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Bridesmaid got engaged on my wedding day...

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Doghouse1g1 · 23/06/2025 11:40

Girls I really need some advice..
I had to cancel my wedding 4 months ago due to my partner cheating with numerous women.
My wedding should have been Saturday just gone in Italy. Some of the wedding party decided to go ahead with the weekend anyway as it was all booked and paid for (flights, air bnbs etc) which I was fine with as they has paid a big expense to attend.
My best friend (and bridesmaid) was one of these guests and she contacted me via Facetime yesterday to tell me her boyfriend proposed on Saturday (which should have been my wedding day) on the beach in Italy 🙈
I was absolutely gobsmacked and replied saying I was pleased for her but I needed time to process the news and ended the call.
I am happy for her but I do feel it's totally insensitive and I'm in total shock. How do I move past this?

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IsoldeWagner · 23/06/2025 11:44

She didn't get engaged on your wedding day. I'm sorry to hear that you've had such a tough time, but she really hasn't done anything wrong.

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 23/06/2025 11:44

catin8oot5 · 23/06/2025 11:41

You’re being weird

This 😁
So she got engaged on a day that you're not even getting married on anymore? I thought you were going to say they got down on one knee or something in the middle of the photo taking bit or something. Now THAT would have been a bit more unreasonable.

4naans · 23/06/2025 11:43

Her boyfriend proposed. Should she have said no? I'm not sure she could have done much if it was a surprise proposal. If you're upset speak to her fiance.

Bourbonversuscustardcream · 23/06/2025 11:43

Was she supposed to turn him down because of the date? Or just not tell you?

I can understand why you’d be a bit sad about it, but she’s not really done anything wrong.

Steelworks · 23/06/2025 11:43

Can’t really blame her if bf proposed to her. The bf is the insensitive one, and probably just chose the setting as it was gorgeous, rather than thinking about the date.

Pricelessadvice · 23/06/2025 11:42

But it’s not your wedding day anymore.

You can’t claim that weekend for yourself really. I’d be happy for my friend.

catin8oot5 · 23/06/2025 11:41

You’re being weird