Bridesmaid got engaged on my wedding day...

He probably didn't even think about the significance of the date. Different if she had proposed to him on that date.

Would you have fathered she didn’t tell you and you found it out from someone else. I know it’s horrible and I don’t mean this at all to be mean but life still goes on. That day isn’t now your day forever and I’m sure they weren’t even thinking about you when it happened. It’s horrible what happened but it is what it is. Not fathered, fathered.. I wish you luck and I’m sure your life will be better without that’s man around you anymore.

I don't believe for one second all these lol, it's not your wedding day, zero-empathy twats wouldn't be raging if this happened to them.

I don’t think your friend could win really - she wasn’t the one doing the proposing, would you have wanted her to say no?

Wouldn’t it have been worse if she didn’t tell you and you found out through someone else?

Sorry it’s an upsetting time but at least you found out your fiancé was a loser before the wedding.

Agree with PP who said it’s better not to think of it as your wedding day, as it wasn’t - it was a lucky escape.

I'm surprised at all the insensitive replies.
This must be quite hard for you. You're still getting over what your expartner did, u had a life dreamt up and are possibly still grieving that even if u don't love him anymore. Sorry this has happened xx

The day you cancelled the wedding the date became just another date. You should try and be happy for your friend.

Losing a baby or not getting married really cannot be compared. I am sorry, but this comment is tactless in itself, especially to people who actually lost a baby.

This is no different to announcing your pregnancy on your BFs due date when your BF lost the baby

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You're obviously very sad still and perhaps angry about what's happened with your un-wedding.

Be happy for your friend.

This is completely insensitive of the bridesmaid. I can see how this would sting.

Yanbu it was very insensitive. I also think the boyfriend is a cheap git.

Re-frame it as your lucky escape day. You should celebrate the day too, the day you dodged a gigantic bullet!

How are people not grasping that this wasn’t just the day but also the wedding destination? How anyone could have gone on that trip not totally aware of just how sad the circumstances are is beyond me. If this BF was actually a BF she would have waited until a week or so once back and very gently and sensitively addressed it with her. Not on FaceTime from her flipping wedding destination on the same day. This is no different to announcing your pregnancy on your BFs due date when your BF lost the baby. Good lord people.

This.

Sorry @Doghouse1g1 - it's not your wedding day anymore.

YANBU She can’t help that her BF proposed when he did, but she could have held off telling you for a week or so. It was a bit salt in the wounds behavior to tell you on what would have been your Wedding Day. Thank God though that you found out what an arse hole your ex was now and not 5 years down the line with 3 kids.

You’re not totally out of line here because your feelings are your feelings but sadly I think you do need to suck it up and find a way to just be happy for them, it may take some time but try not to make it a thing otherwise you will come across as the villain. In life I believe in reasons, seasons or a lifetime and I think in this instance everything that happened was meant to. Just think; if they had attended your wedding that day they wouldn’t have got engaged (naturally) so think of the positives. Your time will come when it’s right!

This!!!

The comments about OP being weird is actually mind boggling to me.

It is insensitive and yes I would be hurt too. Your friend should have shown a bit more thought and compassion that 4 months ago your world came crashing down and your dream wedding day in Italy didn’t happen.

The boyfriend could have also picked another day, I’m sure they were there for a couple of days, but men don’t think!

Im sorry OP for your heartbreaks. I wouldn’t find this easy either.

The boyfriend won’t have realised what he’d done.

OP I'm so sorry this happened to you. This must be a really difficult time for you, and I don't blame you at all for feeling the way you do about your best friend's engagement. It all sounds horribly insensitive and you'd think she might have shown a little more thought and consideration to you, given what you've been through with your relationship ending and your wedding getting cancelled.

I'm surprised by the results of the poll, to be honest, and the unkind replies on this thread- I think there are lots of people on here who enjoy kicking someone when they're down, unfortunately.

Have you spoken to your friend to let her know that you're hurt by what happened? How do you think she'd respond?

Personally I think I'd be distancing myself from a friend who pulled a stunt like this. It was incredibly thoughtless and selfless. Not sure how you'd get past that, really.

Just be kind to yourself OP - and if need be, look to your wider social circle. Use this as am opportunity to prioritise people who do actually care about you. I'm not sure your so-called best friend is really deserving of that title.

I’m so sorry OP, I think it was very tactless of your friend. I’m quite shocked by some of the replies you’ve had on here too. You’ve had a terrible time and I wish you well xx

I am flabbergasted at the responses and poll.
OP she’s not a best friend. Not for one second.
to get engaged at what should have been your wedding on the date that should have been your wedding whilst away with other friends who would have been your wedding guests at the area that was your wedding venue and whilst she was meant to be your bridesmaid. And THEN rubbed your face in it on FaceTime.

what a horrible madam.
I hope her relationship ends the same way yours did and she can get a taste of her own medicine.

Well you could argue that it’s rubbing salt in the wound doing it on what would’ve been your wedding day.. but she left it a day or two to tell you, maybe because of that..
I’d call her or arrange to meet when she’s back and congratulate her and just say you weren’t expecting it and we’re still licking your wounds.
Im so sorry your ex treated you so badly! Thank goodness you found out before marrying the prick!

It wasn't your wedding day lol she can do what she wants where she wants

I think it’s completely understandable you would be feeling that way given the circumstances that caused you to have to end your engagement. Of course you would have been feeling sensitive on that day, and personally I think your friend could have been more tactful and self aware and checking in with you. I really hope she can understand where you would have been coming from, because I would have reacted the same as you. I feel like you deserve a lovely vacation of your own this summer OP and just a bit of spoiling yourself. Best of luck xx

Most of these comments are just awful. Op was just looking to off load and maybe even get a little compassion. Whatever happened to BE KIND?

’in a world where you can be anything, be kind’

Caroline Flack