Dh makes no effort to take a good photo at all, to the point I very rarely ask

But they don’t need hundreds, which is what everyone has now on their phones. One or two a year would be fine, and you can get those at Christmas with family or other occasions with friends.

We’ve gone too far: it’s like people (especially young women) don’t feel they’ve experienced something unless they’ve got 30 photos and a video of it on their phone.

It's important for photos of parents, loved ones to be "banked" for children. OP could die tomorrow and her kids would be left with shit photos of their mum. That's why it is important.

There are barely any photos of me with my children, loads of him with them and we are now divorced so it massively enrages me that the only records I have of our kids growing up he is in most of them and I am in none. He should want to have a record of nice times you have together

I dont get what is going on why are you forcing someone to take a photo?

Are you making him take photos of you OP.? And if so why?
I dont get the reasoning behind making your H take photos of you if he doesn't want to.

Book a prof photo shoot and don't invite him

Maybe start taking photos of him the same, zoom into his nostrils, or just of his chin. He might complain and then you can ask him why it is different for him.

On the other hand can I point out that you acknowledge you give lots and he doesn't give anything so what does he bring to your relationship that is good? Maybe you can still give your all but it doesn't include him in that.

Dh many years ago looked up how to take good photos before Ds1 was born. With digital cameras and now on phones he will take several shots, we all know to move our heads slightly so that each shot is not exactly the same, he also moves the camera around for different angles. It takes seconds.

As a reminder you never know if the last photo you take or the one taken of you is the last they can ever take. People get sick, have accidents and are gone, forever. Video people to capture their voice or narrate your own.

Don’t take any with him in. Or take some unflattering ones and share them widely. He’s taking you for granted.

Same here, but I’ve never asked him to take a photo of me! I’m sure he’d oblige if I asked to be fair but I don’t like posed photos, prefer spontaneous natural ones. I did ask him to take a few of me and the dc when were on holiday recently - obviously these were posed but it feels less twatty when it’s a family
shot than if it were just a posed one of me somehow 😂 I’m not a natural in front of the camera though, very awkward so I’m not about to start asking him to take any of me unless my dc are also in it!

Sorry he’s not been cooperative for you though op, you’ve actually asked and he’s been a dick about it. It’s not like you’re asking him to create a bloody oil painting of you, dedicating hours of his life to it - it’s literally a 2 second job to get a decent snap on a phone camera.

My Dh is an actual photographer with a variety of cameras and still 90% of the photos he takes of me i look demented in.
Granted he's not a portrait photographer but honestly would it kill him to have a proper go?
I take lovely pictures of him and the kids all the time. They are gonna think he was a single dad when they look back over the photo albums lol!!

My family were the sort for whom a photo had to have people in it (here’s us in front of a lovely view) whereas my husband’s family were the sort who took photos of the view.

Once the children were older, they would take photos of me.

haha my DH is exactly the same.

He hates having his photo taken and will often refuse unless he really can't get out of it! I think he gets embarrassed taking them or something or just doesn't value taking it. I've lost count of the number of photos that are 90% pavement and 10% me in the background or me to the far right of a photo with a bloody road sign right in the middle of the shot. I get a bit bossy when he does a photo now or I make him take loads and hope that at least one is half decent.

I have hundreds of lovely photos of DH and DD and theres maybe 5 of me and DD in existence, and she’s 11! No one even thought to take any of me and her when she was newborn and it makes me so sad, so I understand.

My DH is the same, it’s one of the few things about him that I loathe. YANBU OP. You’ll get responses here as if you’re vain and shallow and controlling - in reality, it’s just wanting the person you love and who loves you to take a minute for something that matters to you, and that will enhance your enjoyment of a moment by allowing you to relive it with a positive reminder.

DH constantly says how I’m just so good at taking photos of him and the kids - we have a thousand gorgeous photos of them, and none of me. I’m not better at taking photos, I just bother to look at what I’m taking and adjust. It’s not hard.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DLAgGAGuX5k/?igsh=a3UwOXF0cTA5MzV0

a full song all about this.

What’s a good photo? Is he expected to take a mini photo shoot every time?