‘Don’t splash me!’

I’m team DH on this one. I’d be inclined to snap at someone splashing cold water at me, because as he said it’s an unpleasant shock. Kids can very much learn to ask before splashing.

And the rule in our house is you only comment on driving if it’s life or death. If you don’t like the way someone drives, then you drive. While I don’t shout in this scenario, I might snap and I have been known to pull up and insist we swap drivers, as my driving is fine even if it’s not the way someone else would do it.

And provided he wasn’t talking over your conversation with DD, a beach trip is a perfectly appropriate time to discuss life admin.

Oh, and for the benefit of PP, I am a woman so this has nothing to do with being a man.

The quicker you get into the water the quicker you’ll acclimatise! And then the splashing won’t matter!

Goodness, such preciousness.

Sound like he is not enjoying the holiday

That's silly.

Lots of people love swimming with their kids, but when you've only just got in and are acclimatising to the cold water, it's fine to tell them not to splash you.

It's perfectly fine not to want to be splashed.

Is he like this often or was he having a really bad day? I think that’s key. If he gets bad tempered occasionally then, even though it’s still unpleasant, I’d just ignore it. If it’s frequent then that’s a different matter.

Jesus, if you don’t like being splashed don’t go to the beach or pool with kids!

OP said he was going slightly fast. I want to know if she means faster than the road conditions allow. If so then she was right to ask him to be careful.

It's not part of being a man.

We don't know if the man snapped at OP, just that he said she doesn't need to tell him how to drive, which is correct.

Not everyone likes being splashed. Plenty of people detest back seat drivers. Is there a drip feed coming?

I absolutely hate being splashed. I've always shut it down when my children have done it.

I'm also not sure what is wrong with him chatting to you about practical stuff because you're looking at the sea.

Getting angry about the driving comment isn't hreat, but is that something you do frequently?

The splashing and talking about insurance are complete non events.

The snapping about the bloke in the road was OTT.

OK, so that doesn't seem like the end of the world to me. He doesn't like the feeling of being splashed, he was a bit snappy, and then he explained why he overreacted.

I would find it incredibly irritating if you were doing your anxious backseat driver act in the car with me, especially if I was already a bit stressed because I had a child the car flapping about needing a poo. It's quite draining having someone fretting and being panicky and acting like you can't do simple things without them issuing you instructions.

The mention of insurance payments - mildly irritating, but not really anything I'd be overly bothered about. It presumably just popped into his mind for some reason and he mentioned it because it was in his head.

To be honest, I think he sounds a bit tense with a lot on on his mind and you sound a bit over-sensitive/over-anxious so I think this is really just six of one, half a dozen of the other. Four days is obviously a shortish break and maybe it just isn't enough time for him to wind down and leave the stresses of daily life behind.

Unless, obviously, there's going to be a massive drip feed in which you reveal that he also locks your child in a cupboard, refuses to let you leave the house without his permission calls you both a pair of cunts on the regular.

"It's part of being a man" 🤔😀
It isn't. It's part of being an unreasonable human being.

What awful things did he say? How often is he angry? What's the insurance bit in the post about? (Sorry, found it hard to follow the post)

The splash thing seems fairly normal, no one wants to have cold water kicked on them.

What's funny?

The splashing thing - I think that's OK, as long as he apologised for snapping.

Chatting about non-holiday stuff on holiday - totally fine. Obviously not for the duration, but it's hard to switch from work/admin/home/family to full on Cliff Richard summer holiday in a day or two.

he gets so angry and saying awful things to me and how I don’t need to tell him how to drive etc. - Not OK. It sounds like this is a pattern. Your child needing to go to the toilet is no reason for driving too fast, but his response to you asking him to be careful should not be to get angry and say awful things to you.

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Sorry, but that's such a ridiculous thing to say 🤣🤣🤣

He shouldn't have done any of these things, but in my experience, a lot of men are like this.

I am starting to think that it is part of being a man bc I see it so often,

It is very sad.

He sounds like he has no problem taking out his frustrations on a small girl and her mother.

Neither you or your DD should accept treatment like this, she is just a baby having fun, no need to shout at her fgs.