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Bonnie Blue

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Horseygirl95 · 22/06/2025 14:14

Settle this debate between me and my friend please!

AIBU to think it's the thousands of men enabling her behaviour that are the problem, not her??

She gets so much stick and backlash, but the way I see it, is that she wouldn't be able to do what she does if it wasn't for the THOUSANDS (at least) of men who pay for her content and turn up to her events.

She wouldn't be able to sleep with people's husbands and teenage sons if the men in question didn't turn up or engage with her!!
My friend thinks no, she's the one putting herself out there in this way and giving the men the opportunity, so she is the homewrecker.

So AIBU to think its actually the men that are the problem here??

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Insanityisnotastrategy · 23/06/2025 07:07

Horseygirl95 · 23/06/2025 06:57

You can't blame Bonnie that men are CHOOSING to turn up to her events and buy her OF. She's offering it, they could say no and leave her high and dry. But no, so many men love that stuff

I think she's appalling. But she's one woman (and of course, misogynists will use that to extrapolate about women as a group). There are far more men taking part, clearly. So if we're talking about men vs women then it says something far more worrying about men as a group. If we're just talking in terms of individual responsibility, she is the instigator and is equally if not more responsible.

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Horseygirl95 · 23/06/2025 06:57

You can't blame Bonnie that men are CHOOSING to turn up to her events and buy her OF. She's offering it, they could say no and leave her high and dry. But no, so many men love that stuff

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Expatornot · 23/06/2025 06:57

There is one word that the world needs more of…

Accountability!

Nobody here is a victim. They are all swimming in the same cesspool and feeding off each other.

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Horseygirl95 · 23/06/2025 06:55

Oodlesof · 23/06/2025 06:15

Everyone involved in this is vile. Everyone involved in this is damaging women as a whole.
But I think by trying to move responsibility away from the woman, the OP is also damaging women. The idea that women are not responsible for their own behavior is damaging to feminism.

So when faced with a decision men can't be blamed for making a bad choice? Surely they should be able to say no 😅

Poor menz. Bonnie blue must be forcing them to shag her and buy her content is she?

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Sunshineandblueskysalltheway · 23/06/2025 06:45

She seems to have a deep dislike for other women, especially feminists.
Maybe she's projecting her own self hatred.

Trolling seems to be a big part of it for her and I think the podcast with Andrew Tate shows that.

I'm interested in where all of that comes from.

Oodlesof · 23/06/2025 06:19

Daffodilsarefading · 23/06/2025 06:17

I blame the men. No excuse for it.

Fair enough!
Women can't be held responsible for their own behaviour. Got it!

Daffodilsarefading · 23/06/2025 06:17

I blame the men. No excuse for it.

Oodlesof · 23/06/2025 06:15

Everyone involved in this is vile. Everyone involved in this is damaging women as a whole.
But I think by trying to move responsibility away from the woman, the OP is also damaging women. The idea that women are not responsible for their own behavior is damaging to feminism.

Sparklybutold · 23/06/2025 05:53

It’s the reality of the beast - women are whores whilst men can sneak in and out, untouched by morality. BB is clearly unwell and the men who have sex with her are dirty abusive ba$tards. The fact that they are someone’s husband, son, dad - is purely abhorrent, but of course this narrative will never become the dominant part of the story.

LSTMS30555 · 23/06/2025 05:51

Jumpingthruhoops · 23/06/2025 01:19

I'm with your friend. If Bonnie Blue didn't create such content or organise such events, the fellas wouldn't be able to take advantage of it/them.

But there’s a demand for that content from those FELLAS hence the money she’s making from it.

beachcitygirl · 23/06/2025 05:35

I find her awful and damaged but the men are the problem.

LSTMS30555 · 23/06/2025 05:34

I wouldn’t be surprised if down the line this has been a huge social experiment at the cost of her mental health and showing women there’s no depravity most (NAMAL) men won’t sink to 🤷🏻‍♀️ All the men in clips dotted about sm had face coverings; they knew it was wrong, they knew the nation we’re hoping no one would show up, they knew there was every possibility of being caught out BUT yet there they were in their 1000s

TheaBrandt1 · 23/06/2025 04:06

She’s not stupid. Her brain must have developed so the self protective instinct that would stop most of us engaging in such risky behaviour that brings physical damage and social judgment is missing. Like a sociopath. And she’s monetising that.

There have always been “freak shows” look at the Victorians laughing at muscly tattooed women and visiting lunatic asylums for a good laugh.

The sinister thing is why this is so ubiquitous and being pushed on us and our youngsters. Concerned by normalisation of lowered boundaries for our young women.

Jumpingthruhoops · 23/06/2025 01:19

I'm with your friend. If Bonnie Blue didn't create such content or organise such events, the fellas wouldn't be able to take advantage of it/them.

TuttiFruittiSweets · 22/06/2025 23:58

The ‘men’ are grotesque. To think that a female gave birth to a baby boy who grew up to be a ‘man’ who wouldn’t hesitate to pay to fuck and degrade another woman is stomach churning. Women like Bonnie Blue are not right in the head.

PracticallyIncompetentInEveryWay · 22/06/2025 23:11

Blame them both. Job done.

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Horseygirl95 · 22/06/2025 22:43

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 22/06/2025 21:05

She is completely responsible for her own foul fame and attention seeking behaviour, she isn't a fucking helpless child. People need to stop trying to blame the fucking idiots that are lining up to shag her, disgusting as they may be.

Why should we stop blaming the men when if it wasn't for them she wouldn't have anyone paying to have sex with her or buying her content????

They are fueling her fire! She is just one woman.

Versus hundreds of thousands of lusty, pervy men, who live amongst us! Yes she is troubled, but she's a one off. Like someone else said if the roles were reversed I highly doubt thousands of women would be lining up to have sex with a man! How are there so many sleezy men out there!!?? What makes them turn out this way on such a huge scale??

Would you stilll blame her entirely if you found out your own husband/male relatives were paying for her services? Wouldn't you expect better of them?

Sorry but I blame the men! If no one engaged with her she'd just look like a desperate/sad woman begging for sex that no one would be willing to give her. It would be cringey as F

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Siriusmuggle · 22/06/2025 21:25

Gardenbumblebee · 22/06/2025 17:22

I find her fascinating in a way. She's from a naice, middle class family and grew up wanting for nothing. I really think she has a personality disorder as she's completely dead behind the eyes and the rage baiting is next level. Watching her in interviews is like watching an AI robot saying the most outrageous things it can think of.

It's estimated she makes around half a million a month on Only Fans. I've struggled my entire life and grew up poor but I couldn't do what she does even for twice the amount she makes. She has literally sold her soul for what? Fame, money? She could have got those with 'regular' pornographic content as she's very beautiful. I imagine she'll be studied after the inevitable downfall.

Nothing naice or middle class about them. They’re pretty local to me.

CalicoPusscat · 22/06/2025 21:23

Jennps · 22/06/2025 20:59

Protected why? Is someone forcing her?

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I can't help but think that her mindset is wrong, sorry 😳

We're going to all disagree about this but at least prostitution is a monetary transaction and not 'fame'.

soupyspoon · 22/06/2025 21:16

Dappy777 · 22/06/2025 20:06

I despise them all. She's posing as some sort of feminist hero, when in reality she's a cold, manipulative little monster out to make money. That's the only thing she's really interested in – money, money, money.

Which she has every right to be and do doesnt she?

soupyspoon · 22/06/2025 21:14

She isnt a victim. Im fed up of people being portrayed as victims for choices they make

M777 · 22/06/2025 21:05

I loved the recent suggestions and articles that she’s trans. And the 1000 men was actually 1001.
the comments were hysterical. Suddenly the men and followers didn’t seem so keen on the idea.

regaess I think she’s a publicity chasing whore, as she does gain financially from selling her body, even if the men don’t pay her directly, who has set feminism and women’s rights back decades. And she should not be promoted in any way

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 22/06/2025 21:05

She is completely responsible for her own foul fame and attention seeking behaviour, she isn't a fucking helpless child. People need to stop trying to blame the fucking idiots that are lining up to shag her, disgusting as they may be.

Jennps · 22/06/2025 21:04

Horseygirl95 · 22/06/2025 17:43

Yes!!!!!!!!

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Yes, what?

Jennps · 22/06/2025 20:59

CalicoPusscat · 22/06/2025 15:20

I wouldn't go that far but I can't pretend I understand what she's doing.

It would be anathema to me. But at the same time I think the men are horrible and she should be protected.

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Protected why? Is someone forcing her?