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Bare minimum dog ownership

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Luggagerackistopheavy · 20/06/2025 19:08

I am a dog owner and a dog lover but as the tourists decend on my town at this time of year the appalling dog owners arrive.

Aibu to think this is bare minimum for dog ownership?

  1. If your dog doesn't have bomb proof recall keep it on a lead or a long line.
  2. Keep your dog on a lead next to roads. It's just idiotic not to even if you feel your dog is bomb proof.
  3. Do not allow your little Fluffy to approach an on lead dog without asking. Your dog might be friendly but can you guarantee that the other dog is?
  4. If your dog is off lead keep it in your sight at all times.
  5. Do not allow little Fluffy to jump up at people. If you can't stop them, get them on a lead.
  6. If your dog is playing with others for goodness sake supervise them and put a stop to it instantly if any dog appears uncomfortable or over excitable.
  7. Your dog is not well trained just because they can give a paw, do a twirl, roll over etc. Good training is about recall, focus on their owner, behaviour while meeting others and behaviour while playing, stopping when told, not jumping up, not excessive barking etc.

Aibu to think this is bare minimum dog ownership?

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HangingOver · 21/06/2025 22:34

I am bemused by owners of problem dogs who have to keep them on a lead who get upset when my non aggressive dog approaches their aggressive dog. It is not my dog that is the problem, its yours! Stay home if you can't control your dog

I don't think that's entirely fair. If my dog, who is always on lead, gets approached by an off lead Shepard or mallenois he will bark loudly but that's because he got attacked by one and is terrified of them.

LoughboroughBex · 21/06/2025 22:31

BennyBee · 20/06/2025 22:18

YABU. Around my way, most dogs are off lead in public parks and enjoy playing and chasing and sniffing each other while the owners chat or stroll. No one has ever complained except owners of aggressive dogs on leads.

My dog is not "fluffy" but is totally chill. I am bemused by owners of problem dogs who have to keep them on a lead who get upset when my non aggressive dog approaches their aggressive dog. It is not my dog that is the problem, its yours! Stay home if you can't control your dog, or put a muzzle on it.

The only time my dog is a nuisance is during the summer when people are having picnics. He loses all recall when there is a possibility of a mini sausage around. Many picknickers like to feed my dog these treats, which only makes his recall worse, so I do just keep him on a lead if there are picnics around.

If your dog is approaching on lead dogs then you clearly can’t control it so you should either put it on a lead or stay at home. You are in fact the problem.

AudHvamm · 21/06/2025 22:28

ibblebibbledibble · 21/06/2025 10:30

You’re the worst kind of dog owner.

Then I am too 😂

AudHvamm · 21/06/2025 22:27

MidnightPatrol · 21/06/2025 09:02

I appreciate that if you have a reactive dog the presence of other dogs might be an issue…

… but I don’t think the solution to that is every other dog having to be kept on a lead, not being able to sniff other dogs etc. They are ultimately dogs and they need freedom to be a dog.

If your dog is very reactive and unable to cope, I think the solution to that is walking your dog somewhere you won’t see other dog walkers.

I live somewhere with a lot of dogs (and a lot of visitors with dogs) and I can’t think of the last time I saw any dubious dog/owner behaviour when out walking.

I agree with you. Dogs are social creatures and the anxiety around letting them interact doesn't want to allow for that. I think it's heightened since the pandemic, the dogs picked up all the awkwardness and sadly some have become more reactive.

Stellaris22 · 21/06/2025 22:07

BennyBee · 21/06/2025 21:59

You are the worst kind of human being, judgemental and full of hate for other people going about their lives, normally.

All the dog owners where I live are friendly and enjoy the interaction between their dogs. I am sorry that your life has made you so sour and bitter.

This. Where I am dogs play and interact, share treats and have a great time. They welcome new digs and puppies.

Dogs are sociable animals, if you don’t like this spare a dog a lonely life and don’t get one.

OonaStubbs · 21/06/2025 22:04

The sooner the owning of pet dogs is banned, the better. They cause nothing but misery and conflict.

BennyBee · 21/06/2025 21:59

ibblebibbledibble · 21/06/2025 10:30

You’re the worst kind of dog owner.

You are the worst kind of human being, judgemental and full of hate for other people going about their lives, normally.

All the dog owners where I live are friendly and enjoy the interaction between their dogs. I am sorry that your life has made you so sour and bitter.

Whatveudone4melately · 21/06/2025 16:54

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 21/06/2025 06:30

Agree. When they yell "they're friendly!!" I always wonder why are they telling me that?

The reason they're yelling that to me that is because the alternative (recalling their dog) won't work.

That’s why my reply is “I don’t care. Get your dog away from me and under control.”

Last said to my neighbour as her dog prepared to jump on me for the second day in a row.

Bigoldtable · 21/06/2025 13:39

SweetLathyrus · 21/06/2025 12:13

@BennyBee , you are SO wrong. What you have there is a dog with no manners who should under no circumstances be approaching a dog who is under control on a lead.

If a dog is on a lead because it is reactive, the owner is being responsible and protecting your dog as well as theirs.

Like @Bigoldtable 's dogs, mine return to me if they see another dog approaching. I have one who is friendly, but mostly prefers sniffing and exploring to other dogs, and one who is reactive sometimes, but I always assume he will be so he is on a lead around other dogs. He is reactive because he was attacked and subsequently, I can't persuade him 'friendly' dogs are safe if they won't read his body language and leave him alone.

Totally agree. I have one that is reactive due to his life before we adopted him, so he’s always on lead. At home, I can introduce any dog with no problem because he will follow my lead but when we are out and someone’s dog comes running up to him? He hates it and he will react. He is under control, the other dog is not. And you are exactly right, these are excitable dogs who don’t read his body language. What the “oh he’s friendly” brigade really mean is “he doesn’t come back because I haven’t bothered to train him”.

Luggagerackistopheavy · 21/06/2025 13:34

ibblebibbledibble · 21/06/2025 10:30

You’re the worst kind of dog owner.

This!

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redboxer321 · 21/06/2025 13:29

ibblebibbledibble · 21/06/2025 10:30

You’re the worst kind of dog owner.

Yep.

Luggagerackistopheavy · 21/06/2025 13:23

GanninHyem · 21/06/2025 10:34

I am a dog owner and a dog lover but as the tourists decend on my town at this time of year the appalling dog owners arrive.

Where is this mythical magical town where all the dog owners are top notch and you're only affected when the disgusting tourists hit??

Edited

I didn't say every local was a wonderful owner but there's a marked difference when the tourists decend.

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Luggagerackistopheavy · 21/06/2025 13:19

ItDoesntHaveToBeASnowman · 21/06/2025 10:08

Why do people always describe recall as having to be “bomb proof”? Always with the bomb proof. Are there no other adjectives? You hardly hear bomb proof used for anything else.

Why does it matter?

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intrepidpanda · 21/06/2025 12:57

Perhaps we should just rethink if people need to be owning pets.

SweetLathyrus · 21/06/2025 12:13

BennyBee · 20/06/2025 22:18

YABU. Around my way, most dogs are off lead in public parks and enjoy playing and chasing and sniffing each other while the owners chat or stroll. No one has ever complained except owners of aggressive dogs on leads.

My dog is not "fluffy" but is totally chill. I am bemused by owners of problem dogs who have to keep them on a lead who get upset when my non aggressive dog approaches their aggressive dog. It is not my dog that is the problem, its yours! Stay home if you can't control your dog, or put a muzzle on it.

The only time my dog is a nuisance is during the summer when people are having picnics. He loses all recall when there is a possibility of a mini sausage around. Many picknickers like to feed my dog these treats, which only makes his recall worse, so I do just keep him on a lead if there are picnics around.

@BennyBee , you are SO wrong. What you have there is a dog with no manners who should under no circumstances be approaching a dog who is under control on a lead.

If a dog is on a lead because it is reactive, the owner is being responsible and protecting your dog as well as theirs.

Like @Bigoldtable 's dogs, mine return to me if they see another dog approaching. I have one who is friendly, but mostly prefers sniffing and exploring to other dogs, and one who is reactive sometimes, but I always assume he will be so he is on a lead around other dogs. He is reactive because he was attacked and subsequently, I can't persuade him 'friendly' dogs are safe if they won't read his body language and leave him alone.

Loopylouloves · 21/06/2025 11:40

Im currently at work in a very touristy area, its been interesting sitting here watching the dogs that are taking their owners for a walk, the occasional dog shouting match usually started by a tiny dog. But whats annoyed me more are the amount of dogs clearly struggling in the heat, walking very slowly and being told off by owners. One just plopped itself on the pavement and refused to move, resulting in the owner trying to drag it along. Its very sunny and hot here, no dog should out in it.

Cherrypies · 21/06/2025 11:21

Luggagerackistopheavy · 21/06/2025 06:26

It's not your dog that's the problem here, it's you. Never let your dog approach a dog on a lead. You have no idea what that dog has been through, whether it's reactive or not or why.

Totally agree with this, my dog is reactive to other dogs, she is kept on a lead, loose bad mannered dogs are a constant stress to her and me. I always try to take her in quiet times, and if I see an unleashed dog, go in another direction, but it does not always work, if the dog still comes up to us, I always say she is not friendly, some owners get their dogs, others just look at me.
She is getting old now, I dread her coming into contact with a younger, fitter dog, that if she snaps at it, and it attacks back, and really hurts her.
She and me are entitled to a peaceful walk, not approached by dogs that bad owners can't or won't recall. She is a pretty dog, and looks so inoffensive and even wags her tail, then gets the hump and snaps, I know this, others don't.

witwatwoo · 21/06/2025 10:38

Stellaris22 · 21/06/2025 10:34

I’ll add that in this heat I’d hope that people aren’t taking their dogs out, especially in the middle of the day.

We’re going to the reservoir so they can swim

Stellaris22 · 21/06/2025 10:38

Allowing dogs to greet each other needs to be normalised, they’re sociable animals. There seems to a weird fear of it here. If you let your dog be off lead then that’s a signal to other dog owners (myself included) that greeting is ok.

Im sorry if you have a reactive/aggressive dog, but please muzzle it. Responsibility goes both ways. I won’t let my dog approach on lead dogs without permission, but if you know your dog will bite then it needs to be muzzled.

GanninHyem · 21/06/2025 10:34

I am a dog owner and a dog lover but as the tourists decend on my town at this time of year the appalling dog owners arrive.

Where is this mythical magical town where all the dog owners are top notch and you're only affected when the disgusting tourists hit??

Stellaris22 · 21/06/2025 10:34

I’ll add that in this heat I’d hope that people aren’t taking their dogs out, especially in the middle of the day.

ibblebibbledibble · 21/06/2025 10:30

BennyBee · 20/06/2025 22:18

YABU. Around my way, most dogs are off lead in public parks and enjoy playing and chasing and sniffing each other while the owners chat or stroll. No one has ever complained except owners of aggressive dogs on leads.

My dog is not "fluffy" but is totally chill. I am bemused by owners of problem dogs who have to keep them on a lead who get upset when my non aggressive dog approaches their aggressive dog. It is not my dog that is the problem, its yours! Stay home if you can't control your dog, or put a muzzle on it.

The only time my dog is a nuisance is during the summer when people are having picnics. He loses all recall when there is a possibility of a mini sausage around. Many picknickers like to feed my dog these treats, which only makes his recall worse, so I do just keep him on a lead if there are picnics around.

You’re the worst kind of dog owner.

WutheringTights · 21/06/2025 10:23

As we’re dog bashing today, can I put in a plea on behalf of the well behaved dogs please? Please don’t approach someone else’s dog. Recall training for mine was set back by months because of people calling him over and giving him treats. Getting him to ignore picnickers was so much harder after a few encouraged him and gave him food. It wasn’t so bad when he was a cute little puppy but no one wants a massive smelly dog sniffing around their picnic. Just leave other peoples dogs alone!

echt · 21/06/2025 10:12

If your dog doesn't have bomb proof recall keep it on a lead or a long line

@Luggagerackistopheavy No dog is bombproof - look at the word. Are you bombproof? Your children? Any human you know? In any situation, especially where food is involved, loads of dogs will be off the chain.

Remember those horses running round London last year? Was anyone calling for them to be better-trained? They are animals.

Recall is reasonable thing but in actual cases would always be tested individually. I'm in Australia, where all dogs have to be on-leash except in designated areas and recall is expected, but all infringements are individually argued.

Thelnebriati · 21/06/2025 10:11

Every dog owner should have third party liability insurance.
If you own a bull breed you should have a break stick with you at all times.