Do I have unrealistic expectations? I know life isn’t a romcom movie but I feel permanently broken hearted and rejected at the moment and I need a reality check please.
32yo, 3 kids, DP “cares for me”. He says he does love me, but he isn’t “in love” with me. This came to light when our youngest was a few weeks old and he announced he didn’t feel the same way about me anymore but obviously he would stay for the kids. I thought I could love him enough for the both of us, but we’re nearly six years down the line and I’m not sure I can do it anymore. I feel like I’m constantly waiting for him to love me back but it’s just never going to happen.
No kisses or touch, although I do get a hug if I insist on it, sex is very much present, but it’s sex rather than loving or tender. No affection, or compliments, or effort.
We do just get along, no arguments, he does more than his fair share of the housework/childcare, we’re quite an efficient team at day to day life. The children would be devastated if I left and I feel like I can’t do that to them for such a selfish reason, to in all likelihood just end up alone. (Not to mention the reality and logistics of juggling 3 kids alongside full time work).
But still. I can’t help dream about what I might be missing out on. Is this what all relationships are like in the long term? Does long term love exist at all, or am I being childish and should just settle for calm and stable.