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GP displaying family photos, children's pictures dedicated to 'daddy' or 'mummy'

408 replies

Ilovepastafortea · 22/06/2025 18:19

I'm lucky in that I've only had 2 miscarriages.

A friend of mine's DIL has now just had her 5th. Friend went to GP with her & was upset to see GP had pictures of their children & pictures obviously done by their children with annotations saying things like 'I love you daddy'.

This is all rather cute & lovely, but my friend thought rather insensitive when her DIL had recently lost a much wanted 5th PG. She also had concerns about women who are seeking fertility treatment - do they really need to be reminded how fertile their GP is?

We had a long discussion: we considered that on the plus side it shows that the GP is a family person with children & the inference is that they understand the problems of having a family. We considered that people who work in banks, in Boots, therapists, the supermarket, the Jobcentre could argue the same point. They don't display their children's photos.

I agree with her, family photos & personal pictures have no place in a GP's consulting room.

So AINBU thinking the family photos have no place in GP consulting rooms?

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Arlanymor · 22/06/2025 18:22

They work crazy hours and don’t get to see their kids much, so this is a way of keeping in touch with their family life while working their arse off. I think we have gone far too far with this idea of sanitising things so that no one is triggered - I have had some very upsetting fertility related situations in my life and no way would I begrudge any GP - or anyone else for that matter - putting up photos or pictures created by their children. My experience doesn’t trump other people’s pride and happiness in their family.

S1M2I3L4E5 · 22/06/2025 18:22

Sorry you've both gone through this.
But yes. I think YABU.
I think it's lovely. Shows their human side and hopefully gives them a reason to smile when having a particularly shit day!

SnipSnipMrBurgess · 22/06/2025 18:21

100% over sensitivity there, it might be different if you were visiting a fertility specialist or a maternity ward where pregnancy loss is at the forefront of the conversation but not a GP office.

Where do you draw the line, physios, dentists etc?

Holluschickie · 22/06/2025 18:21

This is ridiculous.

qwertyasdfgzxcv · 22/06/2025 18:21

Also, my dad was a Dr and as well as having pics of us and drawings etc he had a box of toys for children visiting the Dr to play with.

Drangea · 22/06/2025 18:21

He probably needs them around to remind him he has to keep going in his thankless job.

qwertyasdfgzxcv · 22/06/2025 18:20

I think YABU and there is over sensitivity happening here.

monicamoss · 22/06/2025 18:20

I had never thought about this before and I don’t really have an opinion, but I look fwd to seeing the responses.