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Next door sex noises with kids in house

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Dayushorribilis · 24/06/2025 07:21

Wondering what (if anything) to do about next door neighbour family.

They’ve been next door for about a year. Always slightly ‘chaotic’ but nothing too bad eg they are very messy and noisy, they have pets running everywhere including a monkey in a cage, the mum doesn’t seem to have a job and screams at the kids a lot (no dad present).

I WFH and have noticed that often the kids aren’t at school during the day. They do go sometimes but not all the time. Kids seem to be early teens.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been disturbed multiple times in the day by very loud sex noises coming from next door. The mum is clearly enjoying herself with someone who I can also hear. It’s not massively enjoyable to hear this but I wouldn’t care except that there have been times that the kids are there too. I’ve seen them in the garden whilst mum is inside upstairs clearly having sex. I think this is wildly inappropriate to the point of wondering if I should report the whole situation to someone. Would you?

Part of me is hesitant because ‘Having sex whilst kids are in the house’ is fine, but when you add ‘daytime’ ‘plus ‘they should be at school’ plus ‘really quite loud’ I get bothered.

OP posts:
YesHonestly · 24/06/2025 07:29

I’m a student social worker, so not yet qualified, but I urge you to please report this.

How old are the children? They may already be known to services, and if there is nothing to be concerned about then nothing will come of your report, but safeguarding is everyone’s responsibility and I’d be concerned about those children.

Easipeelerie · 24/06/2025 07:29

Poor monkey. Is it being cared for properly? I’d have to move - sounds so unpleasant all round.

HairyMaclaryInTheDairy · 24/06/2025 07:28

Social services aren't going to be interested that a mum has a sex life, and the kids' schools will already be perfectly aware that their attendance is patchy. I don't see anything here that needs reporting... unless there is more you are not saying.

screwyou · 24/06/2025 07:27

I also agree with referring to SS. Somebody needs to have an eye on the children, to be having loud sex with them in ear shot is grim and totally inappropriate.

Spies · 24/06/2025 07:26

MNpenisadvisor · 24/06/2025 07:24

Sorry but... A MONKEY IN A CAGE?

Yeah this ^ I literally couldn't take in any other part of your post...where the fuck do you live?

Eldermileniummam · 24/06/2025 07:26

OP I think you wouldn't be unreasonable to report your concerns to social services

SillyMillie90 · 24/06/2025 07:26

The way ‘monkey in a cage’ was just casually dropped 😂 I’m sorry I can’t get past this. Where on Earth do you live?

MaryBeardsShoes · 24/06/2025 07:25

I think you could legitimately report to Social services re the chaotic nature and kids not being in school. Probably the family are already known and your info will be another piece of the puzzle.

Personally I think it’s nasty when people have sex loud enough to be heard by neighbours etc. but I know Mumsnet generally doesn’t agree.

MNpenisadvisor · 24/06/2025 07:24

Sorry but... A MONKEY IN A CAGE?

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