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BananaPuddingCream · 2025-06-23T17:35:18+00:00

Sorry I know this is probably going to piss some people off. I know it’s a forum, where you can share opinions. But the tone and lack of empathy of some posts is just horrid. AIBU?

lilacbreeze · 23/06/2025 20:58

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IAmTheLogLady · 23/06/2025 20:57

TheAutumnCrow · 23/06/2025 20:39

Ah yes.

OP: ’I’m worried about nuclear Armageddon and my very young family’

Response: ‘Can’t come soon enough for me.’

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Gone are the days of preppers and the ofrs.

IAmTheLogLady · 23/06/2025 20:56

DiamondThrone · 23/06/2025 20:36

My point is to ask them what their point was.

It's not very complicated?

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It's in the op, it's even less complicated than your point.

TheAutumnCrow · 23/06/2025 20:39

WhatNoRaisins · 23/06/2025 19:36

That's not edgy enough now. You have to say that you don't care if the human race goes extinct to be a proper Mumsnet misanthrope.

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Ah yes.

OP: ’I’m worried about nuclear Armageddon and my very young family’

Response: ‘Can’t come soon enough for me.’

Overtheatlantic · 23/06/2025 20:36

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DiamondThrone · 23/06/2025 20:36

IAmTheLogLady · 23/06/2025 20:34

And your point is ?

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My point is to ask them what their point was.

It's not very complicated?

AgnesX · 23/06/2025 20:35

Some people are spectacularly unkind but some people also tell the poster what they need to hear. And that is sometimes a million miles away from what they want to hear.

Kind of like most forums really?

IAmTheLogLady · 23/06/2025 20:34

DiamondThrone · 23/06/2025 20:28

And your point is?

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And your point is ?

FuzzyPuffling · 23/06/2025 20:31

I made an absolutely wonderful friend on MN, which transferred to real life. I'm very, very glad of that.

And there are some delightful corners, full of supportive, lovely women. You just need to dig beyond AIBU.

DiamondThrone · 23/06/2025 20:28

Didimum · 23/06/2025 20:26

Oh here we go 😂

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And your point is?

Didimum · 23/06/2025 20:26

DiamondThrone · 23/06/2025 19:32

And your point is?

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Oh here we go 😂

IdiottoGoa · 23/06/2025 20:09

I totally agree; I’ve been here nearly 20 years, the level of nastiness and bullying, hidden behind a label of ‘robustness’ is terrible.

LemonLass · 23/06/2025 19:56

Hi @BananaPuddingCream
I am in the agree camp. Not all threads attract mean responses but there are some (minority) of people who respond to a thread to goad the OP. It is equivalent of someone farting and leaving the room - they do it because they can and no perceived consequence to them. Some threads are sensitive subjects. OPs may seek reassurance and get blasted by someone hiding by their keypad. That is not cool.

My "advice" to mumsnetters that fall into that camp is go find another website to troll.

IAmTheLogLady · 23/06/2025 19:55

cannotbetooarsed · 23/06/2025 19:41

I just think that there are many bitter, unhappy people who hide behind their keyboard!
I have noticed that there are many posters who pile on any OP who are not great with articulation / vocabulary etc …very sad that people think it is ok too belittle others!

Agree with this, opinions don't seem to be a perspective anymore but just an opportunity to pile on and abuse someone online because they can.
I pity them tbh.

BankHolidayMonday · 23/06/2025 19:55

Posters have been saying this for longer than I should remember. It's been decades (or at least years 😂) of people being meaner.

It's YABU. It can be brutal.

IAmTheLogLady · 23/06/2025 19:54

Yanbu. I've been for around 15 years and while aibu has always been robust and has always been described as a nest of vipers its seems worse now.
Maybe it's just there's less light relief, kindness and wit to balance the shittyness.

12bucklemyshoethree4 · 23/06/2025 19:53

cannotbetooarsed · 23/06/2025 19:41

I just think that there are many bitter, unhappy people who hide behind their keyboard!
I have noticed that there are many posters who pile on any OP who are not great with articulation / vocabulary etc …very sad that people think it is ok too belittle others!

100% this been on the receiving end, a good few times.

Summersunshinebliss · 23/06/2025 19:52

I agree @BananaPuddingCream and it's not just AIBU anymore it's every board.

SemperIdem · 23/06/2025 19:49

WhatNoRaisins · 23/06/2025 19:36

That's not edgy enough now. You have to say that you don't care if the human race goes extinct to be a proper Mumsnet misanthrope.

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Did you also read the recent thread about population decreasing being a bad thing?

I was absolutely staggered by the number of posters responding that is a good thing the human race could die out, as though a species going through an extinction event does so without enormous amounts of pain and suffering. I found it really unsettling to read.

Belladog1 · 23/06/2025 19:43

Gepl · 23/06/2025 19:33

Don’t forget someone saying they prefer dogs to people.

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Hmmmmm 👀 yeah, I'm in that camp

cannotbetooarsed · 23/06/2025 19:41

I just think that there are many bitter, unhappy people who hide behind their keyboard!
I have noticed that there are many posters who pile on any OP who are not great with articulation / vocabulary etc …very sad that people think it is ok too belittle others!

CinnamonBuns67 · 23/06/2025 19:40

Yanbu. Aibu has always been a bit mean, but that's kind of expected. But some of the other parts are getting a bit nasty and unhelpful at times.

SemperIdem · 23/06/2025 19:36

I think there is a lot more skim reading of posts and knee jerk responses, along with outright comprehension issues, than there used to be.

I’ve been on MN a long time, it was indeed robust when I first joined. However responses were more intelligent, thoughtful and funny than they generally are now.

WhatNoRaisins · 23/06/2025 19:36

Gepl · 23/06/2025 19:33

Don’t forget someone saying they prefer dogs to people.

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That's not edgy enough now. You have to say that you don't care if the human race goes extinct to be a proper Mumsnet misanthrope.

EllatrixB · 23/06/2025 19:35

I thought this today when I was reading a thread where the OP was speculating/asking for thoughts on a particular situation that no-one on here could possibly give an answer to. (It was sort of a rhetorical question using a specific example.) The OP had deffo jumped to some conclusions but it was overall fairly benign. I thought the responses were pretty brutal, to be honest, as well as repetitive.

I think there's definitely a trend now for responders being "deliberately robust" 😁