Disappointed in DH's reaction

Honestly - go ahead, put yourself first and do this!!!!! Don’t take his BS PA-ness, you deserve a life outside of your home/work/parenting role and this is a perfect way to reintroduce the importance of you time - regardless of what that time is spent doing, don’t back down and listen to his crap - you have one short life and if you give in to his negativity surrounding this you’ll shrink even smaller …. Best of luck and update us when you’re over the finish line - you’ve got this!!!!!

They love wheeling out "the family time" when it's convenient don't they!!!
He wants a maid not a wife. Does he do housework when WFH??

As suspected he is a lazy useless cunt.

Why the fuck is it your job to do the cleaning if you both work full time? He certainly is the 'big I am' isn't he? Telling you to cut your hours at work, that your cleaning isn't up to scratch and that you wouldn't be able to do the marathon.

He sounds fucking awful, if I'm honest. You sound great! Tell him to get to fuck and that you will be training on Sundays and he needs to help in the house more.

If you actually watch the marathon on tv there are all shapes and sizes who are able to run the distance, I know two people who got in and went from zero running to running the whole distance. Your DH is being very unsupportive.

'It would be a lot of time and effort away from him and the kids'

That's it.

Good luck with your training, well done on getting in!

Your wfh days aren't for doing housework! Loading the washing, emptying dishwasher when making coffee etc, fine. Actual housework.....no!!!!!

What house work does he do ?

He needs a slap.

If you want to do this , go for it , show him 💪💪

He sounds like a selfish gobshite

Please run the marathon (if only to put two fingers up to your DH). What makes him so incapable of sorting the cupboard/washing?

My ex was like this. After many marathons and realising that he was a jealous, easily threatened, man child, we got divorced. He has taken up running, thinks he’s the bees knees and accepts he was a twat. Too late.
Train. Enjoy. Achieve something cool for you.

Yep, get a cleaner.

well show him then. start sensible training and you will soon get there

“Actually darling you’re right so we’re getting a cleaner and you’re paying half.”

I run a lot (albeit very slowly) including occasional marathons. I disagree that it's a difficult to fit into family life if your are prepared to be creative and compromise e.g. early mornings which you have already factored in. I run when the kids have classes that I need to take them too. And occasional lunch time when I wfh. Get a good base fitness and yes it gets a bit intensive the 2 months before to build up your distance but if your goal is to get round and enjoy the challenge you'll do great 😃

It is definitely possible to train for the marathon, and you'll feel amazing as you work through the training and your confidence grows.

Mr house proud can crack on with tidying cupboards or shut up. Those are his only options. He can clean the fridge and plan next week's meals afterwards.

I would tell DH to fuck right off if he tried to tell me I couldn't do something because of bloody housework. Am raging on your behalf.

I know nothing about running, let alone running marathons, so have no idea how reasonable or unreasonable that idea is BUT, I suspect you know how very unreasonable your dh is for thinking he is fine to spend half of every other Saturday at football, and to spend several days away with friends each year, but to suggest it is not okay for you to have some time to yourself to do whatever it is you want to do.

To that question, obviously YANBU at all.

Tell him your training will absolutely impact on time with him and the kids, and that you’re absolutely fine with that, and expect him to pick up the slack and do so cheerfully.

OP please do this marathon! Your hubby is being a dick.. let's prove him wrong. Start a thread about your training, or even this one, let us know how you're getting on, we can hold you accountable and cheer you on the whole way! London marathon is in what, May? Loads of time. My hubby has ran lots of marathons including London (which was amazing by the way) and I supported him all the way! Such an achievement and what a role model you'll be for your kids.

And what does he do around d the house? Jack shit probably.

Time to actually produce a spreadsheet of his time in /out of the house..
Suggest your free time will now be equal to his.

Or is he pissed you might be training with A MAN?.

Absolutely he is trying to put you off doing it. But you need to tell him that you are doing this, with or without his support, so he needs to get used to it and you would appreciate his support. Hopefully he will give this to you. I was fortunate in that my DH was behind me and wanted me to do this for me and he knew how important this was to me.

But please, please do this. Getting a ballot entry for the marathon is fantastic and you are very privileged to have it.

Also, I trained and ran the London Marathon in the year that I turned 40. I had only done up to 10K at that point, and VERY slowly and had not run consistently for a while. But I was absolutely determined that if I was going to do this, then I was going to do it properly.

I trained for this, worked full time and had 2 school aged kids when I did it and yes its hard, but with organisation you CAN DO THIS!!!! Please don't let him make you believe that you can't.

I got up early several times a week to do my shorter training runs and up early on Sundays for my long run which I did before the kids even got up.

Running and finishing the London Marathon continues to be one of the best days and experiences of my life. I would encourage you 100% to do this!!!

Marathon schmarathon. You’re married to a selfish sexist pig.

This. Sabotage was the first thing that came to my mind.