Let dd(11) shave her hair?

Are you an 'edgy' family? (not being rude but it would really stand out where I live) or very conventional

What's her overall style?

Will it go with that or not?

I would say a buzz cut is too extreme. Try a pixie cut.

What’s the equivalent of a buzz cut @FuckityFux ?

I don’t see the problem. I had the equivalent of a buzz cut when I was 13 in the early 80’s. It was mainly due to a friend ‘helping’ to lighten it and using 60vol peroxide & bleach and my hair disintegrating and falling off. 😩

I actually kept it fairly short throughout school and have never left it to grow longer than a chin length bob. It’s currently a purple pixie cut.

I still hate long hair and dresses on me. 😂

What about an undercut or a similar style where only part of the head is shaved? Would make her hair lighter but less extreme than going straight to a buzz cut and easier to grow out if she decides she wants longer hair again whilst also being easy to turn into a buzz cut if in a few days/ weeks she is still adamant that’s what she wants.
Eg: https://www.google.com/search?sca_esv=f9f414d1fdafdf5e&rlz=1CDGOYI_enGB644GB654&hl=en-GB&udm=2&fbs=AIIjpHxCtmkhHKu27CW9pNYJlh4RyTNmPHyjG80UBMDOJp-qbfWMZhFERvayKIk37yGj0PPpnWdtWoIKwO71AgUkCYJLKrf7G7lsHpI0zvxPQMHU9_PyUIlOm6yuEBHK9Eui8c-jbl-DnKPYcdBctQNB0jVdx1ighxx6C0uLx14UQ-y3-MAWdYESwf2qxPVeqQ_hH8cXI_HiXp7U0Vh0wR-aj_MIsVlipScIo2l6aje7SlQP7L7M-Dk&q=girls+undercut+hair+bob&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwikvu_Z6oKOAxXVXUEAHebeC0oQtKgLegQIEhAB&biw=428&bih=751&dpr=3

Agree with others, if she still wants it, do it at the beginning of the summer holidays. Then if she hates it she can wear a sun hat or cap and there's time for it to grow out a bit before next term.

Absolutely not at that age and in a climate where children get bullied and left out of peer groups for being different.

I have allowed my primary age daughter to have a short pixie cut, but I wouldn’t just buzz it all off - I wouldn’t let my son do that either, at least not without a middle stage between bob and practically bald. It’s pretty drastic and unlike a pixie there’s no way of playing with styling it or clips if you don’t like it, it’s all just gone.

To be honest he's had a buzz cut (number 1 all over) when he was younger. He has a lumpy head. We stick to number 2 / scissors on top.

Its only hair. It'll grow back.

I've never stopped either of mine from doing what they wanted with their hair. It's not permanent.

This is the sort of thing people used to say about women wearing trousers - draws attention, negative connotations...

My DD had a pixie cut when she was 8. Would she go for something like that to start with to see if she liked it so short?

I'd take her for a pixie cut. I wouldn't buzz it because it wint have any shape.

It is clearly unfair and sexist to say yes to DS but not to DD.

You're projecting your fears onto her here, she may be more sensitive generally if she can sense you worry about comments.

I would, but we live in a very easy going area. Lots of older student girls here with shaved heads too. I think it's a great look.

My dd wanted a "boys" shaved haircut in Yr 6. She begged me and I was really torn about it because half of me knew it was her hair and her choice but the other half was worried she would really regret it in high school.

She has also got very thick hair which would be a nightmare to grow back.

I didn't let her in the end. I said wait until you go to high school and then see how you feel and if youre still sure then we'll talk about it again. She was quite moody about it for a while, but now she says all the time that she's so glad I didn't let her do it because shes very confident in not following trends and standing up to bullying, but she still didn't want to face all the stick she would have got as school. She also loves her long hair now.

I think maybe you should go for a pixie cut done at a proper hairdressers instead for now.

I wouldn't let my ds have a buzz cut either though because I think it looks awful on anyone.

You really don’t want the easy solution of simply saying “sure, day 1 of summer holidays” do you?

I would let my DD. Is an usual style for a young girl but I think it's quite cool and edgy.

I'd make sure she thought it through but it's just hair and it grows back if she changes her mind.

Weirdly I'd be less happy for my DS to get a buzz cut as people would think he was a thug/chav. I think buzz cuts on boys under 16 look terrible.

I'd rather my ds had a fade/styled short hair rather than all over buzz but yes I would be happier for him to have a buzz cut than my DD. Might sound like double standards but we live in a society/culture that would look twice at a girl with a shaved head but not at a boy... therefore it will draw more attention which maybe negative and like I said, connotations with being unwell.

I would be strongly discouraging this....I'd say she can have a very short pixie haircut maybe but just shaving it all off is very drastic. She will massively be drawing attention to herself and in all honesty lots of people will assume she's unwell.

DD went from mid-back length hair to a really short pixie cut with shaved sides when she was 8. She loved it, a few kids at school tried to make comments and she just shut them down with "it's my hair". She decided to grow it out at 10, one year on and it's back down to below her shoulders. She loved it and never said she regretted her decision.

Are you talking 11 from Stranger Things? I'd so then I wouldnt

My DD went from long hair to bob to short hair to pixie between the ages of 12-15. Now at 16 she has finally buzzed it and it looks fantastic, but she needed all the levels in between to get used to being 'different' to her peers - she is also quite sensitive. Wearing it with confidence is key I think. There's a filter on Snapchat to try it out.