Was I being overly sensitive here or friend being harsh?

You probably wouldn’t at home, but on the last night of a holiday to a place you’ll likely never go again, you might well grab the opportunity to have a last adventure. That’s what travelling is about for some people, but similarly someone else might rather have an early night. Both are ok.

This is really weird! Who would want to eat at midnight?! I’d just refuse and tell her she’s being selfish!

I wouldn’t have gone. I would have given her the key and let her go in her own

Sorry but it does seem quite dramatic to me, especially if as other posters have said it happened years ago. If OP was that worried about losing a couple of hours sleep she could have stayed at the hotel. Or she could have just thought what the hell, I’m on holiday, plenty of time to sleep when I’m home so I’ll go out for dinner. And maybe even just stay awake till the flight and sleep on the plane. Point is she wasn’t kidnapped, she had choices, and if she thought friend’s plan was silly she should have said.

It’s not nothing, that’s so patronising. They got home at 1.40am and she was up at 5am for her flight, that’s so shit.

I think OP should have been assertive and said no, but it’s not ‘nothing’.

And if this threads helps OP to dump this friend, then that’s a good thing.

Are you both quite young? This seems like quite a lot of drama about nothing.

no you wouldn't have, the hotel would have let you back into your room, ffs!
what do you think they do when people lose a key?
at worst your sleep would have been slightly disturbed when she got in, but you could still have had 4 hours before and 4hrs after.
I would have said 'be quiet and try not to wake me up when you come in, or I'll do the same back to you when I have to get up at half 5 for my flight."

yanbu to not want to go to the restaurant so late, or to think your friend was rude, yabu to come on MN to whine about it and say she "insisted" you go rather than just using your big girl words at the time and saying. 'No, I don't want to go, you go if you want, I'm going back to the hotel.'

Doesn't it! What an unbelievable restaurant

Exactly
i suspect the op has been a little loose with the truth

I think there was 2 keys
and the op was just pissed off because on their last night, her friend wanted to go out, but the op didn’t because she had an early start. The op has made up the key nonsense so we side with her, but… well, it’s not going to well!

I also would wager this happened years ago

I wouldn’t take that risk. Better for OP to have had the key.

Either that or left her with the key, gone back to the hotel and told them id become separated from my friend who had the only key to the room and so I would need them to let me in to my room since she would not be back until far much later.

I would have gone back to the hotel and told the receptionist my roommate would be coming in late and they would need to give her a key when she arrived because I would be sleeping.

I've never not had two keys for a room, unless for some reason we only wanted one.

Op

one question…. How long ago did this holiday happen?

I would've just not gone and probably would not be giving it any thought once I got home.

Put it like this

your threads are quite memorable fruitcake

You could have still gone back to the hotel? I'm sure they'd have let you in to the room with a master key if you explained the situation to the reception and had your ID. You friend could have kept the key. Couldn't that have worked?

Edited to add: Or you could have gone back to the hotel, and left the key at the reception for her after letting yourself in and keeping the door open a crack till you could get back in. A little thought could have solved the situation.

Maybe the restaurant was McDonalds

Yeah I’m another one really confused about the timings here. You only got to the restaurant at midnight? Were you not ravenous? But then, even though it was a one and a half hour journey back to the hotel, you still managed to be back for 1.40am? So you were in the restaurant 10minutes? If you hadn’t gone to the restaurant you’d have still not got home until 1.30am so not sure why going to this restaurant was such a big deal as it only added 10minutes onto your evening anyway? Unless I’ve horribly misunderstood your timings.

Why didn’t you just go to the hotel and leave the key in an agreed safe place for her?

I would have gone back to the hotel and told her to knock or ring me when she returned

I voted YABU for allowing yourself to be pushed into something you didn't want to do. I'm terrible on little sleep, so I can understand you didn't want to be out late

if you want complete control over your hotel book a room on your own. You shouldn’t have gone to the meal if you didn’t want to go, it’s a holiday so both of you shod do what you want to with minimal impact on the other

Hmmm maybe restaurant was in a different time zone 🤔
(Scraping the barrel here now!)

You both sound very immature. That’s all