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It’s just theft isn’t it?

111 replies

HiRen · 23/06/2025 17:34

Am back in the UK for my annual summer break. Just back from the supermarket. Stood behind a pretty old (going to guess at least 80yo) woman who was weighing fennel in the veggies aisle, to get a barcoded sticker that she could self-scan. She did one sticker, then a second, then a third. I moved over to the right a step, intending to lean over to offer help (I’m crap with tech, reasonable assumption she might be too). Immediately clocked she was holding the fennel up a bit, ie semi-lifting it off the scales. Then I watched her select “potatoes” on her fourth attempt. Saw her do it again on her fifth attempt - she’d lifted the fennel higher.

Basically, she was deciding what she wanted to pay for the fennel. She left four stickers behind, all decreasing in price, all for potatoes.

I’m normally all for being empathetic towards people on a budget, especially a fixed budget like an pension, and I know about the col crisis. But this was fennel, in Waitrose. She was LOADED with gold jewelry and had a small LV crossbody bag. She can afford 98p (the fifth sticker price) for a bulb of fennel. It made me half want to tell someone on my way out to double check her shopping scan.

No AIBU I suppose. I’m just properly cross. This isn’t the 80s anymore. Things cost more than they used to. Fennel shouldn’t be expensive - but it is. That’s how it is for everyone, and for more essential stuff than bloody vegetables. They don’t steal. She was blatantly stealing, and it was the repeated effort, and the sneakiness and slyness in the way she did it that made me so cross.

OP posts:
HateLongCovid · 23/06/2025 20:26

Greenartywitch · 23/06/2025 18:39

Really?

You are feeling self-righteous because an 80 year old woman is getting a few pennies off a bloody vegetable?

You must have a lot of time in your hands...

I don’t think there’s think the OP comes across as self-righteous at all. She just doesn’t agree with shoplifting! BTW I don’t think you come across very well. 🤔

fruitflavouredmilk · 23/06/2025 20:25

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 20:22

Sorry, its been done to death 👍

So has the thumbs up emoji. I’m guessing your age is about the same as the woman stealing.

fruitflavouredmilk · 23/06/2025 20:24

ThatSchoolOfficeLady · 23/06/2025 17:55

Shoplifting isn't a result of new technology. Shoplifting goes waaaay back to the beginning of self service shops.

I think just a liiiittttle way before that… 😂

PrincessofWells · 23/06/2025 20:23

FutureCatMum · 23/06/2025 17:36

This has nothing to do with you. Move on with your life.

It does, it increases prices for the rest of us . . .

Zippp · 23/06/2025 20:23

I’m with you too OP. We have rules so we can live in a peaceful, safe and stable society. That was theft. It doesn’t matter if it’s an older person or a younger person, doesn’t somehow make it sweet or comical that she’s nicking fennel rather than cider.

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 20:22

fruitflavouredmilk · 23/06/2025 20:21

Keep eating your popcorn. 🍿🍿

Sorry, its been done to death 👍

PersephoneSmith · 23/06/2025 20:22

HiRen · 23/06/2025 17:41

Oh my. If many people are doing this, of course it has something to do with me as it means prices go up for everyone! And why the popcorn?

Do you think this stuff is ok?!

Apparently on mumsnet lots of people think this is okay ‘cost of living’ ‘just trying to make ends meet’ blah blah
I’m with you OP, it’s fucking theft and people who do it or condone it should be ashamed of themselves.

fruitflavouredmilk · 23/06/2025 20:21

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 20:20

Oh so it's not about the popcorn?

ETA: I didn't realise you had a problem with two of my posts, in quick succession.

Edited

Keep eating your popcorn. 🍿🍿

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 20:20

fruitflavouredmilk · 23/06/2025 20:20

Oh give up, will you. The woman was old enough to know what she was doing.

Oh so it's not about the popcorn?

ETA: I didn't realise you had a problem with two of my posts, in quick succession.

fruitflavouredmilk · 23/06/2025 20:20

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 18:11

They could all have been fake. Her age is irrelevant.

Oh give up, will you. The woman was old enough to know what she was doing.

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 20:19

fruitflavouredmilk · 23/06/2025 20:17

The popcorn emoji been done to death by now.

Has it? Oh well. Shit happens.

yeehawl · 23/06/2025 20:18

I love doing this it’s a great little life hack

fruitflavouredmilk · 23/06/2025 20:17

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 17:36

🍿

The popcorn emoji been done to death by now.

catin8oot5 · 23/06/2025 20:17

Oooh this reminds me of someone I knew who used to put a leg of lamb through as bananas. Genius.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 23/06/2025 20:12

Our Sainsbury's (and I presume others) has a camera above the scale to scan what fruit/veg you are weighing. You don't tell it what you're weighing. Which should be great, but it did not recognise baking potatoes!

whitewineandsun · 23/06/2025 20:08

dovetail22uk · 23/06/2025 18:28

I definitely think that supermarkets will put up their prices regardless, yes. And that shoplifting has no effect on prices, other than they might use this as some kind of justification. Like how they say it's inflation but inflation is just corporate greed. Try looking at their profits.

This. Funny how inflation might go down, but the prices do not.

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 20:01

IChooseToBlameYourMum · 23/06/2025 19:43

Normally when a crime has taken place there is a description of the person.

I worked in Waitrose when I was at college. Most thefts were done by the oldies.

what's wrong with mentioning the age?

so many people shrieking AGISM!! Old people can be dicks too you know.

Really, you don't say that descriptions are put out in supermarkets? Are we in waitrose or on Mumsnet?

Livelovebehappy · 23/06/2025 20:00

FutureCatMum · 23/06/2025 17:36

This has nothing to do with you. Move on with your life.

Do you condone all theft?

ARichWomansWorld · 23/06/2025 19:55

Should be popped in the stocks and have fennel chucked at her.

This is obviously not available anymore as an option and I was joking before anyone kicks off.

But it is stealing and LV bag or not the woman is scum.

godmum56 · 23/06/2025 19:52

ThatSchoolOfficeLady · 23/06/2025 17:55

Shoplifting isn't a result of new technology. Shoplifting goes waaaay back to the beginning of self service shops.

and even before that.......

Lostcat · 23/06/2025 19:49

yakkity · 23/06/2025 19:18

This is a forum for discussion. It surprised the OP so she is discussing. Why do you feel you should police what people talk about. Sheesh. You aren’t that important

I’m joining in the discussion and expressing my opinion . Isn’t that the custom here?

viques · 23/06/2025 19:47

Let’s hope the free coffee machine was out of order so she missed out on her coffee!

User37482 · 23/06/2025 19:47

I generally go with stealing is wrong and no-one should do it. No wonder the UK is turning into such a shithole.

IChooseToBlameYourMum · 23/06/2025 19:43

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 18:08

Why was her age relevant?

Normally when a crime has taken place there is a description of the person.

I worked in Waitrose when I was at college. Most thefts were done by the oldies.

what's wrong with mentioning the age?

so many people shrieking AGISM!! Old people can be dicks too you know.

MagpiePi · 23/06/2025 19:37

Greenartywitch · 23/06/2025 18:39

Really?

You are feeling self-righteous because an 80 year old woman is getting a few pennies off a bloody vegetable?

You must have a lot of time in your hands...

Oooh, what age is it acceptable to start shop lifting? And what’s the minimum value where it doesn’t matter? And which items apart from vegetables, is it ok to steal?