GP displaying family photos, children's pictures dedicated to 'daddy' or 'mummy'

So you're going to tell your friend you've posted her personal story on line for randoms to pick over
im sure she'll be thrilled

But you said:

*I agree with her, family photos & personal pictures have no place in a GP's consulting room.

So AINBU thinking the family photos have no place in GP consulting rooms*

So you agree with your friend and you think GPs shouldn't be allowed family photos in their rooms.

That's really horrible, why shouldn't they be able to seek a bit of comfort during what are long, tough and draining days?

People can't be offended by everything
My son is disabled and I can only dream of him writing me a card
But i don't go round looking to be offended becsuse other people's children are not disabled

What the fuck? Why?

No one is really wrong here.

The GP isn't wrong to have pics of their children in their office.

Your friend's DIL isn't wrong to be upset - but those feelings are hers to deal with, not the GP's.

I hope her treatment will end up working.

Gently, I think it’s unreasonable to expect them not to have photos or pictures. As someone whose been through infertility I do get it, but as someone now lucky enough to have ivf that worked I’m pleased to know GPs have their own kids when I go to ask them about an illness or issue with my child.

Posts like this are why I hate and love Mumsnet in equal measure. Batshit or troll? It’s so hard to tell.

Life can suck OP. That’s just how it is.

I’m sorry but nobody can expect other people, whether it’s a GP or anyone else, to hide pictures of/by their kids at work. It’s part of normal daily life. People who can’t conceive or who have suffered miscarriages have to see evidence of other people‘s children; it’s hard but it’s just normal life. Just as people who have lost a spouse have to see evidence of other people’s lives as couples.

Classic mumsnet to frame being ‘emotional’ and ‘sensitive’ as bad things. The horror!

I work in mental health and wouldn’t display photos of my dc (or acknowledge that I have dc) so the photos make me uncomfortable for a different reason.

Edited to add: colleagues have had their families targeted by some very poorly people.

Maybe we should stop children being seen in public at all, just in case it upsets someone because of their own medical / personal history?

Insanely, ridiculously precious. People have to go into the GP’s office who are suffering worse things than infertility — terminal illness, for example — so your DIL needs to get her head straight and realise that upsetting as it is, there’s nothing wrong with a few personal pictures that make a GP seem like a human being. She needs to be desensitised to this stuff as she will come across it every day, not try to change the world around her.

You are being absurdly unreasonable. Shit happens to people every day. I really think the country is circling a drain with its over sensitivity and rather pathetic lack of backbone. My mate got divorced last year, should I take my wedding photo off the wall in case it triggers her.

Come on OP, sort it out.

I've battled 14 very long years of infertility, I won't go into the details but it's been heartbreaking, and I've not got a happy ending, I'll never have a family.

It's completely ridiculous to be upset about seeing family photos on a doctor's desk - I think that's lovely, they obviously cherish their kids!

It's so self involved and selfish to expect the world to edit itself around you. Your friend has no grounds to be offended.

What if the Doctor were pregnant?
what if you met a new Mum in the waiting room with her new baby?

Infertility must be awful but it’s crazy to think that the rest of the world has to walk on egg shells.

Even in fertility clinics it’s not always hidden - I was under a recurrent miscarriage and there was a pin board of thank you cards in there some of which had babies pictures on.

But reminders and actual physical evidence of children and of course children themselves are everywhere. Should an amputee (for example) feel the same about photos of the GP standing on two legs? If the GP only dealt with fertility issues or amputees then it would be insensitive but otherwise I'm afraid it's a part of life.

No. No. No

The world does not rotate around individuals, even those who sad things happen to.

They will have to experience and cope with the difficulties around the hard life events that we all go through.

There is so much criticism of parents who prevent their children experiencing any difficulties/wrap them in cotton wool.

No-one can expect others to smooth their path through life or sanitise their lives to minimise any risk of them being caused distress.

In all honesty this is the sort of thing that would have pissed me off after the deaths of my children.

Not because its a reasonable thing to be pissed off about, but because its something tangible to focus on rather than just the unfairness of what's happened.

It's unreasonable, but I get it.

Also there's an assumption that those 3 children are the only pregnancies for that GP. They might well have suffered their own losses

If she's upset by the GP being a parent why would the opinions of posters on a site that is predominantly posted on by parents be any more palatable to her?

Sorry it's not your DIL. There are a confusing number of DILs in this post.
Anyway regardless, my answer is the same. Get over it.