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To want to just be left the fuck alone??

83 replies

ButteredRadishes · 22/06/2025 12:11

I'm ill, hot, ratty, all touched and needed out!

I'm trying to lie down for a bit in the cool bedroom, with instructions to "LEAVE ME ALONE, Mum is ill"

It's been 20 minutes, the child had been in twice, DH has been in asking where some random items are. Then DD wants a cuddle. I suggest he takes her swimming and it's ..." oh aren't you coming?/mummy I want you to come".

Just all fuck offffffff.

I'm going to have to go out in my own in a bit, just to stop them harassing meeeeee.

OP posts:
M777 · 22/06/2025 12:18

When better add a lock to your bedroom door

Improved my sleep and health immeasurably

Now they have to knock
actually they’re mostly adults and moved out, but it’s been there for years

but I still lock the door when I want peace

in the meantime I’d suggest a loud “F off I’m ill”, or child appropriate swear words
or text OH exactly what you’d want to shout, in caps

Tulipssndturkeys · 22/06/2025 12:16

Tell dh - I’m ill and going to bed - unless nuclear war breaks out I am not to be disturbed.

shut and lock the door and try and rest.

don’t engage until you have had a rest.

am sure he can manage for a couple of hours.

you and your health matter.

put yourself first fir a couple of hours .

TinyTempest · 22/06/2025 12:15

Call your DH into the bedroom and tell him in no uncertain terms that you need him to do the parenting right now.

Thepeopleversuswork · 22/06/2025 12:14

Totally feel you. One of the reasons I divorced my husband was his total failure to step up in these situations and recognise I needed to not be "on call" all the time for everyone in the household.

It's excusable from a child. Why the fuck can't your husband manage it?

Ghht · 22/06/2025 12:14

Is there anywhere you feel comfortable going where you can rest? Do you have any family/friends nearby where you can drop in for a few hours to get some sleep?

Your DH should be on top of this and be keeping the kids away so you can get a break!

Festivespirit85 · 22/06/2025 12:14

ButteredRadishes · 22/06/2025 12:11

I'm ill, hot, ratty, all touched and needed out!

I'm trying to lie down for a bit in the cool bedroom, with instructions to "LEAVE ME ALONE, Mum is ill"

It's been 20 minutes, the child had been in twice, DH has been in asking where some random items are. Then DD wants a cuddle. I suggest he takes her swimming and it's ..." oh aren't you coming?/mummy I want you to come".

Just all fuck offffffff.

I'm going to have to go out in my own in a bit, just to stop them harassing meeeeee.

Bless you, I hope you feel better soon.
It's like mums aren't allowed to be I'll or to rest when not well.

Katemax82 · 22/06/2025 12:12

I hear you. I have 4 kids

MiloMinderbinder925 · 22/06/2025 12:12

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