Let dd(11) shave her hair?

Feel better now you've picked that nit?

Silly argument, you can be fair towards your kids, but being a boy and a girl means sometimes they are treated very differently, that's life.

Hair grows. Let her have it cut. I can’t believe some of these posts, it’s like long hair is a religion.

My dd wanted her hair cut off when she was about sixteen. She went on about it so much I said, Do it and just grow it back if you don’t like it. She hated it. I actually quite liked it as did everyone else. She did occasionally get mistaken for a boy as she wears hoodies and joggers. I do think a buzz cut is too drastic though and I agree with waiting for the holidays.

My son has a buzzcut as his hair is unmanageable otherwise. He is a beautiful boy with huge long lashed blue eyes and sharp cheekbones. The buzz cut really accentuates all of his best features - not that he gives a shit about this being 11 and into football and gaming - but it's certainly not an ugly style!

I wouldn't, no. I'd allow a pixie cut. DD wouldn't want to anyway, she's seen how other girls have been treated by the others just going from long to short bob and one girl who did get a pixie cut.

It's what, 2 weeks until the summer holidays? If she still really wants to have it so short then, that's the time to try it out. And I agree with those saying to try one of those hair cut apps where you upload a photo first.

You really didn't 🙄

What about an undercut for now? Would solve the heat issue and she can style the rest either up or down to reveal or hide it as the mood takes her

You said most people always mistake her for a boy. I thought there might be more than just short hair if that’s the case.

Yeah let her op.

I wanted very short hair as a child. My mother wouldn’t let me. I came to no harm, but I’m still pissed off about it decades later. I don’t even have short hair now either 😂. Just bitter I was denied control of my own body

And?

I was an electrician, she works in accident repair.
Some people can't see further than the end of their noses, so bigoted are they that girls don't to "men's" jobs.

You only have to look beyond her hair and at her face to see she is a girl, she doesn't have male features.
I still think you are insulting and deliberately antagonistic.

There are plenty of women with short hair who look like women and not androgynous

Don't be so ridiculous!!
She is all woman but people are so used to seeing girls with long hair that they think she is a boy.

I too had a bleach blonde buzz cut when I was in my late teens/twenties. I was frequently mistaken for a boy, not helped that I worked in a male dominated industry (as does she), I was the only female employee.

I find your response pretty insulting actually and indicative of the people who are that fucking short sighted in their views that they think she is a boy!!

as she’s 11, there is a good chance she is going up to secondary school in September.

id say yes to it but make sure she’s aware that she’s going to be meeting a lot of new people in a few months and we all know how brutal that can be.

my DD was pretty alternative and had short bleached hair when every single other girl had long straightened hair. It was ok but it definitely set her aside from the others.

Her lack of confidence will be obvious to the rest
of the kids. That will cause more negative attention than if she oozes confidence.

It would be a definite no from me.

Yes kids can be mean, but learning to be yourself and do what is true to you is way more important than not doing those things to fit in.

I find that kids who want to do these fun things are often a lot more comfortable with their choices than those who make them out of fear.

If she is eighteen and she looks androgynous/ has a flat chest and no hips/ squarer jawline it may be worth taking her to the doctor just to make sure her hormones are ok. I’ve never known anyone to get mixed up unless they are wearing a chest binder.

God forbid she doesn’t get enough “appreciative comments” on her looks

Too drastic. I would see if you can get a bald cap/wig (a professional standard one!) online before allowing the chop.

a buzz cut will not have grown much in 6 weeks. It will still be extremely short.

i was bullied in school and while i never want to pander to bullies, she will probably be the subject of much gossip/ people thinking she may have cancer if she does this. Sorry but that’s just how it is.

I have always wanted to do it . Never been brave enough. Plus I dont have the face shape for it .
Now is probably a good time as nearly summer holidays.
But as others have said maybe take her to get a pixie cut first and see if she likes that

My dd completely shaved her head during COVID, aged 12.
She absolutely rocked it and has kept it short since.
She always gets mistaken for a boy, not helped by her androgynous figure.
She has got to the point, at 18, where she doesn't bother correcting people if it is a brief encounter with them.
I can always spot her in a crowd, unlike her sister who looked like every other girl coming out of school.

I admire my dd's 'no fucks given' attitude and that she isn't a sheep just to fit in with societal norms.

It’s her hair why not, at least it will grow back if she hates it.
But as PP have said maybe suggest a short cut first so she can see if she likes it short, if she does then she can shave it.
Also if you would let your DS and school allow that style then you can’t really say no to DD.

Is she y6 or 7? If she is y7 i would tell her to wait until the last day of school and take her to the hairdresser as a treat to buzz it all off.

If she is y6 I would do everything I could to get her through y7 and then let her decide as she may find the comments from older kids too much.

If she is in y7 she will understand the risks of bullying in secondary (though she may not understand what it will really look like and might appreciate the six weeks to grow it a bit.)

She obviously won't look "unwell" as another poster said, do boys look ill?! But she might get comments from people asking if she's trans now etc

*I'd be worried about her looking like a skinhead tbh

Exam performance for an 11 year old?!