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Friend pissed off I didn’t eat all of the dinner she made me

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HattieD · 23/06/2025 18:24

Can I ask if you think I was unreasonable? We (my husband and I) had a dinner at my friends (and her husbands) house on Saturday. They weren’t free in the day, so prior to this, we went to an event at a local pub. This was from 2-5, and they had a free BBQ which we had a bite to eat from.

We’d told our friends about the event and the free BBQ being an added bonus. Dinner was served about 6.30 (earlier than we’d usually eat but no issue) and our friend had made a lovely but substantial meal. I gave it a good go, and probably ate about 70% of it, with DH eating slightly more of his.

On Sunday, my friend messaged to say she thought it was rude we ate at the pub and that we left ‘so much’ of our dinner. I reiterated how much we enjoyed the food and said that it was a very generous portion.

I just think that if we hadn’t mentioned the BBQ, she’d have been none the wiser and probably wouldn’t have said anything about the decent amount of food we ate?

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Plantladylover · 23/06/2025 18:31

I think it was unreasonable to eat at a BBQ when you were going to friends for dinner.

But it was odd of her to comment on you not eating much as well. Though I could see her being put out if she'd invited you round for dinner, cooked and you turned up saying you'd already eaten,

nomoretreats · 23/06/2025 18:30

But you knew you were eating at your friends house and that she’d specifically cooked for you?

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HattieD · 23/06/2025 18:27

ToKittyornottoKitty · 23/06/2025 18:25

Did you no they were going to be cooking tea for you at 6.30 before you ate at the BBQ?

We assumed we’d eat around 7pm, that’s the time we ate when we’ve been round before.

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 23/06/2025 18:25

Did you no they were going to be cooking tea for you at 6.30 before you ate at the BBQ?

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