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Was I being overly sensitive here or friend being harsh?

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Medusa0987 · 22/06/2025 15:11

Went on holiday with a friend, my flight back was earlier than here, I had a morning one and she had an evening one.

We were visiting a friend there too, on the very last night friend I was holidaying with insisted on going to this restaurant which apparently had great reviews.
It was 1.5 hours from our hotel on public transport and we'd get there about midnight.
The problem was the hotel refused to give us more than one key! (Sharing a room)

I told her I wasn't very happy with this as I had to be up at 5am for my flight and that she hadn't checked whether I was ok to do this. She told me to chill out, that I was a stresshead and needed to 'make the most of life'.

We're in our 30s! I'm not some 18 year old, making the most of life doesn't mean having 4 bloody hours of sleep. So I went because I didn't really have a choice, the restaurant was unsurprisingly closing but agreed to make the 3 of us (with our other friend) a quick dish.

Got in about 1:40am. What would you have done here? It's the way she completely dismissed me and made me feel bad for daring to want more than 4 hours' sleep.

OP posts:
pikkumyy77 · 22/06/2025 15:37

What is the point of arguing about the key with OP?

OP you should just have refused to go. The key wasn’t an issue. I wouldn’t bother with her again.

Byebyechicken · 22/06/2025 15:35

The mimicking your voice would be the final straw for me. That demonstrates a level of contempt that I wouldn't expect from someone I called a friend.

Somewhat81 · 22/06/2025 15:35

Why couldn’t she have taken the key? Most hotels in fact every single one I have stayed at, automatically locks behind you?

how was the holiday aside from this?
I guess this isn’t your first thread about it!

just another mumsnet holiday of two friends who don’t seem to like one another in the slightest!

Somewhat81 · 22/06/2025 15:33

The hotel refused to give you two keys 🤔

Medusa0987 · 22/06/2025 15:14

She also mimicked my voice at one point which was really rude. I don't even want to know her anymore.

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Medusa0987 · 22/06/2025 15:13

She had the whole next day too, if she was determined to go she could have gone then.

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Barrenfieldoffucks · 22/06/2025 15:13

I would have suggested either she took the key and I had an early night, or I kept the key and let her in when she got back.

Neither of you were massively unreasonable to think the way you did, but you are unreasonable to still be dwelling on it unless she is still going on about it.