Really irritated with this girls mother.

You say everyone knows that. So why are they fixated on how fat the girl is and how cruel and neglectful the mother must be?

Thank-you. Someone who can read!

Yes. Of course. You would hope they were.

But people don't always fill in forms correctly.. Sometimes they make mistakes, or their reading is not great, or they have discalculia, or they make their best guess. But according to this thread, none of those things must have happened.

According to this thread, the sweet jolly fat girl has a lying bitch of a mother who is ashamed of her daughter's weight and doesn't give a shit if she cripples a horse. You're all so busy celebrating the OP's self-serving account of the situation that you are ignoring how judgemental you are being about this mum you know nothing about.

(Before anyone presumes, no, I am not the mum of fat kids and I am not fat.)

Is it weird do you think, to contact a local stables and offer to volunteer helping out with mucking out or grooming / feeds etc?

I can’t afford lessons atm but miss horses/ ponies and enjoy time around them so much. Could do with a friend who has one (owned or loaned) so could hang with them! 😅

I thought this poster was just doing a copy and paste of all the awful comments to highlight what an unkind thread they feel it is?

yes, it was not knowing the girls weight. Everyone knows that. The problem would have been pretty much the same if the child had been a big muscular boy who was much heavier than his parent had said. It would still have been a headache for the OP and would still have required her to yomp in the heat to pull an old horse out of retirement and ride him bareback.

Which is why parents are asked to fill in the forms prior to the lessons. And one would assume the forms would be filled in correctly.

Mother was lucky - I know riding schools where the limit is 13 st - regardless of the rider's experience. I don't think I know any that go up as far as you do (17st).
13,14, 17 stone - experienced or not - Inexperience will make the horse less comfortable and less able to balance themselves well. Experienced riders - there's no magic wand that makes an experienced rider weigh less in the saddle than they do on the scales and 17st is pushing it for a large percentage of horses.

But the OP, in her very first post, says it would not have been a problem at all if she knew the girl's weight from the outset. The weight is not the problem.

Go for it @YorkshireWelsh! 😃 lovely time of year too, to re discover the joys of riding 🥰🐎 This thread has inspired me to start a little savings pot for lessons!

I think OP’s post about what to look for in a place, ie watching the ponies/ horses and seeing how they are and how they react to people is really helpful. Thanks OP!

Any other tips for adult learners who adore these gorgeous beasts but are v rusty in the saddle? x

Yes, but none of us know why she gave the wrong weight, or how important she understood it to be that she gave the correct weight. However, plenty of people have happily assumed it's because of her shame of her overweight daughter. No-one knows that.

13 STONE IS TOO FAT TO RIDE MOST OF THE HORSES AT THE PLACE.

I honestly think that poster is ... Well, I don't know, reading a different thread?!
And if they think this is a 'pile-on'... Well, I wouldn't recommend X :-D

No, you misunderstand.

The subject of the thread was the mother filled the form in wrong but has become the daughter is too fat.

The mother knows that she was asked to provide her daughter's weight.

It’s the subject of the thread because it’s the mother’s fault that they didn’t know her weight in advance. If they had known that they had a short, heavy person coming they would have allocated the horses differently.

Hear hear. Me too.

I guess I’m reading the OP without a side eyed slant. Actions speak louder than words to me and the OP went out of her way to make the lovely girl happy.

you sound lovely OP.

I recall taking my then six year old daughter to her first riding lesson at a local stables. They only asked the age and experience of the child, nothing about weight or height. The pony they assigned to her was a Shetland called peanuts, my daughter was exceptionally tall for her age. The instructor was looking around for this six year old to ride peanuts, they ended up finding her another pony, if we’d put her on peanuts her feet would have been six inches off the ground.

@KellySeveride How is it any of your business and why has it become the subject of this thread?

The OP was annoyed that the weight given on the form was wrong. She said:

She cannot ride the pony assigned to her or any of the ponies [.....] which would have been fine if we knew when she booked

But the rest of the thread have decided it's not fine. It's become a pile-on on the mum.

Waves to local person! 😊

I’m in Tewkesbury!!

There’s a riding place near the Four-Mile pub - down the lane opposite - that I took DD to a few years ago. That was lovely! I haven’t been there for a while though but might be worth checking out?

Master Beth you do realise that a severely overweight child’s parents could be pulled up for neglect?

It is neglectful not to keep your child healthy. 13 stone at 5ft tall at any age is obese, when I was 13 stone at 5ft 8 I was well into the overweight category!

No, she hasn't. Quite the opposite.

She doubled down it.

Yes I fully stand by grumpily calling this mother a bitch.

Bless you for being kind, this could have been a big hurt that child felt her whole life...your good heartened ways swerved that. Bless you