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AIBU to say No I cannot move my fucking birthday!!

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WiseFinch · 23/06/2025 21:58

Hard hat ready here as I know I’m being self centered.
I invited friends about two months ago on a night out to celebrate my birthday. Of the 6 people I invited, 3 suggested we “do another weekend” immediately. To which I said well no, my birthday is that weekend! Now at the last minute the others have pulled out, all suggesting we “just do a different weekend.”
I know this is fairly immature but if we did another weekend the night out would just be another night out, it’d be over a week past my birthday at the minimum so at that point I’d be completely over it and it defeats the purpose of the night out.
The fact that all 6 people have suggested to just move the date makes me think I am being crazy but I personally would never ask somebody to move their own fucking birthday ? If I couldn’t make it I’d politely decline. Am I being unreasonable or crazy about this?!

OP posts:
QuickFawn · 23/06/2025 22:01

You can move it and celebrate on another day with your birthday your friends or not move it and celebrate without them 🤷‍♀️

presumably they do want to celebrate with you, hence suggesting another date rather than politely declining

McCartneyOnTheHeath · 23/06/2025 22:01

You're presumably an adult? If having your friends there is important to you then celebrate your birthday on another weekend.

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