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Ratio of men to women in china

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Thomasina79 · 21/06/2025 16:10

Apparently there are 30 million more men than women, due to a past history of favouring boys over girls, with abortions of female fetid, adoption of girls, even baby girls being abandoned by the road. So I can’t feel much sympathy about this. The phrases you reap what you sow comes to mind. I remember years ago seeing ‘The dying rooms’ about baby girls in orphanages being starved. Now the men are complaining that they have no one to marry!

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SociableAtWork · 21/06/2025 17:04

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LIGHTHEARTED

Maybe Chinese women will get a good deal then - they could have multiple husbands in a reverse of the ancient (and not so ancient) harems. Might be a win-win.

I’d choose the following and they’d all live at the end of my garden, and brought indoors if and when required…

one to talk to (interesting, well read, good listener)

one to earn the money (hard working, always at the office, wealthy)

one for an amazing sex life (you don’t need the details!)

one to clean up after everyone (notices ALL the messes and acts quickly)

one to have children with (genetically blessed)

one to be the children’s father if previous one is lacking)

And maybe one more so I could have them on a weekly rota; perhaps ‘one to organise everyone else’

GreatWhiteWail · 21/06/2025 16:58

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Well the "gold diggers" will have their pick of men, since there aren't enough women to go around. Hmm

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 21/06/2025 16:58

@TomatoSandwichesno point feeding it

TomatoSandwiches · 21/06/2025 16:56

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What gold?

Women just want a man to be able to look after himself, to not be a burden and you think that's expecting too much?

Kulwinder54 · 21/06/2025 16:54

Same issue in India, although there wasn't a one child policy. New born baby girls being dumped in rivers etc.

Allergycream · 21/06/2025 16:52

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MrsTerryPratchett · 21/06/2025 16:27

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Missing_women

China is not the only place. Millions of ‘missing’ women from the population.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 21/06/2025 16:22

greencartbluecart · 21/06/2025 16:16

It’s linked to sexism and mysogeny really - the one child just exposed how strong that is

That's a very simplistic analysis. In rural China it is traditional for the wife to move in with the husband and his parents. If there is only one child, the daughter moves out, leaving no one to care for her parents in their old age. So fear of having no one to care for them would certainly have fed in to the desire for a son.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 21/06/2025 16:16

The men who have no one to marry were not the architects of the one child policy. Also, the article explains that are unable to find a wife are viewed as failures in Chinese society, moreso than the UK, for example.

greencartbluecart · 21/06/2025 16:16

It’s linked to sexism and mysogeny really - the one child just exposed how strong that is

Game0fCrones · 21/06/2025 16:16

Its been coming down the track for years. I dont know what the Chinese thought would happen.

fount · 21/06/2025 16:14

Well, to be fair, the men now reaching marrying age weren't the ones who made these choices. Their parents' generation and government policies are to blame.

IwasDueANameChange · 21/06/2025 16:14

This is well known and has been an issue in china for a while. There's no "apparently" about it. Its linked to the one child policy - people favoured having sons.

Hardtum · 21/06/2025 16:12

“Apparently”

source?