Breakdown in friend group - who is right?

W has done nothing wrong so posters can’t tell you she has. But good for her if she is prioritising her own baby and tbh it sounds like P is a user who was using her to sort her birthday all these years when she’s actually a twat herself. I’d be done with P and the one now ignoring you.

For people of this age you’d think that birthdays would be celebrated with their families first? Friends then would find another day to celebrate together and a fuss could be made of them?

Is P a narcissist? (I’m no way knowledgeable in the topic but from the sounds of it, it’s all about her… and she doesn’t care about you or W). It’s all over something trivial. You also said you wouldn’t be friends with her if you met her now.

Does she bring anything into your life except for drama? Does she genuinely let care about you or go out of her way for you?

DS was induced on my birthday ,induction was started 6.30am monday morning he arrived Wednesday night at 10.40.

OP, is it possible that P and the other friend now seemingly ignoring you have found out that W was able to choose her induction date and so she has done this deliberately? (Unlikely, I know, and as pps have pointed out, it still doesn't mean W will give birth on the date she's induced). Have you asked P why she thinks W has any control over her induction date?

Genuine question, please don’t take offence. But how old are P and W?

The only thing I can say that I think you may have got wrong is to even give this matter any headspace/credence. It should be painfully obvious that P is out of line, and her antics should not be tolerated. The fact you need reassurance on this is a little odd tbh.

Thinking about it, P was supposed to be the laid back one and has only become high maintenance since she had a child. Is she OK? Is she suffering with PND by chance?

I’d have stopped being good friends with P a long time ago because she was t relaxed. Being late, not responding for months at a time is a shit friend. The constant dramas are something I can’t be coping with or other peoples children being the center of everything when I have my own children.
She also sounds like a judgy arsehole who can’t keep her mouth shut on other peoples parenting.

She is now being PATHETIC. My baby was induced a month early and could have died and if anyone had acted this way to me they’d have been cut off for good. Really failing to see what P adds to anyone. Why can her DS be the centre of everyone’s attention but W can’t prioritise her own child? And now they don’t induce early for no reason ffs!

P is being massively unreasonable! W doesn't get a liat of dates to choose for her induction!
She might not even have the baby on the same day she is being induced (I had mine the next day at night, 38hrs total, which I heard is quite common with inductions)...
Which means P still "doesn't have to share her birthday" .... I feel ridiculous just writing this, is she 5?

The irony being that if P cuts W off entirely for these reasons, W certainly won’t be putting ANY energy into P’s future birthdays! 🤦‍♀️ P sounds like unnecessarily hard work, while W probably needs all the extra support she can get from her friends if she’s facing an early induction for reasons she hasn’t felt able to share with the group…

OP, what you’ve described is a ridiculous, childish situation. You can’t see this, otherwise why would you be posting here about it?

Now people are giving you their opinions about the situation and the people involved and you’re kicking off about it!

Not sure if anyone has said this already but this level of batshit in a thread is almost guaranteed to be picked up by the daily fail so OP you might want to bear this in mind.

I can't understand it either!

But what do you actually want from this thread now OP? You’ve had your answer. P is ridiculous. I’m genuinely confused as to why you’re still arguing and banging on?

No, @JaneEyre40 actually wrote "If W actually did this....she's a psycho" and the "this" she seems to be referring to is in your first post where P is accusing W of being induced on that specific day deliberately to "usurp her birthday" (as if W has a choice about the date she will be induced, but @JaneEyre40 may not realise this).
You need to slow down OP, read people's responses more carefully and reply more appropriately, without stripping out the context of what people have posted.
I haven't voted because it's not clear to me what your vote is for, but just to add to the chorus of pps: W is doing nothing wrong and P is being self-centred and melodramatic. You would be doing P a favour if you could talk some sense into her - I do hope W isn't aware of her accusation, which is extraordinary and rather unkind at a time when W seems to need additional support from her friends.

What in the OP do you want me to vote on?

P is unhinged for thinking W did it on purpose. And crying about it. Absolute lunacy.

You did right to tell her what you thought. If P is now ignoring you I’d leave her to it.

I’d be more concerned about your other friend who is ignoring you, especially if you’re supposed to be going to a festival together this weekend. Hope she gets in touch soon.

Your quote here is from a drip several dozen posts in, not the OP on which we are voting. Your OP does not specify what you want us to say is U or NU.

You seem to be revelling now in the drama of it all. People think P is being ridiculous. That’s what everyone has said. Isn’t that the end of it ?

You asked for people’s thoughts. But now you are just being rude yourself.

I actually think you should all grow up frankly.