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To want to burn our puppy poo garden

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alwaysalwayssomething · 20/06/2025 23:28

We got a tiny puppy a month ago - first dog, two smitten children, both under ten. We have a decent garden - the puppy wees at the side but has been pooing randomly in the garden and we just pick it up immediately.

Which I now realise was totally stupid as this is where the children play every day and now there are probably all sorts of nasties in the grass now just from the poo being there. I made a mistake of googling this and almost vomited reading things like worms lasting years in the soil that can cause blindness etc.

Full disclosure that I have severe OCD - ironically my therapist recommended the dog as helping from an exposure perspective. Instead, I now just want the kids to stay out of the garden for the next two years!

Can anyone please talk me down and / or give me some advice on whether this is a relative normal concern or just pure OCD? Even a handhold would be great. Thanks very much!

OP posts:
Liondoesntsleepatnight · 21/06/2025 08:50

In your shoes I would get a small patch of garden turfed with fake grass, teach puppy to go there. Then wash that with a hose/warm water after picking up., whilst it’s not necessary it will make you feel better about it.

Katemax82 · 21/06/2025 08:50

Just keep the grass really short so you can always see any poo. We had a dog for 13 years and my kids never hot sick from playing in the garden

Neemie · 21/06/2025 08:48

NamedChand · 21/06/2025 03:19

do you have help with your mental health issue?

The therapist recommended getting a dog.

Gloriia · 21/06/2025 08:44

Just always have a watering can handy to rinse after you've picked up. Obviously works for wee too stops the yellow patches.

Notateacheranymore · 21/06/2025 08:42

alwaysalwayssomething · 20/06/2025 23:39

@fruitpastille thanks for replying! I thought that too but thinking more about it, isn’t there a risk that some worm eggs etc stay in the grass?

There’s only worm eggs if your dog has worms.

Treat for parasites in line with veterinary instructions, no worms (or eggs).

Coffeeishot · 21/06/2025 08:41

alwaysalwayssomething · 20/06/2025 23:45

@EllasNonny yes puppy has been wormed every 2-3 weeks but reading up on it says that all worms mightn’t be killed. I was wondering about asking the vet to test her but would be afraid of them finding some!

You need to stop obsessing about worms, I've had 4 dogs as an adult none of them have had worms because they are given worming tablets. There is no need to get your pup vet checked for non existing worms.

Ukholidaysaregreat · 21/06/2025 08:40

OP it's fine. You are picking up every day. You are worming your puppy. Let your kids in the garden. It is fine.

DiscoBob · 21/06/2025 08:35

Loads of wild animals could've pooed there.
As long as you teach your kids not to pick the grass and eat it, and to wash hands before and after garden play, it will be fine.

Though maybe you need to train it to go in a specific place. I guess you know the signs of when he'll go, so just move him to the correct position hopefully just before he does it? Obviously that relies on observing the dog quite closely for a while.

party4you · 21/06/2025 08:33

AlertCat · 21/06/2025 08:30

Real grass will self clean! Artificial “grass” won’t.

Well yes but OP is obviously concerned and it would perhaps reassure her, no?

Laiste · 21/06/2025 08:32

i felt like you op , so we made a small paved area with a low picket fence round it and little gate and my dogs knew to poo there then they'd be let out.

I had an out door tap and would give the area a quick hose after picking up the poo.

Once a month or so is chuck down a bit of fairy liquid or something and go over with water and garden broom. Was always spotless.

AlertCat · 21/06/2025 08:31

@alwaysalwayssomething do you have any methods for calming your anxiety around this before the thoughts start to spiral?

Coffeeishot · 21/06/2025 08:31

We have a disinfectant cleaner that is dog safe we don't.have grass but we spray on pee spots over the garden to clean it and stop it smelling, maybe you could spray the area after you have picked up ? You have to let it dry obviously for it to be safe.

AlertCat · 21/06/2025 08:30

party4you · 21/06/2025 08:25

You can get lawn cleaner for artificial lawns which are anti bacterial - I wonder if something like that is available for normal grass you could use? I assume the ones for artificial grass would damage real grass.

Real grass will self clean! Artificial “grass” won’t.

party4you · 21/06/2025 08:25

You can get lawn cleaner for artificial lawns which are anti bacterial - I wonder if something like that is available for normal grass you could use? I assume the ones for artificial grass would damage real grass.

Coffeeishot · 21/06/2025 08:25

alwaysalwayssomething · 20/06/2025 23:39

@fruitpastille thanks for replying! I thought that too but thinking more about it, isn’t there a risk that some worm eggs etc stay in the grass?

Why would your puppy have worms ? Find a place for the dog to go and take her there when it's poo time will stop her free ranging, but if you are picking up then there isn't an issue, your grass was never clean even before the dog.

alwaysalwayssomething · 21/06/2025 08:24

Thank you all so much - I really need to hear this and you’re right, my kids are active and in playgrounds, gardens etc most days. Also my garden couldn’t be ‘clean’, we live rurally so there will be foxes etc. Am just annoyed that we unnecessarily added to it with weeks of puppy poo.

Also, thanks for not going to a default ‘regime the puppy’ advice.

OP posts:
ButteredRadishes · 21/06/2025 08:20

But.. surely your kids roll around in grass, stomp in muddy puddles, run around playgrounds, go to the shops, sit on bus seats, go pond dipping, paddle in rivers, climb trees, touch everything in sight?
What makes you think the the world is sterile???

Your immune system is pretty fucking hard you know.

HangryLikeTheHulk · 21/06/2025 08:19

This is part of the “joy” of dog ownership.

Grasping still warm shit.
Smears of toxic biohazard on the lawn.
Hairs everywhere.
Scratched furniture and plaster.
Bits of dogfood on the floor.

And people pay for this !!

Forthemarket · 21/06/2025 08:16

OP this is not a problem. Thousands and thousands of kids play football and rugby on fields that have to be poo picked before the game starts - gross but not a problem. Your worker dog whose mess is picked up immediately is fine. The only time I have bothered is when they have had the runs then I have waited a few days or for some rain or hosepipes the area too after the clean up. Natures makes a mess too and children should naturally wash hands before eating but other then this their immune system benefits from the dog and from being outside.

AlertCat · 21/06/2025 08:10

Also remember that plenty of detritivores will be eating up any remnants left on your grass. We live near a popular dog walking spot and the poos just disappear after a few days (entire ones). Make sure your garden is a healthy micro environment with lots of different plants, and it will all look after yourself.

Handwashing after playing in the garden is a good habit to instil anyway. And as puppy gets older, you’ll be walking it and it will be doing its business outside the garden most of the time.

VickyEadieofThigh · 21/06/2025 08:08

Scissor · 20/06/2025 23:45

Every animal and bird that passes over and through all your outdoor spaces, including your garden, will be doing biological stuff.
Unless you wish to live in a hermetically sealed shed this is planet Earth.
You're being super responsible. Enjoy your puppy 😊

I've done volunteer work with hedgehog rescues in the past. Their shit is unbelievably hideous and often riddled with parasites.

If you ensure your dog is wormed regularly, you ruminate the dog's risk to your children.

witwatwoo · 21/06/2025 08:05

Stop reading everything and panicking

SunMoonAndStars25 · 21/06/2025 08:05

A friend of mine has the garden segregated with a fence and a gate- kids play on the opposite side of the fence and dogs have the section in front of the gate to do their business to keep everything segregated. When the puppy is toilet trained you will know all of it’s cues so once it’s done it’s business and it’s all sorted it can go off through the gate to play with the kids and make use of the entire garden but it’s a good way of keeping the two separate! Didn’t cost much and works really well!

Also to add I have two dogs, three kids and no fence 😂 I keep them wormed and stay on top of the garden and no issues so far other then a very crowded garden 😂

2025ishere · 21/06/2025 08:01

Just pick it up, it will be fine. Especially easy when it dries out a bit. No environment is pristine as a pp said.
I thought pets helped kids build immunity and be less likely to get allergies.

I was disgusted by it when we got our puppy and wiped and wiped where it was with loo roll and then ‘watered’ it in. But with time the disgust wore off and now I just pick it up. there are creatures in the garden that are cleaning up the remnants for you.

Just follow vet’s worming regime. Dog will probably keep other people’s cats out, which is good as you wouldn’t know it they were wormed anyway.

you will get used to it, let them play in the garden, just instill hand washing before eating, puppy was hard but having a dog best thing we’ve done, good luck!

WonderingWanda · 21/06/2025 07:47

Hose the grass down. Make the kids wash their hands when they come in. Humans and dogs have been cohabiting for centuries.