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To wonder why people fuck about so much?

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comeandhaveteawithme · 23/06/2025 14:40

My local skip is a very busy place. There is often a huge queue of cars and once you are in the queue, you absolutely cannot leave, there is no way of driving out of it or turning around due to the way it's structured. You're going through the skip, and that's that.

Today, I was in the queue of doom and a worker walked along the line of cars and told everyone that they just needed to use the crusher before they could let anyone through and to do that, they needed to wait until the cars already parked up and using the skips, had all left, then they could use the crusher and start letting people in again. It was my lunchbreak so I was in a bit of a rush, but nothing I could do.

But watching the people already using the skip was so irritating. They knew there was a line of approximately 20-30 cars waiting, they knew no one else could enter until every car had gone, but they all sauntered back and forth with their stuff from their boots, they stopped and chatted to one another, one guy had a quick cigarette before getting in his car, another sat in the drivers seat and did something on his phone before slowly putting on his seatbelt and leaving...

I just cannot understand people who are so incredibly slow and insist on doing unnecessary things in busy places where people are clearly waiting to use the thing they are using.

The other day, a waitress bringing our food to out table stopped mid-way and chatted to a customer she knew, while holding our plates of food, letting them get cold - why? talk on the way back if you must!

And the amount of people I see letting their toddlers use their debit cards to pay while smiling indulgently as the kids drops the card or taps it wrong with a queue of people waiting, or who stand at the till transferring money, or ask the bus driver an endless series of questions with a whole busload of people waiting, plus the 50 cars behind the bus....

If you are one of these people who fuck about, why? and are you also irritated by the fucking about or am I just far too angry?

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Sophiehoney · 29/06/2025 10:58

BoomerAllTheWay · 28/06/2025 22:49

I’m from the US, and I have no idea what you are talking about. I can’t believe how different our language, or words, are! I have no idea what a skip or crusher is!

Go to a US site you can understand then :)

MrsClatterbuck · 29/06/2025 09:15

I would ask is he wanting the cash one when he says card I would go past him to use the cash one and point out to him that the card ones are free. I'm old now and can't be bothered with people faffing or fanning about. Though I am worried I will turn into my mother who used to faff about paying at the till cause she was really old.

Lastofthesummerwine · 29/06/2025 08:38

comeandhaveteawithme · 23/06/2025 14:40

My local skip is a very busy place. There is often a huge queue of cars and once you are in the queue, you absolutely cannot leave, there is no way of driving out of it or turning around due to the way it's structured. You're going through the skip, and that's that.

Today, I was in the queue of doom and a worker walked along the line of cars and told everyone that they just needed to use the crusher before they could let anyone through and to do that, they needed to wait until the cars already parked up and using the skips, had all left, then they could use the crusher and start letting people in again. It was my lunchbreak so I was in a bit of a rush, but nothing I could do.

But watching the people already using the skip was so irritating. They knew there was a line of approximately 20-30 cars waiting, they knew no one else could enter until every car had gone, but they all sauntered back and forth with their stuff from their boots, they stopped and chatted to one another, one guy had a quick cigarette before getting in his car, another sat in the drivers seat and did something on his phone before slowly putting on his seatbelt and leaving...

I just cannot understand people who are so incredibly slow and insist on doing unnecessary things in busy places where people are clearly waiting to use the thing they are using.

The other day, a waitress bringing our food to out table stopped mid-way and chatted to a customer she knew, while holding our plates of food, letting them get cold - why? talk on the way back if you must!

And the amount of people I see letting their toddlers use their debit cards to pay while smiling indulgently as the kids drops the card or taps it wrong with a queue of people waiting, or who stand at the till transferring money, or ask the bus driver an endless series of questions with a whole busload of people waiting, plus the 50 cars behind the bus....

If you are one of these people who fuck about, why? and are you also irritated by the fucking about or am I just far too angry?

You are NOT being unreasonable. I’ve noticed this fuckery a lot myself and I get really annoyed by it too. For example self service tills. 3 for Cash Payments. 10 for Card payments. I want to pay cash. Guy in front of me wants to pay by card. There are 5 card tills free. Does he use any of those? No. Waits for one of the cash ones to become free. Slowly scans his shopping then pays ….. by card 🤦‍♀️

JJtrying2024 · 29/06/2025 08:19

You need to relax! Do some yoga and chill out. People make themselves ill and stressed by being like this and getting cross at little things

Toooldtocare25 · 29/06/2025 06:42

Completely with you on this. People fannying about get on my wick. See it on planes when people trying to sit down. Blocking aisles in shops. Getting older less patience definitely 🤣

OonaStubbs · 28/06/2025 23:54

A skip is a dumpster in the US I think.

A crusher should stand to reason what it is. It crushes things.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 28/06/2025 22:57

A skip is a big metal container or dumpster in which people dump their rubbish. The tip is a council run facility where people can dispose of their rubbish that can’t go into their domestic refuse bins.

The crusher is a mechanical device that crushes the waste down into a more easily transported size.

BoomerAllTheWay · 28/06/2025 22:49

comeandhaveteawithme · 23/06/2025 14:40

My local skip is a very busy place. There is often a huge queue of cars and once you are in the queue, you absolutely cannot leave, there is no way of driving out of it or turning around due to the way it's structured. You're going through the skip, and that's that.

Today, I was in the queue of doom and a worker walked along the line of cars and told everyone that they just needed to use the crusher before they could let anyone through and to do that, they needed to wait until the cars already parked up and using the skips, had all left, then they could use the crusher and start letting people in again. It was my lunchbreak so I was in a bit of a rush, but nothing I could do.

But watching the people already using the skip was so irritating. They knew there was a line of approximately 20-30 cars waiting, they knew no one else could enter until every car had gone, but they all sauntered back and forth with their stuff from their boots, they stopped and chatted to one another, one guy had a quick cigarette before getting in his car, another sat in the drivers seat and did something on his phone before slowly putting on his seatbelt and leaving...

I just cannot understand people who are so incredibly slow and insist on doing unnecessary things in busy places where people are clearly waiting to use the thing they are using.

The other day, a waitress bringing our food to out table stopped mid-way and chatted to a customer she knew, while holding our plates of food, letting them get cold - why? talk on the way back if you must!

And the amount of people I see letting their toddlers use their debit cards to pay while smiling indulgently as the kids drops the card or taps it wrong with a queue of people waiting, or who stand at the till transferring money, or ask the bus driver an endless series of questions with a whole busload of people waiting, plus the 50 cars behind the bus....

If you are one of these people who fuck about, why? and are you also irritated by the fucking about or am I just far too angry?

I’m from the US, and I have no idea what you are talking about. I can’t believe how different our language, or words, are! I have no idea what a skip or crusher is!

LT1982 · 28/06/2025 20:22

ThomasShelbysfagend · 23/06/2025 15:23

When people get to the till then it’s an utter surprise to them that they need to get a card out to pay. Then ensues a delve in bags and pockets looking for it.
Then… after paying, faffing and fanying around putting the card back into the purse, back into the bag, zipping the bag up carefully… then packing the shopping…
Dear God!!

This drives me insane! Theyve been stood in ghe queue at the checkout with plenty of time to get their card out ready!

Raindropsandsunflowers · 28/06/2025 19:48

I also put people who drive really slowly for no reason in this category. I don’t tend to go over the speed limit but I like to drive efficiently and with purpose, and not drip about, and it drives me a bit nuts when people aren’t getting on in front. I find it really selfish to hold other people up. I feel the same in supermarkets, the tip, petrol stations. Like it’s someone’s time that is being taken away, it’s precious.

Atina321 · 28/06/2025 19:05

I am not at all religious but living by this message makes life much less stressful.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next.
Amen.

CFC1963 · 28/06/2025 18:35

Don’t forget the idiots at the security line at airports ……..

Mumofnarnia · 26/06/2025 13:49

Saladleaves17 · 26/06/2025 11:03

@Mumofnarnia i literally could of written this myself as I have the exact same issue 😂

It’s infuriating isn’t it 😂

Saladleaves17 · 26/06/2025 11:03

Mumofnarnia · 26/06/2025 05:39

It’s even more weird when I put my indicator on to pull on my drive and I have to stop to let a driver coming the opposite way come past and instead of just driving past while I wait for the road to be clear, they stop and flash me to pull on to my drive! Yeah ok then you just sit there and wait then while I manoeuvre on to my drive, idiot! Even more stupid is when they actually pull in and flash me to go, yet where they have pulled in to is straight across my drive where I actually need to go! Just carry on driving instead of stopping FFS! 🙄

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@Mumofnarnia i literally could of written this myself as I have the exact same issue 😂

Workingonthehighway · 26/06/2025 08:56

Lincslady53 · 26/06/2025 07:33

This thread had triggered me. There should be warning at the top of every page!😂I used to work in a city centre shopping centre, in the days when they were busy. The nearest Greggs was quite small and if more than half a dozen were in the queue the shop area was full. Weekdays, not too bad, but Saturdays whole families would queue up together not knowing what they wanted until it was their time to be served. Kids taking forever to choose the sausage roll they knew they wanted before they got anywhere near the shop. They probably all had the same thing every week, but still queued together clogging the whole shop. They could have all waited outside while one went in with the order. I didn't get a lunch hour, just nipped out when their was a lull in customers, so needed to be back ASAP as there was only one other person manning the shop. I hated Saturday lunchtimes.

I used to go into greggs before work it was always full, went in o e day big queue one lady serving. I could see and hear two other servers standing in the back chatting about their hoilday. I did say something and one of them with very bad vrave ambled and to help.

Sophiehoney · 26/06/2025 08:48

limescale · 26/06/2025 08:14

They do have cakes and biscuits that you might want to spend a little while looking at before deciding.
You can’t see them until you are nearly at the front or, if there is a group/family in front, then not until you get to the front.
I have never thought that only deciding what you want when you can see the choice was a problem.

If that's the only choice you have, then fine. That's different. Or if you kmow what you want but then ypu get to the front and they say theyve run out, so you have to rethink. Noone minds that. What people are pissed about is the people that takes ages deciding items that are always on the menu when they had the whole 5-10 minutes they were queuing to decide, then turn to every member of their family and ask them to decide and they go "uuuuummmmmm" before finally settling on the thing they had yesterday.

You see it in tea shops and cafes all the time, when the menu is on a massive board behind the counter for the entire queue to see. Use your queuing time to read and think.

limescale · 26/06/2025 08:14

Sophiehoney · 26/06/2025 07:47

I can't stand people that decide what they want when they get to the front of the queue. It's worse when they also ask their 4 year old what they want. I rarely give my kids a choice at all with food, never mind let them hold up a queue while making it!

It's Greggs FFS. Don't most people go in there with at least a vauge idea of what they want?

They do have cakes and biscuits that you might want to spend a little while looking at before deciding.
You can’t see them until you are nearly at the front or, if there is a group/family in front, then not until you get to the front.
I have never thought that only deciding what you want when you can see the choice was a problem.

Sophiehoney · 26/06/2025 07:47

Lincslady53 · 26/06/2025 07:33

This thread had triggered me. There should be warning at the top of every page!😂I used to work in a city centre shopping centre, in the days when they were busy. The nearest Greggs was quite small and if more than half a dozen were in the queue the shop area was full. Weekdays, not too bad, but Saturdays whole families would queue up together not knowing what they wanted until it was their time to be served. Kids taking forever to choose the sausage roll they knew they wanted before they got anywhere near the shop. They probably all had the same thing every week, but still queued together clogging the whole shop. They could have all waited outside while one went in with the order. I didn't get a lunch hour, just nipped out when their was a lull in customers, so needed to be back ASAP as there was only one other person manning the shop. I hated Saturday lunchtimes.

I can't stand people that decide what they want when they get to the front of the queue. It's worse when they also ask their 4 year old what they want. I rarely give my kids a choice at all with food, never mind let them hold up a queue while making it!

It's Greggs FFS. Don't most people go in there with at least a vauge idea of what they want?

Lincslady53 · 26/06/2025 07:33

This thread had triggered me. There should be warning at the top of every page!😂I used to work in a city centre shopping centre, in the days when they were busy. The nearest Greggs was quite small and if more than half a dozen were in the queue the shop area was full. Weekdays, not too bad, but Saturdays whole families would queue up together not knowing what they wanted until it was their time to be served. Kids taking forever to choose the sausage roll they knew they wanted before they got anywhere near the shop. They probably all had the same thing every week, but still queued together clogging the whole shop. They could have all waited outside while one went in with the order. I didn't get a lunch hour, just nipped out when their was a lull in customers, so needed to be back ASAP as there was only one other person manning the shop. I hated Saturday lunchtimes.

Mumofnarnia · 26/06/2025 07:20

OneLemonGuide · 26/06/2025 07:12

My pet hate is traffic lights… I realise we can’t all move simultaneously, but it should take a fraction of a second to start moving when the car in front does….but often it’s like:

car moves… wait a few seconds… next car moves….wait another few seconds etc. And you then you’re stuck when the lights turn back red, all because certain drivers have painfully slow reactions.

Omg yes! Like why can’t they all just move when the traffic lights turn to green. Surely if the first person goes through them then everyone else behind them should be able to move and get through them too! Yet for some reason everyone is just sat there while the traffic lights are on green.

lightonmetal · 26/06/2025 07:16

Brenda34 · 23/06/2025 15:25

I used to be exactly like you OP. I'm not sure why I've changed but just reading your post reminded me how horrible it felt to be like that. I don't know what changed me but I'm relieved to not be like that any more. It's so stressful!

I felt this too.

OneLemonGuide · 26/06/2025 07:12

My pet hate is traffic lights… I realise we can’t all move simultaneously, but it should take a fraction of a second to start moving when the car in front does….but often it’s like:

car moves… wait a few seconds… next car moves….wait another few seconds etc. And you then you’re stuck when the lights turn back red, all because certain drivers have painfully slow reactions.

Letstheriveranswer · 26/06/2025 07:09

Also, people who walk out of supermarkets, ambling slower than seems humanly possible yet somehow taking up all the space so nobody can nip round them. Pausing when they get to the door, and then stopping dead just outside the door to check their receipt / light a cigarette / phone a friend.

People are just self absorbed with no spatial awareness.

Mumofnarnia · 26/06/2025 07:01

BitOutOfPractice · 26/06/2025 06:58

It’s quite the stressy thread isn’t it? And I get as stressed as the next person with faffers!

Yes I think it’s just a thread for people to vent and get it off their chest.

BitOutOfPractice · 26/06/2025 06:58

Mumofnarnia · 26/06/2025 06:56

So you’re stressed and frustrated because other people are stressed and frustrated lol

It’s quite the stressy thread isn’t it? And I get as stressed as the next person with faffers!