Asking if you took a Ukrainian guest in your home why you want them gone asap?

I think a lot of British people underestimated the cultural differences.

Also it’s not unreasonable to expect the Ukrainians to work, the British hosts were kind enough to offer a home but they shouldn’t have been expected to financially support the guest for extended time also.

I mean, you should work if you can. A place to stay is one thing, but not many people who can offer that can also pay for your food and other necessities.

I think that's fair enough.

I met a young man who was being in my opinion quite picky about work.
He’d been here a while and wasn’t happy with fairly basic jobs- didn’t like the conditions/hours etc.
We all have to work. If we can’t get a better job, we do a basic job to make ends meet while we look. If we don’t like our job we look for another rather than giving up the one we have.

I think hosts will have been unprepared for guests who had leisure time that the host didn’t have, or spending capacity that the host didn’t have, because that’s human nature. We don’t want to give our resources and hospitality to people who are at some level ‘doing better’ than we are.

Some people may want to help... and be able to put a roof over your head but not be able to feed, clothe and pay all your expenses.

Why dont you want to work?

Personally, I know one family who housed a Ukrainian family for about a year and another family who still have 3 Ukrainians living with them two and a half years later. So it’s not all British people. Good luck!

I mean in regards to the job situation, yes you should take any job you can get. That's the standard that British people are held to if they claim benefits so you should be as well.
Also Putin invaded Ukraine 3 years ago. I don't think someone wanting you out as a houseguest after 3 years is being unkind or pushy.

Genuine question because I don't know the answer.

Were the English the only people in the UK to take in Ukrainians?

And if not, were there no problems in Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland OP?

Some English hosts are/were twats, as were some Ukrainian guests.

That's Humans for you.

I suppose some of the people who have the space at home and the kindness to offer to take someone/some people in, can not also afford to financially support the refugees in all other ways. They can offer a home but not everything else free long term. That is understandable, especially in this financial climate. It’s hard for you, though, I can see that.

I live in an area where a fair few people took in Ukrainian people and I agree with a PP that it seems the hosts were financially unprepared. I think they did it out of kindness but then it became apparent that there wasn’t much government support (financial, cultural or practical). And they kind of expected the people to act like a lodger I.E. have a job to pay for groceries, help with bills, help with chores. Rather than being in a position to financially or empathetically take in someone who is traumatised and completely starting over

I think people got swept up in the 'blitz spirit of it all and didn't think about the reality of having a New family living with yours long term

Sorry for your experience, you've been through so much and deserve better x

I am sorry you have had this experience. I know of several families who took in Ukrainians and this wasn't the case. I do think part of it may be though because people volunteered out of kindness, but maybe were unprepared for the distinct lack of financial support from the government in helping with this situation, and then the cost of living sky-rocketed for English people. So maybe the English hosts found themselves to be not coping financially as well as they thought they would.

I'm not in the UK, but live somewhere which has also had a lot of Ukrainians come to live. I can't speak for your individual situation, and I'm sorry this happened, but judging by neighbours and friends who have or had Ukrainian guests living with them for much longer periods, I think some of it was just cultural differences or the strain of having longterm houseguests, many of whom were also understandably traumatised. That, obviously, doesn't excuse someone making you unwelcome after a week. Can you talk to your host?

Probably not helped by the fact that there are Ukrainians who have come over and immediately started working. That is a stereotype of Ukrainian people, that they just get on with it.

I’m so sorry that you’ve been treated this way. Many British would not have been in a position to host someone from Ukraine and I feel awful that the hosts would treat you this way.
Im not sure of the legality but if the host wants you gone, will your local council be able to help?