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Bonnie Blue

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Horseygirl95 · 22/06/2025 14:14

Settle this debate between me and my friend please!

AIBU to think it's the thousands of men enabling her behaviour that are the problem, not her??

She gets so much stick and backlash, but the way I see it, is that she wouldn't be able to do what she does if it wasn't for the THOUSANDS (at least) of men who pay for her content and turn up to her events.

She wouldn't be able to sleep with people's husbands and teenage sons if the men in question didn't turn up or engage with her!!
My friend thinks no, she's the one putting herself out there in this way and giving the men the opportunity, so she is the homewrecker.

So AIBU to think its actually the men that are the problem here??

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Greenfields20 · 23/06/2025 13:31

Insanityisnotastrategy · 23/06/2025 13:14

I agree, it takes women being willing to do these things (or if not, being forced or manipulated into it, which is not uncommon). I'm disturbed by how mainstream things like OnlyFans have become. Generally I would say there's something a bit untypical, if not quite damaged, about women who voluntarily sell sex, just because it must be so unpleasant for the average woman. But that's probably not so much the case if it's just an online show. Nonetheless if we're doling out disapproval, there are far more men involved in the 'demand' side than women supplying.

Of course there are more men looking to buy the sex or buy the sexual photos or buy the used underwear. But if we wish society to change or wish it to move away from the path it seems to be going down then it's no use just trying to change men's views towards it. More and more women are getting involved in an industry that was once reserved for desperate women on street corners and surely we need to ask why, and why they think its acceptable to be part of the 'problem'.

Insanityisnotastrategy · 23/06/2025 13:14

Greenfields20 · 23/06/2025 12:24

Women who are trafficked and coerced is of course another issue. More and more women now with social media, sex websites, only fans etc are making a choice to earn money using sex. Just because there is a market doesnt mean you have to go down that route. Most women choose not to of course. If you want the world to change its not just the men involved in those transactions that would need to change. It's not even a seedy underground thing anymore, there was a woman on this morning I think it was proudly talking about selling used underwear to make money. There was a woman in the paper the other day boasting about how much money she makes on OF. There is a very mixed message nowadays.

I agree, it takes women being willing to do these things (or if not, being forced or manipulated into it, which is not uncommon). I'm disturbed by how mainstream things like OnlyFans have become. Generally I would say there's something a bit untypical, if not quite damaged, about women who voluntarily sell sex, just because it must be so unpleasant for the average woman. But that's probably not so much the case if it's just an online show. Nonetheless if we're doling out disapproval, there are far more men involved in the 'demand' side than women supplying.

Imbusytodaysorry · 23/06/2025 12:44

@Horseygirl95 they are both as sad and messed up her and these “men””males”

Jabberwok · 23/06/2025 12:41

Iloveyoubut · 23/06/2025 12:13

I find the whole situation quite upsetting to be honest. It genuinly disturbs me. There’s one of her. There’s thousands of them. Says it all really. I’m not saying she’s a victim. What I am saying is that for every Bonnie there are thousands of men lining up. Again, it really disturbs me. I think it kinda reminds of me what walks among us.

Whilst I don't disagree with you, I am sceptical that there were 1,000 men in a day, that's seconds each...just consider it for a mo. I'm man and I have never and will never show my erect penis to another man. As a straight man It doesn't feel right. But these men would have had to have done so. Plus they wouldn't have climaxed so what was in it for them? Apologies if I am being too graphic.

She targets very young men who naturally want to have sex. If she was male approaching women in this way she would be arrested. She is grim beyond words.

But what has happened to her that has made her act this way. She looks dead behind the eyes and I am worried she has suffered from some sort of abuse.

Jujujudo · 23/06/2025 12:40

I hear you! Prostitution exists because of men’s “needs”. The majority of attacks and violence and abuse towards women are because of men. While I think Bonnie Blue is awful to have done this, it makes me feel physically sick… it’s the men queuing up to stick their dicks in her that are the reason she did it.

WitchOfSomorrostro · 23/06/2025 12:37

She's disgusting trash. And so are all of the 'men', just as much as her. Whores, all of them - men and her.

Greenfields20 · 23/06/2025 12:32

User135644 · 23/06/2025 11:54

Men take what they can get and are grateful for any women that will sleep with them in a lot of cases. These men are sad, incel and desperate.

For a man to have hundreds of women wanting to sleep with them (or even just a few) theyd have to be super hot and rich and/or a celeb. It's just totally different options.

Edited

Yes generally speaking men and women view sex differently. It's just one of the ways we are different.

But that said dont forget there are also plenty of men who would not touch Bonnie with a barge pole.

Greenfields20 · 23/06/2025 12:24

Insanityisnotastrategy · 23/06/2025 11:41

The same point applies - far more Johns than prostitutes, otherwise they wouldn't make a living. And that's without getting into issues like trafficking and coercion.

Women who are trafficked and coerced is of course another issue. More and more women now with social media, sex websites, only fans etc are making a choice to earn money using sex. Just because there is a market doesnt mean you have to go down that route. Most women choose not to of course. If you want the world to change its not just the men involved in those transactions that would need to change. It's not even a seedy underground thing anymore, there was a woman on this morning I think it was proudly talking about selling used underwear to make money. There was a woman in the paper the other day boasting about how much money she makes on OF. There is a very mixed message nowadays.

Iloveyoubut · 23/06/2025 12:13

I find the whole situation quite upsetting to be honest. It genuinly disturbs me. There’s one of her. There’s thousands of them. Says it all really. I’m not saying she’s a victim. What I am saying is that for every Bonnie there are thousands of men lining up. Again, it really disturbs me. I think it kinda reminds of me what walks among us.

chocolatemademefat · 23/06/2025 12:05

Stop talking about her. She’s best ignored. As are the pathetic men using her body.

User135644 · 23/06/2025 11:54

4naans · 23/06/2025 11:46

You are correct obviously. But people hate on women for having sex more than men.
She's spreads misogynist shit to make money. She's raking it in. It's all for exposure and therefore money. Which this post adds to

Men take what they can get and are grateful for any women that will sleep with them in a lot of cases. These men are sad, incel and desperate.

For a man to have hundreds of women wanting to sleep with them (or even just a few) theyd have to be super hot and rich and/or a celeb. It's just totally different options.

User135644 · 23/06/2025 11:51

LSTMS30555 · 23/06/2025 07:42

@Jerrypicker how do you know she doesn’t have a personality disorder?

common behaviours in (BPD) EUPD

  • Intense Emotional Instability:
  • People with BPD experience rapid and dramatic shifts in mood, often feeling overwhelmed by emotions and struggling to regulate them.
  • Fear of Abandonment:
  • A core feature of BPD is an intense fear of being alone or abandoned, leading to frantic efforts to avoid separation from others.
  • Unstable Relationships:
  • Relationships can be turbulent and unpredictable, marked by idealization and devaluation of others, and difficulty trusting.
  • Impulsivity and Self-Destructive Behaviors:
  • BPD is associated with impulsive behaviors, such as substance abuse, reckless driving, and self-harm, including suicidal thoughts and attempts.

Bonnie seems ice cold emotionally.

She seems to have a severe sex addiction and need for attention which she's been able to monetise

4naans · 23/06/2025 11:46

You are correct obviously. But people hate on women for having sex more than men.
She's spreads misogynist shit to make money. She's raking it in. It's all for exposure and therefore money. Which this post adds to

User135644 · 23/06/2025 11:45

LSTMS30555 · 23/06/2025 05:51

But there’s a demand for that content from those FELLAS hence the money she’s making from it.

The male appetite for sex is limitless. It's not difficult to monetise.

User135644 · 23/06/2025 11:43

Sundaymorningcalla · 22/06/2025 19:43

You are a contributor to her success, she relies on shock factor and folk talking about her.

Bravo. Clever woman, great business acumen.

That's what everyone always said about Katie Price. Bonnie Blue is just the natural evolution of a degenerate western society.

Insanityisnotastrategy · 23/06/2025 11:41

Greenfields20 · 23/06/2025 07:19

Plenty women use sex to sell. It's just a sliding scale of how far they go.

The same point applies - far more Johns than prostitutes, otherwise they wouldn't make a living. And that's without getting into issues like trafficking and coercion.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 23/06/2025 11:27

We can't have female empowerment and then blame men when women do stupid things.
She's grim, the men involved are grim and the platforms that promote her / show her content should be illegal.

Greenfields20 · 23/06/2025 11:15

JustPinkFinch · 23/06/2025 11:04

I can only speak for my own opinion, not everyone here. And I also get that you're desperate to protect the men involved at all costs - the same ones that won't show their faces on camera.

I'm not trying to protect anyone but I dont agree with posters who say the only issue is the men. That's only tackling 50% of the problem. Plenty of women who use sex to sell are not niaive, innocent, vulnerable women. BB is on the extreme end of course. A lot of people are on Only Fans for example selling themselves because it's what they consider to be easy money. The men buy into it yes.

OrangePineapple25 · 23/06/2025 11:07

Hannahbandanas · 23/06/2025 11:03

Part of me feels sorry for her - I think I read somewhere that her mum cleans up after her publicity stunts and that her father is supportive of what she does. I wouldn’t be surprised if there was some sort of childhood trauma that is contributing to how she’s behaving.

having said that I saw a video of her at a football match and she was talking sexually in front of families and kids. If she wants to have sex with hundreds of members of the public and they want to do that then whatever, but to expose people to her behaviour that haven’t signed up for that is gross. Also she was pretty much sexually harassing the security guard that removed her from the football match - telling him that he had to have sex with her as he had been the first to find her.

the whole thing is grim.

Yeah I’m all for each to their own but not in front of children and families. Also like the security guard everyone has to be “in” on it and consenting adults.

I also hate the way she speaks about “lazy” wives. She seems to have changed her tact on that recently. BUT I think she just says it to gain traction and be contentious.

JustPinkFinch · 23/06/2025 11:04

Greenfields20 · 23/06/2025 10:58

I think the message is confused. On the one hand we have a seemingly sane adult consenting woman choosing to do these things to get money or fame or as some people on here suggest because she simply loves sex and we musnt put a woman down for that. But then on the other hand in order to try and blame men it's a case of oh no she is vulnerable and we must protect her and anyone having sex with her is some sort of rapist who doesnt care.

I can only speak for my own opinion, not everyone here. And I also get that you're desperate to protect the men involved at all costs - the same ones that won't show their faces on camera.

Hannahbandanas · 23/06/2025 11:03

Part of me feels sorry for her - I think I read somewhere that her mum cleans up after her publicity stunts and that her father is supportive of what she does. I wouldn’t be surprised if there was some sort of childhood trauma that is contributing to how she’s behaving.

having said that I saw a video of her at a football match and she was talking sexually in front of families and kids. If she wants to have sex with hundreds of members of the public and they want to do that then whatever, but to expose people to her behaviour that haven’t signed up for that is gross. Also she was pretty much sexually harassing the security guard that removed her from the football match - telling him that he had to have sex with her as he had been the first to find her.

the whole thing is grim.

Greenfields20 · 23/06/2025 10:58

JustPinkFinch · 23/06/2025 10:54

I know you look at BB and can appreciate she is doing herself harm. The men know that + everyone in her team too. They get no passes from me.

I think the message is confused. On the one hand we have a seemingly sane adult consenting woman choosing to do these things to get money or fame or as some people on here suggest because she simply loves sex and we musnt put a woman down for that. But then on the other hand in order to try and blame men it's a case of oh no she is vulnerable and we must protect her and anyone having sex with her is some sort of rapist who doesnt care.

OrangePineapple25 · 23/06/2025 10:58

EdenFromTheEast · 22/06/2025 14:34

There are rumours on X that they used to be a man and someone has posted a picture of her (him) from before their transition.

I think they’re AI.

Dweetfidilove · 23/06/2025 10:56

She is not a victim, but neither is she a homewrecker. And if there are a bunch of sexually incontinent men that are more than happy to pay for a vagina that has... I'm not gonna knock her hustle - grim as it may be.

She could set up shop all week long and I wouldn't be buying anything she is selling, because I'm not interested.

If you pay to sleep with or view her content, that to me speaks more about your barrel-bottom standards than anything else. She's selling, because there is a market of undisciplined men willing to spend family money and their time...

It says more about men, that they have made her a millionaire. A grim affair all round.

OrangePineapple25 · 23/06/2025 10:55

I think she’s just a woman who wants to get rich quick and she’s succeeded. I don’t think she’s stupid - she’s very intentional in all she does. I don’t condone her behaviour I can’t passionately condone and nor do I hate her.

I think we all knew these men existed but it is depressing quite how much traction she’s got for being a vessel - it doesn’t reflect well on men.