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To think MN is getting meaner?

62 replies

BananaPuddingCream · 23/06/2025 18:35

Sorry I know this is probably going to piss some people off. I know it’s a forum, where you can share opinions. But the tone and lack of empathy of some posts is just horrid. AIBU?

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12bucklemyshoethree4 · 23/06/2025 19:34

BananaPuddingCream · 23/06/2025 18:35

Sorry I know this is probably going to piss some people off. I know it’s a forum, where you can share opinions. But the tone and lack of empathy of some posts is just horrid. AIBU?

Yep they hide behinde people won't always agree with you. Never said people should agree. Said no need to be so unkind.

Its not just on aibu.

Its very sad that so many people can't put their point across without being nasty.

Gepl · 23/06/2025 19:33

Didimum · 23/06/2025 18:41

Here is the bingo card for this thread:

  • people agreeing with you
  • people complaining there’s been too many threads like this
  • the bashing of ‘the be kind brigade’
  • the belief that ‘no-nonsense’ advice is better than advice dressed up in niceties
  • ‘it’s the internet. What do you expect?’
  • ‘Scroll past if you don’t like it, OP’
  • Some version of ‘women don’t owe you nice’.

FWIW, I align with the first bullet point.

Don’t forget someone saying they prefer dogs to people.

Absentmindedsmile · 23/06/2025 19:32

I’ve been here for over 20years, it was much kinder in the good old days. We all knew each other back then. Some of us met up and had tea and cake. It was so lovely, back then.

*none of that is true for me, but someone usually says it..

DiamondThrone · 23/06/2025 19:32

SaturdayDream · 23/06/2025 19:27

Most people are peri/menopausal.

And your point is?

WhatNoRaisins · 23/06/2025 19:31

I think it's been like this for years, wouldn't say that it's got worse recently.

Spudthespanner · 23/06/2025 19:29

Honestly? Some posters bring it on themselves.

SaturdayDream · 23/06/2025 19:27

Most people are peri/menopausal.

WhatMe123 · 23/06/2025 19:26

Yes it's vicious and blunt but some people come in here for that.
People normally stick up for people though if it's un called for
I feel if you weave through the pointless mean posts there's still a lot of very good support and guidance available
But yes people do seem to get pleasure out of picking peoples posts to bits 😂😂😂😂

TheAutumnCrow · 23/06/2025 19:25

AIBU can be a cesspool

GretaGip · 23/06/2025 19:24

@Didimum you forgot

It's always been robust

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 23/06/2025 19:22

Have you tried any of the other boards? Aibu has always been the same

Didimum · 23/06/2025 18:41

Here is the bingo card for this thread:

  • people agreeing with you
  • people complaining there’s been too many threads like this
  • the bashing of ‘the be kind brigade’
  • the belief that ‘no-nonsense’ advice is better than advice dressed up in niceties
  • ‘it’s the internet. What do you expect?’
  • ‘Scroll past if you don’t like it, OP’
  • Some version of ‘women don’t owe you nice’.

FWIW, I align with the first bullet point.

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