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Stepmother wants to be involved on wedding morning

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Jane2806 · 22/06/2025 15:54

My daughter is getting married, it's low key affair. I booked the hairdressers for the wedding, made the booking for my daughter and myself as mother of the bride - there aren't any bridesmaids or sisters, so i figured it would be just the two of us.
The wedding is nigh and I've found out that the stepmother is upset that I didn't also book her in, but I didn't expect that she would be there the morning before the wedding, I thought she would just go with my ex husband.
They got together when my daughter was about 15 so it's not like she raised her or they ever lived together. I said it's fine if she gets ready with us, but I can't lie i do feel some kind of a way about it, i was expecting it to be intimate just me and my daughter. I've already told my mother she can't be there the morning before the wedding. Why does everyone expect to be involved? I thought it was mother, daughter and bridesmaids only. Or is that old fashioned now?

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PopThatBench · 22/06/2025 15:57

I’d say this is between your daughter and her step-Mum unfortunately.
If your daughter wants her there, that’s for her to decide (and not for you to help guide that decision either).

My little girl is only 8 but I wouldn’t want her step-Mum there either for similar reasons, a bit “she’s my daughter” vibe but it wouldn’t be for me to choose.

TinyTempest · 22/06/2025 15:56

All of this is really the bride's decision.