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Mil nagging us to move closer to her because she wants my bf closer to her

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Millijille · 22/06/2025 16:46

one thing my mil is good at is nagging🥲 shes great other wise. I have a daughter from past relationship who goes in school. Me and him don’t live togheter yet but we kinda did the dumb think and talked about it infront of my mil. Driving to her takes like 35 min so is not hours away, like she makes is sound like. Theres a house just next by her who will be put in sale soon and shes been NAGGING us about it, that its good for kids and very kid friendly but main reason that she wants my bf closer to her, like walk distance neighbour. I just like yea no.. i heard is never a good idea to move THAT close to inlaws makes it a bit harder since my mil is alone swithout a husband since 10 years ago. So i guess my bf is her most man figure in her life. My bf is stressing over it. It kinda makes me feel like he gets easly manipulated by her nagging. I told him that he be moving there by himself since im not moving there, its so far from everything. Also i don’t drive or have license. I want to live nearby where kid goes to school or at least not that far away. Also im not a fan of where my mil lives. Plus she only want us to move there for her own tought. Because she wants my bf close. She also own an annoying untrained dog that i don’t want to petsit to either. Or have mil just popping up in the house when she wants. Im there be like yea but don’t mil think i also have parents? That she most thinking about herself in this situation

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Maxorias · 22/06/2025 16:50

You don't want to. Ask your boy friend to make up his mind, he can move closer to his mum as a single man, or move in together with you in a different location. You can't make that decision for him.

I don't think I'd want this set up either unless I really really liked my MIL and depended on her a lot for childcare. And even then.

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