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To have insisted on DH doing his ‘business’ at work when we were down to one bathroom

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WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:36

I told my friends this last night who found it amusing so would be interested to hear if they are the only ones!

We were down to just our upstairs bathroom this week as the downstairs bathroom was being re-done (finally finished yesterday afternoon).

Given the heat, DH was told that he should do his usual morning business when he arrives at his work rather than use the upstairs bathroom, as I didn’t fancy the smell festering all morning in this heat.

DH was fine with this - AIBU to have made such a request?!

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Sharptonguedwoman · 21/06/2025 18:11

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

DD has just moved in with a flatmate to a newish two bedder. One bathroom, the loo is in the bathroom. Just for comparison.

shuggles · 21/06/2025 17:56

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:37

Because I don’t produce such nuclear level stenches, to be frank!

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Yes you do.

Polewaxed · 21/06/2025 17:43

Telling people when and where they can shit. That’s not controlling at all. Completely fine.

beesandstrawberries · 21/06/2025 17:41

Oh dear what would you do if you lived in a flat with one bathroom. You’re a snob

Parker231 · 21/06/2025 17:37

ButteredRadishes · 21/06/2025 17:19

😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

You know literally millions of people live in houses/flats etc built in the 1920s-1990s ish where 1 toilet and/or bathroom was common. In fact the older ones wouldn't have had a toilet indoors! So they moved them into where the plumbing was...near the kitchen (sometimes, effectively a cupboard in the kitchen)

It's probably more common to have 1 bathroom and toilet than more than 1...

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I think one proper sized bathroom is much better than those houses where they’ve fitted in a tiny en-suite with a tiny box of a shower with no room to turn around and where the toilet is literally touching the sides of the shower or sink.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 21/06/2025 17:26

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

Clueless 🙄

Of course lots of people live in houses with one bathroom. There are literally entire streets in my village where the houses have one bathroom and where adding a second bathroom/ toilet would be very difficult and costly.

Most of the houses I’ve lived in have only had one bathroom.

VictoriaEra2 · 21/06/2025 17:20

Leapintothelightning · 21/06/2025 12:05

Oh no how do the peasants with one bathroom cope?!

That’s me. I’ve only ever had one bathroom. And I love with my four adult children

ButteredRadishes · 21/06/2025 17:19

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

😂 😂 😂 😂 😂

You know literally millions of people live in houses/flats etc built in the 1920s-1990s ish where 1 toilet and/or bathroom was common. In fact the older ones wouldn't have had a toilet indoors! So they moved them into where the plumbing was...near the kitchen (sometimes, effectively a cupboard in the kitchen)

It's probably more common to have 1 bathroom and toilet than more than 1...

DoYouReally · 21/06/2025 17:11

How absolutely horrible and controlling to not allow a man shit in his own house.

He won't be long getting sick of this behaviour.

Crimblecrumblerules · 21/06/2025 17:07

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

plenty of 1 toilet houses around, Mostly 3 bed and under but still plenty with no downstairs loo or ensuite. (Viewing assistant for estate agent, seen literally thousands of houses and flats).

AKM89 · 21/06/2025 17:04

Is your temporarily one-bathroomed home sometimes passed by three billy goats?

Sadmummy3 · 21/06/2025 16:45

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

You are welcome to come to my house and check if you don't believe we only have one bathroom. As long as you don't need to poo while you are here obviously.

whitewineandsun · 21/06/2025 16:39

Cherrytree86 · 21/06/2025 12:17

@WarmDeer

when you get divorced OP you might need to live in a bed sit with one bathroom. Divorce can be very expensive. And you’ll have to smell your own shit.

This must considered. Perhaps let him shit in his own house, OP, before a friend advises him to hire a solicitor and go live his best life.

UnimatrixZeroOne · 21/06/2025 16:30

"It appears there has been some misinterpretation of my previous post. By more than bathroom, I am of course including a downstairs ‘loo’ in this description. We refer to ours as a bathroom given it’s extremely spacious by comparison of most downstairs ‘loo’s’ which we have frequented."

You sound like a right twat.

Fundayout2025 · 21/06/2025 16:01

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 13:34

It appears there has been some misinterpretation of my previous post. By more than bathroom, I am of course including a downstairs ‘loo’ in this description. We refer to ours as a bathroom given it’s extremely spacious by comparison of most downstairs ‘loo’s’ which we have frequented.

Wow I've always lived in houses that just have one bathroom. No seperate loo and no ensuite. Didn't realize I was so deprived

ArtTheClown · 21/06/2025 15:59

How's health meant to wash his arse after then?

monkeysox · 21/06/2025 15:57

cardibach · 21/06/2025 13:59

Most old terraced housing stock also won’t have room for a downstairs loo. Flats routinely only have one loo. You seem somewhat detached from reality as far as housing stock in the U.K. goes.

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My old terrace had one loo..downstairs in the built on bathroom.

Masmavi · 21/06/2025 15:55

How unkind of you. Like he’s an animal

Liverpool52 · 21/06/2025 15:55

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 12:09

I’m struggling to believe that one bathroom houses are as common as is being made out. What an absurd proposition.

Even the ghastly shoe box new builds which have sprung up everywhere have at least two.

If I was to consider acquiring an older property with one bathroom, I’d certainly conduct due diligence on the ease at which a further one could be installed.

It’s 2025, goodness me.

I don't think I've read anything so ridiculous generally with this thread but this response takes the biscuut.

Can you really not comprehend that there are hundreds of thousands of houses that only have one toilet. Or that just because you may have the means to only buy a property that you could then spend thousands on installing a second toilet, many many others don't.

It is after all 2025, maybe read some news once in a while to understand society, varying wages, poverty, the process of doing works to a property etc.

monkeysox · 21/06/2025 15:54

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 09:03

We technically have the en-suite too, but that has always been firmly out of bounds for anything but a shower!

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Omg. You're actually taking the piss. Toilets are for shit and piss. Yabu

ButteredRadishes · 21/06/2025 15:52

GanninHyem · 21/06/2025 10:21

Who's to say he's actually got gastric issues. Shit stinks, apparently OP thinks hers doesn't. Deluded is what we call that.

Genuinely can't believe people think this level of control is ok. Baffling.

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Yes, but it shouldn't smell so bad that it stinks the house out after being exposed to the air for mere seconds a d flushed away.

It's not like he's doing a shit in the bath and leaving it there to fester.

There's something wrong with his digestive situation if it smells that much!

ThriveIn2025 · 21/06/2025 15:44

Weekend contingency plan 😆 to do a poo 😆 I’m dying 😆

OonaStubbs · 21/06/2025 15:27

Do they have to have an upstairs toilet as well though?

grumpygrape · 21/06/2025 15:00

Iloveeverycat · 21/06/2025 14:50

Building regulations Part M require all new builds to have a downstairs toilet

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I was initially sceptical but Uncle Google proved to be my friend. I think there may be a very few exemptions but essentially, you are correct.

Thanks for the information.

Bonbonthechewyone · 21/06/2025 15:00

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