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To feel a bit meh about friend making bf personality

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LivelyCoralMaker · 23/06/2025 22:36

Hi!
so I don’t know if im being unreasonable but I have a friend who I meet up with and text quite a bit. We get on well and shes a nice woman
the only thing is- it gets on my nerves how she makes her partner her entire personality! When we talk about anything she always brings him into a topic! And the worst thing is when we meet up for girly night she always invites him out fml … so it’s me and her and him, or me our close friend who is another woman and Him! They live together so why can’t he stay behind at home for a few hours to give her some girly time? May be sounding unreasonable but it gets on my nerves
i have a solid partner and he always likes to give me girly time alone with my mates, her partner knew it was just her and women and he always wants to come out! I just find it a bit weird and annoying. Wouldnt know how to broach it with her
does anyone else find this annoying? Another thing that struck me as weird was two things

  1. on Father’s Day she put up a post on Facebook saying she couldn’t wish for a better daddy to Jacob (Jacob is her partner’s son who he had with ANOTHER woman)
  2. she put up a post advocating for a movement cant remember what it was but it basically said how she was so disappointed she couldn’t breastfeed Jacob…. (Again, not her son)

how would I even broach this? I want girly time and not him there all the time!
am I being unreasonable? Xx

OP posts:
ThejoyofNC · 24/06/2025 07:47

This is the second thread this morning where a completely insane bit of info has been casually added into the post. I couldn't be friends with a woman who thought it was acceptable to want to BF another woman's child.

Marylou2 · 24/06/2025 07:43

Do you have other normal friends OP? This woman sounds really odd. I'd definitely concentrate on other friendships.

Greenvases · 24/06/2025 07:34

Back away, she sounds unhinged.
Bringing your partner to a night out with your girlfriends is a MN phenomenon, never heard of it in RL.
It simply wouldn't be tolerated.

Seriestwo · 24/06/2025 00:18

If I was Jacob’s mother and I saw that on social media I’d get a non molestation order a giant your friend.

TheAutumnCrow · 24/06/2025 00:16

MJQs · 24/06/2025 00:08

Did any normal person say anything on her post like "why do you want to breast feed another woman's child you nutter?"

I’m intrigued too. All the ‘callings out’ that are performed on social media and nobody said anything about how mad this is?

ReproachfulOwl · 24/06/2025 00:09

Use your words, OP. ‘Nigel is NOT INVITED.’

MJQs · 24/06/2025 00:08

Did any normal person say anything on her post like "why do you want to breast feed another woman's child you nutter?"

Rabbitsockpeony · 24/06/2025 00:03

she put up a post advocating for a movement cant remember what it was but it basically said how she was so disappointed she couldn’t breastfeed Jacob…. (Again, not her son)

You fucking what now?!

Isittimeformynapyet · 23/06/2025 23:53

You're NBU at all for thinking that this woman has a screw loose, but you are for using the word girly four times in your post.

TheSlantedOwl · 23/06/2025 23:46

She sounds unhinged. Feeble minded actually.

Just tell her straight. If you still want to spend time with her that is 😬 “Let’s have a women only night ok?”

outerspacepotato · 23/06/2025 23:43

Your friend is so far out of her lane she might be on that 🚀.

She wants to breastfeed her boyfriend's son, meaning replace his mother and she had the nerve to put she's sad she can't on social media for everyone to see. She's looking to start big trouble and using a baby to do it.

FAFO.

You'd better stay clear. She sounds unstable.

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 23/06/2025 23:36

Her comments about breastfeeding another woman’s son are very odd indeed.

itsmeits · 23/06/2025 23:35

Just tell her. Next time you are arranging something, say be nice yo see you without bf.
Or buy 2 tickets.
Just say something, to her. If its a normal healthy relationship there shouldn't be an issue.

Her posts sound a little unhinged, maybe you should have a chat with her about them.

Endofyear · 23/06/2025 23:35

Sounds like your friend is a clingy girlfriend! The post about wanting to breastfeed her partner's son....words fail me 🤢