To refuse to commute with my colleague after hire car policy changed

People on MN are posting nude pictures?

Plenty of men can work with women and not make sexist comments. The man is the issue here.

Take it to HR asap. What a pig. Definitely stand your ground.

Not an uproar but its f**king disgusting to do that in a work place setting, yes go to the toilet or somewhere private. Dont just let rip, it's hardly surprising that things that come out of your arse really arent for your colleagues to experience.

I’d be speaking to your line manager (who is responsible for managing people - performance, conduct etc.) and outlining exactly what you have said he has been doing. Keep in factual - dates, times, what he said and did and then say how it makes you feel.

If your line manager needs assistance in handling the situation, then he/she should approach HR for advice.

Regarding him slowing down, looking at women and making you feel uncomfortable about that (understandably, by the way) - this comes under sexual harassment at work and employers have a new duty now, to ensure they take reasonable steps to prevent it from occurring. Insisting you share a car with him falls foul of that as you’re not being protected from that behaviour. Sexual harassment at work doesn’t have to be deliberate, it’s the effect the behaviour has on another person.

Take this to HR - he needs a talking to (at the very least). His behaviour is unprofessional and unacceptable.

Personally, whilst I find farting amusing among family, in any work situation it’s inappropriate unless a total accident. Forcing one out ‘loud and proud’ is deliberate and insulting. In contrast, a male colleague accidentally did a tiny one which I noticed and we about died laughing because he was both embarrassed and surprised by it.

Your knobhead colleague is a twat who’s pushing too many boundaries.

I’d be having a word with HR. You’re on business time, his sexism is offensive.

Next time, I’d be saying something like “it’s no wonder she’s an ex wife with the way you talk and leer at women - we don’t like it”.

What a gross creep he is.

It's hardly uproar. I work in a professional environment. People do not go round farting in front of each other.

MN is fucking weird today. Is it full moon?

I work in a female dominated industry, have done for nearly 15 years, never had any of these issues. I’m classed as self employed, but all my “line managers” are female too.

There is a time and place for behaviours and comments, not in a professional environment. OP isn’t at fault, your comment is a load of tripe.

yes dear 🙄

Either

Report concerns to manager who will be able to authorise two vehicles or mileage, the male colleague knows no different, unless they report to HR.

Or

Report to HR, they will investigate and if substantiated issue a warning most likely, he will obviously know it was you who reported. (Not that this should stop you choosing this route). HR will then speak to your manager and the above will likely be actioned.

Making the OP feel uncomfortable because he's staring at women is OK? Back to the '70s for you!

Well you must have much better control of your sphincter than me or most people I know. I can usually manage to let a fart out silently, which the OP’s colleague may have been able to do, but I think he was being polite opening the window rather than let the smell waft around the car. I always find it funny that people on Mumsnet are happy to talk quite explicitly about their sexual practices and post photos of the most intimate parts of their bodies but the merest mention of a fart causes uproar 😆😆😆

And that's why men and women should not work together, the only issue did that's wrong is farting in the car, that's not on but maybe you are a bad driver or maybe he is just a poor passenger.

He doesn’t like you. Just make alternative arrangements and leave him to sort himself out.

If he's as neanderthal as he sounds, expect him to rip the piss out of you for having the nerve to complain. That's his problem, not yours. It's your call whether to have it out with him first.

Oh FFS seriously?

It's not a van of fucking builders. He can keep it in like the rest of us. I have never needed to let rip in front of a colleague. Id be mortified.

@BethB89 he's a pig. Report him to HR. Or just email them to state you are not comfortable being alone in a car with him and will not drive him.

You're being unreasonable with your title. It's got nothing to do with hire car policy. It's got everything to do with your colleague. His sexism needs reporting.

some of my chaps at work were talking about my driving and how aggressive i drive.

Until all the women pointed out that i actually drive just like a man, but better than all the men moaning about my driving.

The fart - depends how it happened. If it was performative, arse cheek raised, PAARRRPPP and "fart protocol" and all windows opened - i expect that of my family not other adults.

But i would insist on driving or going alone.

No she wouldn’t, her employer has a duty of care towards her, and she shouldn’t be out of pocket because of some sexist pig.

Make a complaint about the sexist comments and say that you refuse to travel alone with him. Let your company solve the problem of how to get you both to meetings.

Oh blimey...typical 'bantz' man. Pity the poor bugger's OH, if he has one. Imagine living with that.

All of his behaviour is unacceptable and you need to complain to your line manager and HR.

You wouldn’t be unreasonable to say you don’t want to travel with him again but you would be unreasonable if you expected work to pay for an extra car