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To have insisted on DH doing his ‘business’ at work when we were down to one bathroom

465 replies

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:36

I told my friends this last night who found it amusing so would be interested to hear if they are the only ones!

We were down to just our upstairs bathroom this week as the downstairs bathroom was being re-done (finally finished yesterday afternoon).

Given the heat, DH was told that he should do his usual morning business when he arrives at his work rather than use the upstairs bathroom, as I didn’t fancy the smell festering all morning in this heat.

DH was fine with this - AIBU to have made such a request?!

OP posts:
Loki64 · 21/06/2025 13:34

U sounds up ur arse.
And also controlling.

Original poster
WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 13:34

It appears there has been some misinterpretation of my previous post. By more than bathroom, I am of course including a downstairs ‘loo’ in this description. We refer to ours as a bathroom given it’s extremely spacious by comparison of most downstairs ‘loo’s’ which we have frequented.

OP posts:
Chazbots · 21/06/2025 13:32

Zebedee999 · 21/06/2025 12:33

Honestly I'd look at his diet. Sounds like too much UPF and not enough protein/fibre.

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Definitely. I'd be adding fibre.

It's not good for him to be sent to poo on command...

whynotwhatknot · 21/06/2025 13:31

this cant be real-you cant belive people only have one bathroom? i live in a 50s terraced house th4eres no room for an additional toilet

and what if he needs more than poo a day or has a stomach ache

Coffeeishot · 21/06/2025 13:22

I imagine most of my street have just the 1 bathroom some have loft extensions so maybe an en suite but the majority is just the bathroom.

MsPavlichenko · 21/06/2025 13:18

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

The last English housing survey done in 2018 had 73% of housing with only one bathroom. I doubt it’s changed significantly since then, or is different in other parts of the UK.

This doesn’t surprise me at all.

Fireandwaters · 21/06/2025 13:15

Yawn. A poo troll who thinks MN users are all snobs. Reported

Shatteredallthetimelately · 21/06/2025 13:14

Whilst that was out of use, he was happy to relieve himself elsewhere each morning.

Probably the easier route for him to take.

Can't even take a shite in his own home.

AllKindsOfThingsAreInteresting · 21/06/2025 13:13

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

According to figures in the 2018 English Housing Survey on the size of homes, 73% of homes in the survey had only one bathroom, while the remaining 27% had two or more. Based on the sample size surveyed, it is estimated that 17.6m households live with only one bathroom.

Bonbonthechewyone · 21/06/2025 13:12

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

God you sound exhausting. Not just controlling, but stuck up and completely out of touch with the real world.

aspidernamedfluffy · 21/06/2025 13:12

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

I'm struggling to believe that someone as snobby and ignorant as you has a husband....still, takes all sorts I suppose.

Fireandwaters · 21/06/2025 13:12

Does your poo smell of roses OP? YABVVVU.

Negroany · 21/06/2025 13:10

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

Well, obviously it is totally normal to have one bathroom. I have one. But I do have a downstairs loo.

But I also cannot poo to order. I need to go when I need to go. So I can't "not poo at work" if I need to go. And I can't "only poo at work" either. I'm not sure it's a great idea to try to control this a lot.

MyHouseInThePrairie · 21/06/2025 13:10

Gloriia · 21/06/2025 12:21

Yes why is he producing such notice stenches? I can go into any bathroom after anyone in the house and not be repelled.

Maybe he needs to eat better?

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Lucky you that no one in your house has some issues with other health including all GI stuff.
It doesn’t mean the person isn’t ‘eating well’

tealandteal · 21/06/2025 13:08

Massively unreasonable to ask your poor DH to leave the house! Yes it is polite to not use the ensuite if you share the bedroom with someone but you can use it for a wee. Surely you do that? But in this instance it’s one of those things you have to put up with as you have a toilet out of action. You still have two though……

Also, of course there are loads of 1 bathroom houses. Most older houses up to a certain size. Perhaps you should encourage your DH to eat more fibre.

HelpMeGetThrough · 21/06/2025 13:06

BMW6 · 21/06/2025 13:01

OP put a box of matches in the toilet and ask him to strike a match after every poo.

It burns the methane which is carrying the stink.

YABVVVU

All this talk of matches has reminded me of when I tried to light a fart when I was pissed at a party. 😫😫

Sharptonguedwoman · 21/06/2025 13:04

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 09:03

We technically have the en-suite too, but that has always been firmly out of bounds for anything but a shower!

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Bonkers. Completely bonkers, So you can't go to the loo at 3 am in the room designed for that purpose?

BMW6 · 21/06/2025 13:01

OP put a box of matches in the toilet and ask him to strike a match after every poo.

It burns the methane which is carrying the stink.

YABVVVU

firebrand123 · 21/06/2025 12:59

Jesus H Christ, this is some serious controlling, belittling, out of line, diva behaviour alright. There's not words to describe how unreasonable this is. Poor bloke.

Pedallleur · 21/06/2025 12:56

OonaStubbs · 21/06/2025 12:50

Toilets are for shitting in. Shit smells. Why do people have a problem with this?

Some people don't believe theirs does or the notion that people use a toilet is a taboo subject.

wandawaves · 21/06/2025 12:55

What do you mean it "festers all morning"? Does he shit in a bucket?

starfishmummy · 21/06/2025 12:54

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:37

Because I don’t produce such nuclear level stenches, to be frank!

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Of course you do, it's just that people don't notice their own stinks much.

Pedallleur · 21/06/2025 12:54

Only 1 bathroom? My God won't someone think of the children!! Perhaps a campaign 'Two bathrooms for all' would be good for a political party.

cardibach · 21/06/2025 12:52

Italiangreyhound · 21/06/2025 12:26

There is no way I could,.l 'do my business' to order!

I'd buy an air freshener or open a window.

We all lived with one bathroom a few decades ago!

My gran lived without any bathroom in the 60s. Toilet at the end of the garden (which, granted, would solve the OP’s smell issues) and a tin bath to fill from the only tap in the house. Pot under the bed for night time.

Coffeeishot · 21/06/2025 12:51

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

Ah I see what you are about you almost had us you went too far with this reply 😀