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Let dd(11) shave her hair?

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yestothat · 21/06/2025 15:24

Dd(11) wants to shave her hair to a buzz cut. Shes slowly gone from hair down to her bum to a bob in the last year which when she got it said she hated it and wanted her long hair back for a couple of weeks but now likes it and has kept it in that style.

the mentioning a buzz cut has been on and off happening for months but she’s always moved on quickly.

As it’s been so hot the last few days the complaining about her hair being sweaty and wanting to shave it has ramped up to almost constantly and I’m tempted to just get dh to do it for her tonight.

Is that reasonable? Would others say no?

school would be fine the only policy is no unnatural colours and long hair having to be tied during sports/ science.

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Hardtum · 21/06/2025 15:38

yestothat · 21/06/2025 15:31

I missed out my hesitation in the OP.
She’s quite sensitise and would be be the only girl in the year with that short hair.
I’m predicting it’s going to cause nasty comments and that she’s going to get more attention from it than she wants or regret it.

So…. Easy solution

IF you still want it, sure. The day after school term finishes

RichardOsmansfondueset · 21/06/2025 15:36

I wouldn’t do a buzz cut. Why not look at modern pixie styles together and book an appointment at a hairdressers for the start of the summer holidays and then she might have changed her mind anyway.

HoneyPie12 · 21/06/2025 15:36

If I were you I would ask her to comprise first with a shaved undercut for a couple of weeks. She gets a new shaved style but if she changes her mind it can be hidden, changed and grown out. If she just loves it and is ready for the step after, then shave.

PondUnderTrees · 21/06/2025 15:35

Based on some decisions DS made about things at that age, whose consequences it turned out he’d been too young to think through, no.

Hardtum · 21/06/2025 15:33

I would say… if you still want it the day after school summer term finishes… go for it

I reckon… she won’t

MrsTerryPratchett · 21/06/2025 15:33

DD had the shortest hair in her school for a while. As long as you talk through the likely consequences, the crap way it grows out, the fact that she will need a hat because of sunburn, and that people will be weird and try to touch it, oh yes and some people only find out they have a weird-shaped head when they shave it, knock yourself out.

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yestothat · 21/06/2025 15:31

I missed out my hesitation in the OP.
She’s quite sensitise and would be be the only girl in the year with that short hair.
I’m predicting it’s going to cause nasty comments and that she’s going to get more attention from it than she wants or regret it.

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Crunchymum · 21/06/2025 15:30

It's a no from me. Too drastic. Too unnecessary. And not a decision I'd be comfortable allowing mine (12yo boy and 10yo girl) to make. I still provide guidance on appropriate haircuts / clothing etc.

TheNightingalesStarling · 21/06/2025 15:28

See if you can find some sort of AI tool that let's her play with her hairstyle and try them virtually?

Over40Overdating · 21/06/2025 15:28

Why not - it’s school holidays soon so if she hates it, it will grow in a bit by next school term.

I had a number 3 cut from 11 - 18 and whilst I did get a lot of ignorant comments about looking like a boy, I look back at the pics now and envy the cheekbones I had and all the time I saved by not having to faff on styling!

MiloMinderbinder925 · 21/06/2025 15:26

If it's fine for school, then go for it. It will grow back soon enough.

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