynTegid · 25/06/2025 17:28

Respond to the consultation, agree I suggest with the pouch etc, just say what you feel a reasonable sanction should be. I don't think the school could keep the phone for a period of time which would be an alternative.

They do, although I must admit I’m never sure how it works in terms of the legalities of the situation.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 25/06/2025 17:29

HairyMaclaryInTheDairy · 25/06/2025 17:26

Well... Why can't you just read my post properly? At no point did I say he wasn't.

He hasn't fallen foul of this personally. It's more a general sense that the school isn't preparing kids for the 'real world', unless that's working somewhere like the Amazon warehouse where they're treated like shit for the smallest misdemeanour.

The other school (where my younger ones go) - they confiscate the phone and they have to collect it the next day. If it happens again, the parents have to go and collect the phone. I think this is a better system and doesn't involve them missing education.

So how is the strict rule not preparing them for the real world? Can’t see how your preferred method prepares them any further, it’s just your preference.

LlynTegid · 25/06/2025 17:28

Respond to the consultation, agree I suggest with the pouch etc, just say what you feel a reasonable sanction should be. I don't think the school could keep the phone for a period of time which would be an alternative.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 25/06/2025 17:27

Simple consequence for a simple rule, and advance warning has been given to get used to it! Fighting and disruption aren’t always as clean cut but if you don’t think they deal with that harshly enough then I’d pursue that with the school separately.

HairyMaclaryInTheDairy · 25/06/2025 17:26

Needmorelego · 25/06/2025 17:21

But why can't your child just follow the phone rules?

Well... Why can't you just read my post properly? At no point did I say he wasn't.

He hasn't fallen foul of this personally. It's more a general sense that the school isn't preparing kids for the 'real world', unless that's working somewhere like the Amazon warehouse where they're treated like shit for the smallest misdemeanour.

The other school (where my younger ones go) - they confiscate the phone and they have to collect it the next day. If it happens again, the parents have to go and collect the phone. I think this is a better system and doesn't involve them missing education.

Dweetfidilove · 25/06/2025 17:25

They're aware of the rules, as are you, so you can remind them.
If the get suspended for not following clearly communicated rules - them the breaks.

5128gap · 25/06/2025 17:23

LadyTable · 25/06/2025 17:20

It's ok as long as they're all aware of the punishment.

If they're not going to break the rule, then it doesn't really matter what the consequence is.

This. Why would you be complaining about a punishment your DC need not ever incur?

Needmorelego · 25/06/2025 17:21

HairyMaclaryInTheDairy · 25/06/2025 17:20

I can believe it, OP. My eldest's school is like this and I elected to send my younger ones elsewhere because of it. I'd consider moving him too, but he's made friends. It's draconian and I can't see how missing three days of education is proportionate.

Edited for grammar.

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But why can't your child just follow the phone rules?

LadyTable · 25/06/2025 17:20

It's ok as long as they're all aware of the punishment.

If they're not going to break the rule, then it doesn't really matter what the consequence is.

Evvyjb · 25/06/2025 17:20

We are a phone free school. It's seen or heard (even if off) it's gone until July.

Works really well!

TooManyCupsAndMugs · 25/06/2025 17:20

If they are telling everyone well in advance what the policy will be and you are going to continue to send them to the school that has this policy, then yes, everyone has to abide by it or face the well publicised consequence. I do think 3 days is a bit much (and it will affect their attendance figures so they may well roll back a bit). The disruption phones cause is off the scale believe me.

HairyMaclaryInTheDairy · 25/06/2025 17:20

I can believe it, OP. My eldest's school is like this and I elected to send my younger ones elsewhere because of it. I'd consider moving him too, but he's made friends. It's draconian and I can't see how missing three days of education is proportionate.

Edited for grammar.

Tulipvase · 25/06/2025 17:20

MeringueOutang · 25/06/2025 17:18

There's got to be more to it than that. Repeated warnings, continued sanctions that have had no effect, responding badly to being told to put it away or hand it over. The devil's in the detail here.

They are consulting on changing the rules.

3 days does sound a bit extreme but they are telling you first. The deterrent has to be enough to actually work.

Needmorelego · 25/06/2025 17:20

It's not a complicated rule.
Switched off, in pouch and in your bag out of sight.
3 days may seem extreme but how hard is it follow that rule?

MeringueOutang · 25/06/2025 17:18

There's got to be more to it than that. Repeated warnings, continued sanctions that have had no effect, responding badly to being told to put it away or hand it over. The devil's in the detail here.