Let me know what you think…
I have been friends with this person for almost 10 years.
everything I do, she seems to copy?! Multiple things have occurred over the years here are some:
i got pregnant, announced my pregnancy and sure enough 4 weeks later she tells me she is pregnant. Fast forward a few years we put our house on the market to move to a better school catchment area… she does the same.
asks for our kids to be in the same class.
if I don’t reply to her messages (I have 3 children and work full time, and my husband works away a lot) I get literally 4-5 voice notes about absolute guff. Then if I don’t reply to those she will all of a sudden have some sort of ailment or health scare. Couldn’t count in 2 hands how many “cancer” scares she has had over the years. There is ALWAYS a drama.
She voiced how anxious she was about the school gate drama and I just said well… if you stay out of it you won’t know about it…
WELL she has literally involved herself in every single school gate nonsense there has been this year. Including helping spread nasty gossip and then tries to involve me for my opinion. My opinion is usually “oh flip that’s mental” or … “i really don’t care” She will then bug me for 2 weeks about meeting up for coffee (I am like, babe I don’t have time to wash my hair never mind have a coffee) she doesn’t seem to get this and will go on and on until the point comes where she corners me in person. I am a crap liar, I’m pretty sure she watches my home as she will say “ I assume you’re working today as your car isn’t there”. Utter madness. I am really trying to avoid her but again, our kids are going to be in the same class in sept. She also does this weird thing that if she knows someone who is going through something she will make it a reality for herself. One of the parents was having a tricky time with their kids, they were in the process of getting an ASD diagnosis, she all of a sudden was like I THINK … IS AUTISIC… there is absolutely nothing wrong with her child.
my OH is away with work this week, she has BOMBARDED me with messages that I honestly can’t reply to, they don’t even warrant a reply… 16 min voice note synopsis of her day… really odd. Yesterday she spoke to me about some gossip and tried to tease some more gossip out of me, I just nodded and smiled and give the odd “oh dear”. I have made friends with some really nice mums, she knows this and wants me to tell her every detail of their lives. I will absolutely not do that!
She then all of a sudden has another ailment and needs me to mind her kids while she gets checked out. She has a husband and family close by… I said I couldn’t. I know I am an extremely private person but I am sociable and well liked. I fear if I cut her off completely she will turn all of the mums against me. My integrity is everything to me!
I actually can’t believe that I am writing all this down, it seems insane. Advice please?!
oh I totally forgot to mention she stalks people on social media to the point that she will know who they are related to and then if we pass them she will be like “that’s …. Cousin, I seen on Facebook etc that they were in … for hols”
weird or what?!