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To think we’re getting dumber?

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ByMerryTiger · 22/06/2025 13:52

AIBU to think people are getting… thicker? Not just ‘bit slow on a Monday’ thick, but ‘can’t read a basic sentence without spiralling into nonsense’ thick.

You see it constantly on here. Someone writes a clear post: paragraphs, punctuation, even the odd line break. And the replies come from people who’ve either skimmed one word and filled in the rest with fever dreams, or who seem to think reading comprehension is some sort of woke conspiracy.

Post: Neighbour offered me Battenberg after reversing into my fence, do I accept or ask for cash?

Replies:

  • ‘Why are you so anti-cake?’
  • ‘Maybe it was your fault for having a fence.’
  • ‘You should be grateful she reversed slowly.’
  • ‘My mother died in a freak fence collision and I find this offensive.’
  • ‘Fences are a capitalist construct.’

The leap in logic. The total inability to process what’s actually been written. It’s like everyone’s brain has been replaced with a malfunctioning Alexa.

No one seems to follow a thread anymore, let alone a thought. You’ll get replies that directly contradict the post or themselves. Tangents about school shoes, astrology, or ‘back in my day we didn’t have fences’.

It’s not just here either. It’s emails, conversations, work meetings. Words go in, soup comes out. We’re a nation of people who couldn’t pass Year 6 reading SATs but think they should be in charge of policy decisions.

Anyway. Fence is fine. Battenberg was dry. Mind is unravelling.

OP posts:
Blobbitymacblob · 22/06/2025 17:36

Mr Kipling or homemade?

Redpeach · 22/06/2025 17:34

Isn't there a personality trait where people think they are cleverer than everyone else? 🤔

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 22/06/2025 17:32

I think you have a point.

Like already suggested I think the rise of the Internet has had an unintended consequence.

Why learn and remember anything when the answer is at your fingertips?

I reckon we'll evolve into mute creatures with smaller brains, hands that phones fit securely into and muscular thumbs. We won't need to be able to speak because we'll just all be texting each other instead. 😁

ByMerryTiger · 22/06/2025 17:32

Maxorias · 22/06/2025 16:45

I don't think that skill is vanishing, or that people are any dumber today than before. What's happening is that the internet is exposing us to the opinions of a lot more people from a variety of backgrounds and from different countries. Back in the days, people who showed up on TV didn't tend to be your average folk, they were picked from a restricted pool of people (people who wanted to make a career of it, experts called in to comment on a specific issue, etc).

So it's not that there are more idiots today, it's that the same number of idiots who always existed now get greater exposure.

And also perhaps the fact that not everyone has english as a first language. It's my second language and I have no idea what the battenberg thing was about.

It’s my second language, as well! Don’t worry, the Battenberg thing is just silliness. 🤣

You make some really fair points. I can’t disagree with any of that.

OP posts:
FastMauveQuoter · 22/06/2025 17:31

Partridgewell · 22/06/2025 14:03

Why are you so anti-Battenburg? Racist.

Don't you mean Cakeist.

Bridport · 22/06/2025 17:20

Thread on my local FB page now.

OP - Does anyone know where I can take a zimmer frame? NHS local hospital don't want it back and local charity shops won't have them.

First reply - NHS will have them back.

OP - No they won't, I've tried and they said no.

The next seven posts all suggest various local NHS places to try including the hospital mentioned in the OP.

OP - I have tried the NHS and they said no thanks.

Three more posts, all suggesting the same local NHS places already recommended including the one in the OP's first post. Again.

Final post - "charity chop (sic) by pets at home will take it"

Honestly, it's tortuous.

SapporoBaby · 22/06/2025 17:18

You have to remember that people aren’t all replying in the same frame of mind. Some have had a few glasses of wine of an evening and that makes them make less sense.

Alconleigh · 22/06/2025 16:58

RichHolidayPoorHoliday · 22/06/2025 16:36

I don't think we are dumber as a whole specifically, just that dumb people are given far too many media to express their idiocy.

Your friends tend to be in similar "bubbles', so traditionally you were less exposed to sheer stupidity because why would you. Nowadays we go on MN and it 's painful. Sometimes. 😂

There is truth in this. I yearn for the halcyon days where we simply weren’t exposed to so many people’s opinions. Ignorance in that sense was bliss, it turns out.

RunningNananananananananana · 22/06/2025 16:57

I think it's because my local co-op has stopped selling cream slices 😔

ByMerryTiger · 22/06/2025 16:53

ittersbitters · 22/06/2025 16:10

What I have noticed in recent years on Mns is people can't seem to separate statements or facts and personal opinions. So if you say "Trump has a strong chance of winning the election" you must be a Trump fan. Is it a lack of comprehension? The fact that you have to be so binary in your views nowdays?

YES! This! I have noticed it as well and it’s so frustrating! Then there’ll be loads of people attacking the ‘Trump supporter’, telling them how horrible he is, and how horrible they must be for supporting him.

OP posts:
GirlInterrupted · 22/06/2025 16:48

TLDR Black forest gateau! 🤤

Maxorias · 22/06/2025 16:45

ByMerryTiger · 22/06/2025 14:35

Yes, that’s all very lovely but it’s not really the point. No one’s arguing that intelligence is a fixed, one-size-fits-all measure. Of course your grandfather was clever in a different way. Of course we’re generalists now, and language evolves, and table manners are basically Victorian cosplay. All fair.

But my original point wasn’t about who can name more capital cities or whether it’s posher to say ‘napkin’ or ‘serviette’. It’s about the basic cognitive skill of following a narrative and responding appropriately. The ability to read a post, understand its structure, and offer a reply that shows you’ve grasped the argument.

That skill is vanishing. Across all age groups. And nowhere is it more obvious than on Mumsnet. People aren’t just disagreeing, they’re replying to things that weren’t said, ignoring key details, contradicting themselves mid-thread, or going off on wild tangents about Meghan Markle, gluten, and house prices in Kent.

I don't think that skill is vanishing, or that people are any dumber today than before. What's happening is that the internet is exposing us to the opinions of a lot more people from a variety of backgrounds and from different countries. Back in the days, people who showed up on TV didn't tend to be your average folk, they were picked from a restricted pool of people (people who wanted to make a career of it, experts called in to comment on a specific issue, etc).

So it's not that there are more idiots today, it's that the same number of idiots who always existed now get greater exposure.

And also perhaps the fact that not everyone has english as a first language. It's my second language and I have no idea what the battenberg thing was about.

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 22/06/2025 16:39

I suppose some stuff is AI, also.

RichHolidayPoorHoliday · 22/06/2025 16:36

I don't think we are dumber as a whole specifically, just that dumb people are given far too many media to express their idiocy.

Your friends tend to be in similar "bubbles', so traditionally you were less exposed to sheer stupidity because why would you. Nowadays we go on MN and it 's painful. Sometimes. 😂

TroysMammy · 22/06/2025 16:31

Comprehension is shocking.

OP "her weight was on the form"
Next poster "how do you know her weight?"
Ffs.

vincettenoir · 22/06/2025 16:16

I’d love a slice of rum cake. But no, I don’t think people are getting thicker. If Mumsnet was around 50 years ago, there would be just as many people, probably more, replying to posts with batshit nonsense.

ittersbitters · 22/06/2025 16:13

And there is a lot of extrapolating one's own experience to the wider world eg "I bought a house at 20 so it can be done" or "My neighbour has 6 dc so everyone is having too many dc".

The13thFairy · 22/06/2025 16:11

There was a thread recently asking about mammograms, and if we would be ok with a male doing it. So, so many women wrote about how a man delivered her baby, a man was once really gentle with a speculum, a man spotted her breast cancer, if it hadn't been for a male surgeon she'd be dead, and so on. The original question was answered by a bit more than half the posters.

ittersbitters · 22/06/2025 16:10

What I have noticed in recent years on Mns is people can't seem to separate statements or facts and personal opinions. So if you say "Trump has a strong chance of winning the election" you must be a Trump fan. Is it a lack of comprehension? The fact that you have to be so binary in your views nowdays?

CranfordScones · 22/06/2025 16:09

I don't need to read your post. Despite being dumb, I invoke my superpower of inference. The obvious solution is to cancel the cheque.

NotSmallButFunSize · 22/06/2025 16:01

Yanbu - people you come across day by day are just so overwhelmingly stupid.

Think how stupid the average person is and then remember that means half the population are even more stupid than that.

I'm not even sorry to think like that. Sick of being surrounded by such utter idiots tbh

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 22/06/2025 15:37

Totally not unreasonable OP! You put it so well with :

"It’s like everyone’s brain has been replaced with a malfunctioning Alexa."

I read a lot of dystopian novels and sometimes it feels like we are in one!

Joyinthemoning · 22/06/2025 15:19

No wonder they changed their name to Windsor if they still get grief 100 years later.

ThisUsernameIsNowTaken · 22/06/2025 15:15

I went to a training course the other day. There were probably around 60 attendees. The first session was just under 90 minutes long. After 1h there was a constant noise from people getting up to go to the toilet, getting water, leaving early. Worse than a bunch of school kids.

PracticallyIncompetentInEveryWay · 22/06/2025 15:09

I definitely am.

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