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To have insisted on DH doing his ‘business’ at work when we were down to one bathroom

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WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:36

I told my friends this last night who found it amusing so would be interested to hear if they are the only ones!

We were down to just our upstairs bathroom this week as the downstairs bathroom was being re-done (finally finished yesterday afternoon).

Given the heat, DH was told that he should do his usual morning business when he arrives at his work rather than use the upstairs bathroom, as I didn’t fancy the smell festering all morning in this heat.

DH was fine with this - AIBU to have made such a request?!

OP posts:
tilypu · 21/06/2025 08:41

Ofc yabu. But I'm pretty sure you know that and don't care.

Notateacheranymore · 21/06/2025 08:40

Bloody hell, I have two poos usually before I leave the house in the morning. I wouldn’t even make it to the end of the road much less the 35 minutes to the office. And 50% of my time is WFH. What then?

My husband is also, at times, a stinker. Guess what, so am I sometimes. Open the window and chill out.

LlynTegid · 21/06/2025 08:40

Why should his work colleagues suffer? Just open windows, or have some change in diet.

KillerMounjaro · 21/06/2025 08:40

So rather than upset his own wife by doing a poo, you’ve made him inflict the smell on the entire office.

It’s a personal choice, but unless completely unavoidable, I would never do a poo at work.

historyrepeatz · 21/06/2025 08:39

If you did would you want your DH telling your friends about it? Also would his colleagues figure out it’s him?

Pleasealexa · 21/06/2025 08:39

So you not have windows?

On one hand I understand and your husband has been considerate, on the other side of your husband asked this of you, would you agree?

Onelifeonly · 21/06/2025 08:38

It's his home too? Don't you have windows or air freshener (I'm not a fan of the latter but if needs must.....)

Littlejellyuk · 21/06/2025 08:38

Buy air freshener and toilet duck.
Simples 😉

countrygirl99 · 21/06/2025 08:38

If a bloke insisted his wife did this there would be cries of leave the controlling bastard.

Boredlass · 21/06/2025 08:38

I’d have told you to jog on. No way I’d agree to this especially as I’d never do that at work anyway. I live in the house so I’ll shit in the house

Onionbhajisandwich · 21/06/2025 08:38

I think you know you are being massively unreasonable . . . . .

Original poster
WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:37

Sofiewoo · 21/06/2025 08:36

Why don’t you have to leave the house to use the bathroom?

Because I don’t produce such nuclear level stenches, to be frank!

OP posts:
Dramatic · 21/06/2025 08:37

Does he not know how to flush?

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 21/06/2025 08:37

That’s really weird.

Sofiewoo · 21/06/2025 08:36

Why don’t you have to leave the house to use the bathroom?