But the standard for being 'normal lovely people' where men are concerned includes 'will allow a woman to do all the shitwork that makes living nice'.
Looked at through a similar lens that we might look at race, for example, that is not lovely.
It is certainly normal, though. I don't know a single man in my liberal-lefty circle who actually does his fair share of the shitwork. All of them have Really Good Reasons why that's the case, and usually it's:
I work in a normal graduate middle-class job that I take at a leisurely pace while adding lots of drama, so it looks like I work in a high stress/long hours environment.
The women who do his job will have motored through to be back to pick up from after-school club.
The other men who do his job will conspire to make it look like those women are sacking off, when they are actually they not only motoring through but also making it possible for their own exploitative man to stretch out his work to just long enough that they don't have to adult.
These are not, when you step back and force yourself to see things as a visitor from another planet would, 'normal lovely people'. They're shits.