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XiCi · 22/06/2025 22:09

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AnnaQuayInTheUk · 22/06/2025 22:07

I was 26 when I met DH. We married one year later.
That was 32 years ago. Still love him to bits

TwistofFate · 22/06/2025 20:59

We've been together 17 years, married for ten.

Brenda34 · 22/06/2025 20:53

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Bbq1 · 22/06/2025 20:52

I was 23, dh 27. We were engaged 6 months later, married 18 months after that. We've now been happily married for 26 years and experienced so many good and bad times but we always got through everything as a team.

Lornalena · 22/06/2025 20:44

I was 27 when we met, married at 33. Been together 18 years.

alcoholnightmare · 22/06/2025 20:29

I think I was about 25/26. We only lasted two years and I’ve been married with children since. He was unquestionably the love of my life. I’ll never know love like that again.

Seawolves · 22/06/2025 20:29

54 and I thought I'd grow old with him.

FancyCatSlave · 22/06/2025 20:27

I don’t believe in “love of your life”. Relationships come and go, some last a very long time but some don’t. For example I know plenty of people that lost one partner through death that found another. They didn’t love one of them more than the other, just different people and different times.

I’m getting divorced at the moment as we just stopped liking each other very much, he’s my DD’s dad and I will always love him. But I might love someone else one day too and I definitely had a love before that. None of them were for life though.

TheAmusedQuail · 22/06/2025 20:24

I was 41. It was amazing. I had the perimenopause hormone surge and was absolutely rampant. He had had a long drought, in between relationships and was gagging for sex. The erotic fireworks were incredible.

He also turned out to be a weak bloke that I ended up dumping. BUT he was definitely the love of my life. Just not ALL of my life. LOL

SquigglePigs · 22/06/2025 20:20

I was 18 when I met him at university but we didn't start dating until we finished uni at 22. Still with him 20 years later!

CC222 · 22/06/2025 19:57

I’m 40 and single. Never had a problem finding relationships, but now I’m holding out for something special. I have hope I’ll find the one but I’m ok with waiting…
There is also the one that got away, but I ended it back then. It wasn’t the right time and now he’s married but we spoke once and agreed that there has never been anyone else that compares to each other. I’d never entertain getting involved while he’s married though, so I’m holding out for another true love…
You’re still so young, don’t miss out on enjoying these years just because you’re single. Life can still be enjoyed in so many ways without having a partner. Find your happiness, and when you find love again, that will add to your happiness..

ArcticBells · 22/06/2025 14:26

I’m still waiting at 63

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Tulisaaa · 22/06/2025 14:25

Why do I genuinely feel like my life is over?

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CheerfulBunny · 22/06/2025 14:24

Thepeopleversuswork · 22/06/2025 10:46

I don't really believe in the concept of "love of my life" and "the one" etc. The idea of there only being one person in the whole world who is right for you is daft.

Finding the right person for you depends in large part on when you are both ready to commit and do your best to make something work. No relationship will ever meet all your needs and while compatibility is important I think there are multiple potential partners for any one person. It's how you both conduct yourselves as the relationship progresses that ultimately decides its success, no particular magic.

I met my now DP when I was 44, three years after my 12 year marriage broke down. We got together when I was 46, moved in five years later. I don't believe he is "the one": he's just a good partner with whom I have a good relationship. But in large part I think this was because, having had a bad marriage, I had a much clearer idea of what I wanted and didn't want in a partner.

This is why in general I think young marriage is a bad idea, although I know a lot of people disagree. I just don't think a person in their late teens or early 20s is emotionally mature enough to know what they need to sustain them for the rest of their life. I think you need to have tested the waters a bit before you get there.

Totally agree. I don't believe in love of my life or soul mates. I think relationships can be hard work at times and idealising them can be dangerous. My parents were very happily married for nearly 40 years (until my mum died) so I'm not dissing marriage but I'm certain they had their ups and downs.

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Tulisaaa · 22/06/2025 14:18

I think I might be depressed

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lifeisgoodrightnow · 22/06/2025 14:12

27- married 30 years next year together for 32 this year. Love him.

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Tulisaaa · 22/06/2025 13:34

dudsville · 22/06/2025 13:00

35, I needed the maturity of years to know myself, to understand my ethic and to choose wisely. I had settled down with someone previously, but I was 18 when we met and I hadn't really become myself yet. I realised at 30 that I probably wanted out of that marriage, but I don't do anything quickly, so I was 35 by the time I met the love of my life! I do wish we'd met sooner, but we didn't, so I'm just grateful we met.

Suppose you were in a similar situation to me.

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dudsville · 22/06/2025 13:00

35, I needed the maturity of years to know myself, to understand my ethic and to choose wisely. I had settled down with someone previously, but I was 18 when we met and I hadn't really become myself yet. I realised at 30 that I probably wanted out of that marriage, but I don't do anything quickly, so I was 35 by the time I met the love of my life! I do wish we'd met sooner, but we didn't, so I'm just grateful we met.

Fletchasketch · 22/06/2025 12:51

AmIthatSpringy · 22/06/2025 12:22

Well you got lucky

Some of us are still on the jetty, waiting. You can't know that the OP hasn't missed the boat too

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I didn’t get lucky, I spent a hell of a lot of time and money on therapy working on my own issues and so consequently was in a good place when the right person came along.

Some luck comes into it of course, but attitude plays its part too. I would have screamed at someone who’d said that to me five years ago. They would have been right though. I hope you find whatever it is you’re looking for.

x2boys · 22/06/2025 12:49

Tulisaaa · 22/06/2025 09:57

After some inspiration 🤣 just turned 37 and in no rush for a relationship after my 20 year relationship ended a year ago.

Not me but my sister was in her late forties ,her marriage had ended in divorce after 20 years and she met her current partner a year or so later
They seem very happy they don't live together and they both have adult children,but spend a lot of time together it suits them.

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Tulisaaa · 22/06/2025 12:40

Sometimes I regret ending my 20 year relationship. He literally just pleased himself and left most of the parenting to me whilst he went out partying with the woman who he didn’t fancy at all and her brother (he is with her now)

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twilightermummy · 22/06/2025 12:32

Only lasted a few years due to us moving away to separate unis etc but despite having children and other relationships, he will always be the love of my life. Nice to experience it at least once in life I think.

Fimofriend · 22/06/2025 12:31

We got married two and a half years later.

This was considered slightly scandalous as we are Scandinavians and lived in a Scandinavian country then and it wasn't and isn't normal to marry that young. Especially not if you are academically inclined. Anyway, we celebrate our 29th anniversary next month

jjeoreo · 22/06/2025 12:29