Ex and suicide threats…

Just ignore him. Do not engage whatsoever. I'd change my number and email address to be honest.

Don't phone an ambulance. A genuinely ill person may need it. Phone the Police and ask them to do a welfare check as he has threatened suicide. He will shit himself when they turn up. Keep doing it until he has no shit left.

Next time contact the crisis team and give them their phone number. Explain youre concerned due to suicide threats. Will teach them to stop making empty threats to you.

As a PP said, call the police for a welfare check each time. They will soon stop, it is pure manipulation on their part. I understand you care about them, but they have brought enough problems to your door that they will have to face the consequences if they get in “trouble” with the police. At this point you could report them for harassment so they should really already be in “trouble”.

I’ve had to be the one to check someone wasn’t actually going to commit suicide in the past. I was angry far more than I was upset or worried because I know that these threats are about control and manipulation. In general, people who are truly suicidal don’t threaten other people with it and don’t blame it on other people. It seems to always be someone someone kind and caring getting the brunt of this abuse tactic (it was another family member in my case)

I wouldn’t be phoning anyone. I would just totally ignore the idiot. If they do actually kill themselves, oh well, one less abusive asshole in the world. I wouldn’t lose any sleep over it. I despise people that try to control and manipulate using this tactic.

Of course it is not your problem and you are not responsible for their thoughts or actions

it does sound like harressment and I would therefore keep records in case things escalate

Man or woman this person is predatory and means some harm.

Folks the OP is using “they/them” pronouns for a reason. They haven’t said anything about he/him or a man.

@Iykwim- I’ve quoted this as it’s so right and important for you to realise. If they get in trouble because you reported their actions, the problem there is their actions, not the person reporting the actions.

This is very very important for you to understand- controlling people try to make you feel you are responsible for the things they do.

If their actions lead to them being in trouble then their actions are the cause of their problems. Not the person who highlighted their actions to the authorities.

Call the police. Hopefully doing it once will mean the end of any more such threats.

Every time you get a threat phone the police and say you have concerns and need a welfare check, then leave it with them

he will soon stop when the police get mad at him for wasting their time

I worked with Samaritans and women’s aid for several years, suicidal people do ask for help, try to get attention/support to bring them back from the edge. But I’m talking about the ones that have decided to do it, who have set a date and made a plan. They don’t talk about it with loved ones or even professionals who intervene (unlike Samaritans) the ones who don’t want to be brought back.

@Iykwim blocking emails is easy. You just look at the options on the drop down menu at the top and select block sender.

If you can say which platform you use one of us could give a more detailed reply on how to do it.

Your first sentence is a myth. But even if he does choose to end his life that's on him not op. I'd call the police everytime. This is what I did and it worked.

I have name changed for this.

The suicide threats I was receiving stopped when I responded strongly. So listing some of the other times they had made threats, the fact everyone could see through how manipulative it was, the fact their awful behaviour meant I viewed them with utter contempt, but most of all the fact I would never speak to them again and I didn’t care one way or the other what they did. I made it clear that their (pretend) crisis was of no interest to me and they should get a life.

So the abuse stopped, and did the do anything beyond boo-hooing to a couple of acquaintances they thought might listen. No, of course they didn’t.

This!

i also would not want them to get into any trouble with the police because of me.

They would be getting into bother with the police because of their own actions. Not because of you.

This is their behaviour. It's all on them. Not you.

My uncle’s ex wife used to do this. Welfare checks from the police put a stop to it - she didn’t like looking like an idiot in front of her local plods.

people who want to end their life sadly don’t usually talk about it. They make a plan and they do it.
This is a manipulation to get you back in their life. You need to block contact and ideally contact the police about this harassment.
You are not responsible for your ex’s actions and choices and you do not owe your ex anything at all. By facilitating his behaviour you are not able to move on but actually neither is he. You need it to be firm and not give into his demands

Your exes previous police record is not your problem. By not reporting the behaviour, you are enabling and prolonging the harassment. If your ex does get into trouble due to their own behaviour, that's not your fault. The gender of your ex is irrelevant, men and women can both display this kind of abusive behaviour, it's just we probably see it in the media and in forums like MN as predominantly male behaviour. My advice would be the same regardless if your ex is a man or a woman. Report the harassment to the police, blocks on SM, email and phone - don't answer calls where you don't know the number, let it go to answer phone. The answer phone messages are evidence!! Unless you run a business, then most 'unknown' numbers are scam or spam calls, that you wouldn't want to answer any way.

Ohhh my ex used to do this. In the end I just used to call the police and ask them to go and check on him. He soon got tired having the police turn up all the time.
just block the idiot, they never actually do anything and even if they do, you aren’t responsible for his choices.

Is it an option for you to change your phone number and create a new email address?
And then only give those out to people who have absolutely zero mutual connection with your ex?
You could even be honest with your contacts by saying “I’ve changed my number to reduce harassment so please do not pass my phone number on”.

Your ex is a manipulative fuck, they usually move on when there’s absolutely no way of them getting in touch with you and they find somebody else to bother.

Your ex is not your responsibility, I’d eye roll at the “suicide threats” and consider contacting the Police to log the harassment for your own protection x

Apologies assumed "he". Not that it changes my advice.

Please continue to ignore him. He is emotionally manipulating you, using your kindness as a weakness against you.
He most likely won't hurt himself, if he does, then it was his doing, not yours.
You deserve so much better. Stay strong. 💐