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To ask my toddler to be quiet while the baby is sleeping?

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postmanshere · 20/06/2025 17:32

Please be kind, trying to navigate this. My 3 year old is loud. All the time. Especially when she plays. I have a 5 week old who is constantly being woken up by her. I feel mean telling her to be quiet because she’s just being a kid and she didn’t ask to have to share her space with a baby. But it’s exhausting consistently having to put the baby back to sleep after she’s woken up 30 seconds after I put her down. And telling the toddler to be quiet every two minutes, only for her to have a tantrum over it. Is it unreasonable to request quiet?

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PinotDragon86 · 20/06/2025 17:36

Nah get your toddler to keep playing, babies who need silence to sleep are harder to get to sleep and stay sleeping. The best piece of advice a friend gave me when I was pregnant was be noisy when they're sleeping so they get used to it, my now 5yo will sleep through a rock band.

Poopeepoopee · 20/06/2025 17:35

Is it unreasonable to request quiet?

I think it is from a toddler to be fair.

Can the toddler have her nap at the same time as the baby?

Honestly, I think you're gonna have to suck this one up.

Mrsttcno1 · 20/06/2025 17:35

It’s a hard situation and depends what you mean by noise really. Kids don’t play silently, especially not 3 year olds. Asking for a few mins of peace is doable but expecting a 3 year old to be quiet for the entire duration of a 5 week olds nap isn’t realistic.