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Genuinely upset at this wildflower destruction

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pelargoniums · 21/06/2025 07:20

Live in a loooooong terrace that backs on to another similarly long terrace, with a twitten between the streets. All the gardens have a gate onto the twitten for access, but no one uses it for actual access: at one end, street access is bricked up; at the other, it’s so far from most of the houses and emerges on the road with nightmare parking so even if you clear your garden, you get the lads to go through the house because big work trucks can’t get down that road. Plus every spring it becomes impenetrable with overgrown plants and wildlife.

Most of my neighbours keep a compost bin, leaf mould, narrow tool storage etc out there. A general “live and let live” attitude prevails so if you put a tool store out, you stagger it against your opposite neighbour’s so everyone can have space.

And it’s lovely! Behind ours I have compost and leaf mould, plus wildflowers naturally – I’ve never planted anything but there was six foot tall cow parsley, green alkanet, bluebells, loads of things I can’t identify. DC spend a lot of time there bug hunting, it attracts loads of butterflies – the caterpillarfest in spring was amazing – birds, field mice.

The neighbours opposite have razed the lot. Not only on “their” side but mine. They don’t garden, theirs is fully paved. No reason to do this – they can’t get out through a bricked wall and they’ve left the next space along alone, which is solidly rose/bramble/thicket. A whole mini habitat gone. Now it’s just bare earth for the neighbourhood cats to poo in.

AIBU to be gutted but more importantly, how to respond?! I’d love to do a line of pleached trees in the twitten to block them from my sight but they’d only chop them down I think, and also £££. More wildflowers, obviously. While the land is bare the kids want to paint a mural on the wall saying Save Our Wildflowers & Our Planet (because I suggested it to them 😂) and paint butterflies, ladybirds, bees. Or something permanent/evergreen and purposeful on my side that won’t encroach over their half of the space, but is clearly meant to be there – as they obviously felt the natural aspect of the wildflowers was too much nature – but still pollinator-friendly. Japanese hogweed? 😈

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pelargoniums · 21/06/2025 07:33

It wasn’t hogweed! My last picture of the garden showing it was May, so it may well have been gone a while anyway. Definitely cow parsley; no one got hurt from it.

They’re called twittens in Sussex.

They are meant for access but like I said, unless they get 30 houses on each side on board with clearing and maintaining, the access is long gone.

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QuiteUnbelievable · 21/06/2025 07:32

It's highly dangerous and you're lucky non of you touched it because it can cause life long sun sensitively and problems with blisters.

A neighbour had one growing in their garden and we were all admiring this Jack in a bean stalk structure but a friend of another neighbour came around extremely alarmed and it was removed shortly after.

Candleabra · 21/06/2025 07:31

Do you actually own the twitten at the back, is it your land?
Self seeded flowers growing on an unmaintained patch of land is one thing, but planting pleached trees deliberately is another.
Isn’t the alley technically for access?

Helpmeplease2025 · 21/06/2025 07:31

I wouldn’t have thought this was ‘lovely’. I’d have wanted mine cleared too

DustyTangerine · 21/06/2025 07:29

Cow parsley stopped flowering a couple of weeks ago at least - it was probably hogweed. Great for insects not that good for people or animals

Optimustime · 21/06/2025 07:27

Agreed. The six foot tall cow parsley was hogweed. It's everywhere near our house. The council come and spray it along all the footpaths but it's in every field. Stay well away from it if you don't want burns!

TheNightingalesStarling · 21/06/2025 07:27

Which area calls them twitterns, I've heard alley, ginnel, back passage etc before never twitten.

I'm torn on this... usually those pathways are supposed to be kept clear for access.

BeamMeUpCountMeIn · 21/06/2025 07:27

Some of my neigbours have ruined their environment. So I've gone mental with the wildflowers in opposition.
What about californian poppies and teasel? They'll grow almost anywhere.

Misstabithabean · 21/06/2025 07:26

What a shame. Some people want the outside to be so sterile and seem to be afraid of anything natural and wild.

QuiteUnbelievable · 21/06/2025 07:24

Op, the six foot tall cow parsley isn't cow parley it sounds like highly toxic and dangerous hog weed have a Google and see if it's the same?

IrritatableandHot · 21/06/2025 07:24

That is so sad! It's sounded beautiful 😍

U53rn8m3ch8ng3 · 21/06/2025 07:24

I had to Google Twitter, it's an access alleyway? So maybe neighbours want to start using it or thought it needed to be clear?

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