To not want to eat Chinese - help me to see if I’m being unreasonable

What the fuck is wrong with him and lots of people here also.

I don't want people to compromise what they eat for me and I definitely will not compromise on what I eat for anyone either.

He sounds controlling tbh and maybe he can fucking cooking his own dinner since he has a problem with your cooking.
But I bet he prefers to just be fed and is a lazy bastard.

”Always wins”? That’s a funny way to look at respecting your own wife’s vegetarianism.

In any case, why does he have to cook a vegetarian meal? Surely he can cook himself meat and OP can cook herself something?

I’m not a big fan of Chinese food (texture issues) but spring onion pancakes, broccoli with garlic and cashews, and egg fried rice or vegetable egg fried rice are fine.

It is the least favourite takeaway of everyone except my husband so we don’t have it often but we do have it from time to time. Because that is fair.

He is the least fussy about food in the house but should still get his favourites

Well he’s still going to have to cook a veggie option isn’t he. OP prefers her food so cooks it; if he cooks he either has to cook 2 meals or a vegetarian meal. OP always wins

But every other meal they share is OPs meal preference

Because she cooks them!! He could remedy that easily enough!

He can have his preference as often as he likes. It's making the OP have it as well that is unreasonable.

And the other takeaways are things they both like. It's not a mirror image situation of the OP making him eat things he doesn't like.

But every other meal they share is OPs meal preference, so I don’t think it is unreasonable once in a blue moon he has his preference. People are going on as if she hates Chinese food, whereas what she actually said it she’s not keen on it.

The 'restaurant' in this case is their house. They will both be there together, eating food at the same time, at the same table, probably even from matching plates.

and of course it's completely impossible to keep food warm or reheat it?
I find most takeaway tastes better reheated the next day anyway.

You're really reaching with your 'community bond' theory - as you literally said yourself they share almost every other evening meal together, not eating the exact same meal at the exact same time three or four times a year out of 365 days is hardly going to make or break their relationship.

How do you think couples working different shift patterns or who socialise frequently with other people or who work away manage to "foster a sense of togetherness" 🙄

Find something he doesn’t like to eat and force him to eat it bc you like it. The man is ridiculous. This shouldn’t even come up in a conversation, you don’t like Chinese food, end of conversation.

Also I don't believe the OP said they get the food delivered (she didn't say they don't either) but there's every chance they order and pick up the food, in which case you can time that pretty well, also microwaves exist

Most delivery services allow you to request a delivery time rather than just “ASAP”. Order at 5, request delivery at 7 (for example). Not foolproof, but why not try it if it’s so vital to eat at the exact same time?

Or maybe whoever’s comes first just eats the starters first while the other is waiting? I’m sure OP could spare her husband a bhaji, or he a spring roll for her - especially if all the pleasure is in sharing as you claim.

The problems you are creating are smaller than the problem of OP’s husband pushing her to eat a cuisine she doesn’t like.

Joey doesn't share food!

🤣🤣🤣

I agree with him that it is much nicer to share a takeaway like Chinese or Indian. You get to try a wider range of different dishes

They're my bhunas. If you want a bhuna, order a bhuna, that's why I've ordered two bhunas 🤨

Somehow I don't think his argument is logistics based.

Because they’re incredibly unlikely to be delivered at the same time, and one persons food is likely to be growing cold.

They'd only both enjoy the Take Away if they both liked it though surely?

I can't see his logic at all if he could still get the Chinese while you ate something else, why does he want you to eat something you don't really even enjoy when you could both eat what you liked? That's weird

So why is coming to the same table with different takeaways any different?

Anyone else having Chinese tonight after reading this thread ✋️

No I wouldn’t expect them to eat the same dish, but I would expect them to come to the same restaurant!!!

Isn’t part of a takeaway that you enjoy it together? I find the responses saying that’s weird weird!

She isn't stopping him ordering Chinese though is she? If he wants to be a giant man baby and sulk because the person eating at the same table isn't eating the same food, then he needs to grow the fuck up

He sounds controlling and manipulative. Is that his character or is this just an odd foible? I'd keep an eye out for other controlling behaviour.