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To have insisted on DH doing his ‘business’ at work when we were down to one bathroom

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WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:36

I told my friends this last night who found it amusing so would be interested to hear if they are the only ones!

We were down to just our upstairs bathroom this week as the downstairs bathroom was being re-done (finally finished yesterday afternoon).

Given the heat, DH was told that he should do his usual morning business when he arrives at his work rather than use the upstairs bathroom, as I didn’t fancy the smell festering all morning in this heat.

DH was fine with this - AIBU to have made such a request?!

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Baconking · 21/06/2025 09:13

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 09:11

The work has concluded and it looks like this is the final day of the heatwave, but if needed then he goes to the gym on weekend mornings so we had a contingency plan of him going there.

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Haha! Good one OP!

Sharptonguedwoman · 21/06/2025 09:12

Ridiculous.

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 21/06/2025 09:12

People are so weird, poor bloke.

If a partner tried telling me where to shit I’d be reevaluating the whole relationship tbh.

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WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 09:11

TranceNation · 21/06/2025 09:09

What does he do at weekends then? Pop into the office or a public toilet to have a dump? Come on, give your head a wobble. This insistence of yours is absolutely ridiculous and proper red flag territory.

The work has concluded and it looks like this is the final day of the heatwave, but if needed then he goes to the gym on weekend mornings so we had a contingency plan of him going there.

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Berlinlover · 21/06/2025 09:11

ThriveIn2025 · 21/06/2025 08:42

This. We don’t poo where I work. It’s one shared toilet and there is a very much spoken rule regarding this.

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I have IBS so where would I poo if I worked with you?

lessglittermoremud · 21/06/2025 09:10

Until recent renovations there were 5 of us with only one bathroom as that was all our house and I’m the only girl…
You were being massively unreasonable by dictating that he couldn’t use his own bathroom to poo in, I’m wondering why he didn’t just refuse.
My DH would have laughed thinking I was joking and then outright refused, after he uses the bathroom the window is opened he swishes bleach around the toilet and shuts the door, problem solved .
I would look at your diets if his faeces are so disgustingly foul that you can’t stand him using the same facilities as yourself.

QuestionableMouse · 21/06/2025 09:09

ThriveIn2025 · 21/06/2025 08:42

This. We don’t poo where I work. It’s one shared toilet and there is a very much spoken rule regarding this.

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How the hell does that work? I have IBS - there's some days where I'd have no choice!

TranceNation · 21/06/2025 09:09

What does he do at weekends then? Pop into the office or a public toilet to have a dump? Come on, give your head a wobble. This insistence of yours is absolutely ridiculous and proper red flag territory.

Berlinlover · 21/06/2025 09:09

Poor man not being allowed to poo in his own home. Absolutely insane.

Caerulea · 21/06/2025 09:08

I think this is the thread I've most missed the '😂' reaction on

Witchling · 21/06/2025 09:07

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 09:03

We technically have the en-suite too, but that has always been firmly out of bounds for anything but a shower!

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You are controlling and quite frankly not very nice to your dh.

LuckysDadsHat · 21/06/2025 09:07

ThriveIn2025 · 21/06/2025 08:42

This. We don’t poo where I work. It’s one shared toilet and there is a very much spoken rule regarding this.

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Wtf?!?!?!?! What would someone do with IBD or you know just need a shit do? Do they have to leave work and shit at home?

BuckChuckets · 21/06/2025 09:07

I imagine the OP as a wannabe Hyacinth Bucket, and her DH a poor, downtrodden cocker spaniel being scolded for 'doing his business' 😂

Alltheyellowbirds · 21/06/2025 09:07

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 09:03

We technically have the en-suite too, but that has always been firmly out of bounds for anything but a shower!

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For goodness sake. So you are not actually “down to one” loo at all, but “down to two”. That makes it even more ridiculous and unnecessary. If his poo stinks out the family bathroom you can just use the ensuite so your nose isn’t offended.

This is the most first-world, spoiled complaint I’ve ever read on Munsnet.

i suspect you have a habit of telling your poor husband what he is and isn’t allowed to do…

Tiswa · 21/06/2025 09:07

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:44

He works in a large corporate office - capacity for about 3/4000 employees. It’s not a single toilet in a cramped space!

Surly that is worse if the stench is as and with the smell spreading and people smelling it

UnimatrixZeroOne · 21/06/2025 09:06

"We technically have the en-suite too, but that has always been firmly out of bounds for anything but a shower!"

This is just the oddest thing. 😐

temperedolive · 21/06/2025 09:05

Do you genuinely think your shit doesn't stink?

I always thought this was just a metaphor to explain a delusional narcissist.

dontcomeatme · 21/06/2025 09:05

This is next level. I've seen a few posts on here recently about men pooping in bathrooms, we all shit in my one and only bathroom because that's its purpose! I don't do make up or anything in there, no one should quite frankly.

Didimum · 21/06/2025 09:05

Beyond ridiculous.

Caerulea · 21/06/2025 09:05

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 09:03

We technically have the en-suite too, but that has always been firmly out of bounds for anything but a shower!

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👀

UnimatrixZeroOne · 21/06/2025 09:05

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:37

Because I don’t produce such nuclear level stenches, to be frank!

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I'm pretty sure your shit stinks too and is likely just as offensive to him!

ruethewhirl · 21/06/2025 09:04

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 08:44

He works in a large corporate office - capacity for about 3/4000 employees. It’s not a single toilet in a cramped space!

That doesn't alter the fact that it could be really embarrassing for him if he has to walk out of a cubicle after a shit to find people queuing. I mean, it must be terrible being 'down to one bathroom' 🙄but I think YABU and I don't know why your DH complied with your demand. He's entitled to take a dump in his own home, a home is kind of what these things are for.

Apart from anything else, it's not healthy to hold it in for too long.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 21/06/2025 09:04

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 09:03

We technically have the en-suite too, but that has always been firmly out of bounds for anything but a shower!

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Dramatic · 21/06/2025 09:04

WarmDeer · 21/06/2025 09:03

We technically have the en-suite too, but that has always been firmly out of bounds for anything but a shower!

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This is bizarre, so you have two working toilets and he isn't allowed to use either of them? 😂

LilWoosmum82 · 21/06/2025 09:04

Yeah my Mother tries this sort of rubbish with my dad. bye some spray for the bathroom, it's not fair on him. I mean you're taking it for granted he'll be able to just go on demand at work instead of going when his body tells him he's ready to go. Which can cause discomfort, until the feeling passes and actually could lead to other long term bowel issues. Sorry I'm a Nurse, I find this strange and pretty selfish. This is something I could have imagined my mother doing 20yrs ago to my dad.

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