To wonder why people fuck about so much?

Oh you must tell me your secret for avoiding airplane maintenance, bad weather, and all of those other things that cause delays. Because my current record is a 7+ hour delay.

Or whatever keep wandering about aimlessly in airports getting in peoples way as they are trying to get to their gate.

@comeandhaveteawithme I think we found you a good example of selfishness here! I noticed your side discussion with @IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos

Yes, Chris the banana eating bro and Latte girl (Her name is probably Tiffanee or Loree or something with unnecessary “E”s) are American although I’m sure every country has their version 😁

(And yes I do also pronounce it carmel 😳😞)

I am somewhat baffled that there are people here who wouldn’t be even a little peeved if someone chose to change their baby’s nappy IN FRONT OF THE ONLY EXIT FROM THE ROOM, when there were, presumably, many, many other places she could have chosen, which would have been just as convenient for her but wouldn’t have kept everyone else from leaving the room!

There is a science to this:
when ppl have waited a long time they are more likely to try to make their turn last longer as they feel like they have earned it.

for example- you waited 30 mins at the doctor, a 3 min appt feels like a waste so subconsciously you try to draw it out.

i personally can not stand ppl faffing about and their effect inefficiency of under resourced services but this is often the only public interaction aome
people get and it used to be a way of life.

for example the post office was more of a social occasion than banking etc in the past

Never mind the primary purpose of the petrol the station.

The primary purpose of human life is to connect and to be, not to efficiently and stressedly hurry down a checklist of things to do lest someone else spews their stress at me.

Maybe YOU should organise your life to avoid the pfaffers and go to get petrol at a less popular time.

Really? Even if it's just a quick swig from a water bottle?

It not everyone else's problem to move at the speed you want them to, either. You want to live life rushing from one place to another, fine. Don't expect the rest of the world to accommodate you either.

We're all just living our lives. Let people.

Honestly, I don't really care. Organise your own time. It's not everyone else's problem to accommodate you.
Once you've filled up and paid for your petrol you need to leave the petrol station. You've no longer got any business being there.

You're right, I'll vacate the pump and take up one of the few parking spaces for the shop instead before continuing my journey. That's much less selfish and much more efficient, right?

Pull in, fill up, spend probably £100 in there, get back in, have one mouthful of water, check DD is happy, carry on. It's efficient, which is what OP values apparently.

On the motorway there isn't plenty of other places to pull over. Are you suggesting I should move on, take up a parking space in a service station when I don't need one, just to have a mouthful of water, when I'm already stopped? Or in a smaller petrol station, I should take one of the maybe 4 spaces for the shop, taking away someone else's chance to park there and use the shop?

Or shall I spend two more seconds where I am to have a quick mouthful of water then vacate the place entirely?

This thread has only made me convinced that the demand of efficiency in the public space is something to push back against. So much anger and self-righteousness here, and precise judgement of what type of inefficiency is acceptable (if the person is suffering even more and really can't help it) and what type isn't (everything else, including people having joy). You seem to find lack of stress offensive more or less by itself.

So many people here need to breathe and/or organize their time better or maybe move to New York or some place that is organized more efficiently and fast-paced. And mostly, stop being so angry at others for existing.

I now consider myself truly lucky to somehow not get pissed of that other people are interfering with my busy, precious life, by slowly or inefficiently existing around me.

Going back to my inefficient life pfaffing around with my three small children, several pets, demanding job, family obligations while also being in everyone's way because my daughter spends her own pocket money at the till.

Stop being so selfish in thinking that a petrol station forecourt is a good place for you to stop for a drink while other people wait to actually use the pumps you are blocking. Theres a million other places you could pull over for a drink. The petrol station forecourt isn't one of them. They didn't design those spaces as your own private drinking area. They are for their customers to use.
Imagine thinking that one space where they can do that one thing they need to do should be yours for no reason other than because you want it. You're what my Nan calls "a dog in manger".

My time in that petrol station may also be a midway point on a long journey, and it may also be my only chance to have a quick drink or get something for my small child out before setting off for another few hours.

Stop being so selfish that you think me taking a minute longer than you think is acceptable is me being inconsiderate. Because your minute is not more valuable than mine.

At some point in your life you will take 60 seconds longer than someone else would because you need it. So behave like you'd hope others would towards you when you need that extra moment.

This might be the worst thread I have ever read. And I've read some awful threads!

There is a fuck load of you that just need to take a deep breath - and GOD FORBID when you need the people behind you to show YOU a little grace to find something lost, have a shit in a public bathroom, use a shop in a petrol station, or take a moment because you are having a really bad fucking day... rather than seething at you because you've exceeded your time quota.

ill admit im a mix, if im rushing eg supermarkets sometimes its list then in items and checkout. other times if im steady then i prefer the little things like the chats etc but i can see both sides

Your time in the petrol station should be to get petrol. That's what the petrol station is there for. It's not somewhere for you to sit and have a drink. It's a business to serve customers. You're in the customer's way,your in the petrol stations way. So no, your time is not as important because now people are giving up their time for your time for something you're not entitled to do in that place.
You need to move your ass off the forecourt if you are no longer buying petrol because other people want to use the petrol station for its intended purpose. Stop being so selfish in thinking that the world should wait for you.

Sorry, I've been very attacked for suggesting that maybe people are too angry about other people also just going about their day. Presumed you were joining the pile on.

It was a joke if you want a drink have a drink i will just quietly seeth behind you

If you haven't actually read it, don't assume it's preachy. I didn't respond to every specific post, I quoted one and then gave a response that encompassed thoughts on several. As many do.

That's also ok.

It is my own time. My entire life is "my" time. My time in the petrol station is as important as your time.

What makes you think it's "your" time, just because you're there at the same time as me?

I am focussing on this specific incident as you gave a long preachy response when she wrote about nappygate. It’s easy to make sweeping #bekind proclamations. But in the real world, people can be selfish and other can feel frustrated and irritated by those actions. And that’s ok.

You are the problem drink on your own time.