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AIBU to say no to a Skiing Trip with the school?

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Lollylucyclark101 · 21/06/2025 23:14

So when my son was 12, he was invited to go on a Skiing trip with his school. The total cost was £3000… this didn’t include spending money or equipment hire; and extras we needed to buy before going. Me and my husband (not my sons father) said no; as we couldn’t afford it. My sons now 18, and no it’s never effected his life.

my stepdaughter is now 12 and now has had the same letter from her school. £3500. Automatically I’ve said no, as we can’t afford (£1500 odd quid) it.

Shes shown no interest in Skiing ever and why should the children be treated differently?

anyway, know this is going to be a huge row. Husband is saying “maybe, we will see” which to me is giving her false hope, when he should be saying no, regardless of if she gets upset. Because he KNOWS we can’t afford it.

there loads of other cheaper trips she can go on…. Germany, Milan etc, but the skiing trip is just out of our budget.

i don’t think schools should be allowed to do these expensive trips either! Only the rich kids get to go 🙄

anyway….. am I being the AH here?

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MamaInManolos · 21/06/2025 23:21

It's that much as it's paying for the teachers to go too! Thats what i got told 😵‍💫🤯😫, doesn't seem fair and is very expensive for one trip. I did 2 of these school ski trips back in the 90s, cost then was £1k each, so much money for my parents..! Didn't include spending, special ski clothing etc. Did it change my life..no but have fond, funny memories yes, but could have gone without definitely, and been none the wiser...

CarpetKnees · 21/06/2025 23:19

Of course you aren't.

The only reason it would be different is if your financial circumstances were massively different now.
I'm presuming they aren't as you have said you can't afford it.

That is a ridiculous amount even for a ski trip. She'll live.

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