To choose convenience over facilities for 3 month old starting nursery?

I know it’s alien to many here but many babies do attend nursery young. Go with the nursery your gut says is the most nurturing and caring, plus convenience is important to minimise travel. You can switch setting if needed at 2/3 when curriculum matters more

It's understandable that he doesn't want to work at home with a nanny there.

It's not understandable why you both seem to be prioritising his needs over your three month old baby. Get DH to rent some office space and allow your baby to be looked after in it's own home (as is best).

There is nothing that would make me put a 3 month old baby in childcare short of actual threat of destitution. Why are you doing it so early? Newborn's need their primary caregiver.

Would a nanny share be an option, maybe at someone else’s house? I agree with PPs that no nursery is going to be ideal at this age - if you have other options I’d strongly consider them.

Both of my babies went to nursery at 6 months old. I'd choose nursery 1, and we had to choose a similar nursery in similar circumstances when my son was a baby. He was only there 2.5 days a week, so he had plenty of one-on-one care and enrichment the rest of the week. We got a nanny when I returned to work after having my youngest and that was no better than the nursery tbh, for reasons I won't go into here.

Ignore the naysayers - if you have to return to work (or if you just want to return to work!), it's perfectly reasonable to weigh the benefits up against the downsides and decide to send your child to nursery for a few hours a week if that is the best choice overall for your family.

Your reasons to not have a nanny are a bit odd, OP. Becuase your DH doesn’t want someone in his house? Doesn’t he want to see his own child in his house when he’s on breaks from work?

And because you think the nanny will “slack off”?

A baby at that age really does need a lot of being held and cared for. I would imagine that, at nursery, they’ll spend most of the day in a baby seat.

I can’t tell you which of the two nurseries is best because I think a three-month-old should be with an excellent nanny or excellent childminder in a home setting.

Personally at that age I wouldn't put my dc in any nursery, and I work in them. If you really must, all I'll say is that you aren't necessarily getting anything better because things look modern/have app updates and are more expensive. I'd look at a nanny if you can afford that, or maybe a child minder.

Ideally I'd say 2.5 years, but if you're going to use nursery for a baby then the older the better and definitely when they're mobile.

Realistically a 3 month old can't be placed on the floor and can't be held much is a nursery so they're going to be in a bouncer or chair most of the day.

I don't think you should allow your husband's wishes to override what is best for your baby. 3 month old babies need 100% of their care giver's attention all the time. No nursery can do that. A nanny or a childminder would be the only options in my view.

Can you not get a nanny and request they are out of the house when your partner is home. To be honest I think his want over the babies needs are irrelevant and you should get a part time nanny. I think the baby would be end up in a baby seat most of the day as they won't have 1 2 1 care and be able to be held. At 3 months they will be sleeping still quite a lot.

Not enough information in your post to make a decision between the two nurseries.
What are the baby rooms like?
How big, how many babies?
What is the age range?
What is the adult:child ratio?
How long have the staff been there and what are their qualifications?
What is turnover like? Do they use agency staff?
What are the sleeping arrangements?

Having worked in several nursery baby rooms, I would say that nurseries are not really appropriate settings for very young babies.

Awww nursery for a 3 month old? 😔 Have you no other options?

Also, in house care DH is against he finds it weird as he spends some time working at home and doesn’t want a third party in the house which I understand.

This is more important than your newborn baby having familiarity, the best environment and attachment from a consistent caregiver?

What do you want for your baby? (And for you, considering you are one half of the mother baby dyad and will have to cope with incredibly strong feelings about being separated from your baby)

Childminder instead

You didn't answer all her questions.

There is no ‘curriculum’ to follow until they are 3 anyway. The priority for me would be the ones who are going to be most hands on, lots of cuddling, might wear baby in a sling, would consider contact naps, very tuned into this being a very young baby who will have high care needs compared to a 1 year old.

I wouldn’t be swayed by buildings. The one we looked at that was a nice new fancy building was really shit. Look at Ofsted to an extent and ask to speak to current parents. I used to do that all the time for our nursery. If it’s a great nursery, parents will be thrilled to chat with you.

As I said on your other thread, Nanny. Yes, 3 months old is too young for nursery.

I would definitely go for the convenient option.

Please try to ignore all the people who can't just ATFQ.

How is the staff at nursery 2? You don't mention that.

Mine started nursery at 3 months and we went with the ''premium'' choice but we are lucky that it is also good location wise for us. It would still have to feel right though and with good staff so if you are saying you prefer the staff at the closest nursery then definitely go with that option.